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09-06-2004, 11:17 AM
Story Nr. 1 = Title: Playing with Stones

Moral of the story is the key

There is a Fisherman. Let's call him Vishy (rhymes with Fishy ;-))

Vishy goes out fishing each morning, casts his net and gathers his catch and sells them in the market and makes a living out of it. On one occasion he gets up too early and sleep eludes him. So he decides to go fishing any way. It's too dark to go fishing. So he strolls by the Bank of the River and waits for the Sun to appear he stumbles upon a sack.

This sack is a bit heavy and there were some pebbles in it. Now, when you have a river and a sack of pebbles and a lot of time to kill, the logical thing to do is to throw the pebbles into the river Vishy did just the same. He tried all the things we do Throwing it as far as possible, as high as possible, make the pebbles bounce as many times an possible.... Now with just one stone remaining, the sun rose. The stone in his hand began to glow as well.

Damn! The stone was a diamond !!!!

That's when he realized that all those pebbles he had thrown away were actually Precious Stones !!!

End of Story !! Moral is .....











Don't wake up too early. You'll mess up your day! Sleep well :)

Coutesy: Thoughts of minds

09-06-2004, 01:05 PM
:ee: innikku naan late'a thaan ezhunthen. Lets see how my day goes :think:

09-06-2004, 01:57 PM
Don't wake up too early. You'll mess up your day! Sleep well Very Happy

Athu ennanne theriyalai... nethu oru pennai paarthen... athukku apparam sleepe illai... thirumba paarpenaannu theriyalai... neenga sollarathai vechu paarthaal thirumba paaka mudiyaathu pola (athuthaan ozhunga thoongaliye) :ahha:

09-07-2004, 10:55 AM
Todays Update:

Dear friends,
Eagles were the symbol of almost all conquerors be it Caesar or Hitler. The reason is!! Read on.....

Inspiration on the "7 Principles of an Eagle" Author Dr. Myles Monroe
1. Eagles fly alone at a high altitude and not with sparrows or mix with other smaller birds like geese. Birds of a feather flock together. No other bird goes to the height of the eagle. Eagles fly with eagles. Never in a flock. Even when Moses (Old Testament Bible) went to commune with God on the mountain, he left the crowd at the foothills.

Stay away from sparrows and ravens. Eagles fly with eagles.

2. Eagles have strong vision, which focuses up to 5 kilometers from the air.When an eagle sites prey- even a rodent from this distance, he narrows his focus on it and sets out to get it. No matter the obstacle, the eagle will not move his focus from the prey until he grabs it.

Have a vision and remain focused no matter what the obstacle and you will succeed.

3. Eagles do not eat dead things. He feeds on fresh prey. Vultures eat dead animals but not eagles.

Steer clear of outdated and old information. Do your research well always.

4. The Eagle is the only bird that loves the storm. When clouds gather, the eagles get excited. The eagle uses the wings of the storm to rise and is pushed up higher. Once it finds the wing of the storm, the eagle stops flapping and uses the pressure of the raging storm to soar the clouds and glide. This gives the eagle an opportunity to rest its wings. In the meantime all the other birds hide in the leaves and branches of the trees.

We can use the storms of our lives (obstacles, trouble, etc) to rise to greater heights. Achievers relish challenges and use them profitably.

5. The Eagle tests before it trusts. When a female eagle meets a male and they want to mate, she flies down to earth with the male pursuing her and she picks a twig. She flies back into the air with the male pursuing her. Once she has reached a height high enough for her, she lets the twig fall to the ground and watches it as it falls. The male chases after the twig. The faster it falls, the faster he chases until he reaches it and has to catch it before it falls to the ground, then bring it back to the female eagle. The female eagle grabs the twig and flies to a much higher altitude pursued by the male until she perceives it high enough, and then drops the twig for the male to chase. This goes on for hours, with the height increasing until the female eagle is assured that the male eagle has mastered the art of picking the twig which shows commitment.

Whether in private life or in business, one should test commitment of people intended for partnership.

6. Eagles prepare for training. When about to lay eggs, the female and male eagle identify a place very high on a cliff where no predators can reach; the male flies to earth and picks thorns and lays them on the crevice of the cliff, then flies to earth again to collect twigs which he lays in the intended nest. He flies back to earth picks thorns and lays them on top of the twigs. He flies back to earth and picks soft grass to cover the thorns, and then flies back to pick rugs to put on the grass. When this first layering is complete the male eagle runs back to earth and picks more thorns, lays them on the nest; runs back to get grass and rugs and lays them on top of the thorns, then plucks his feathers to complete the nest. The thorns on the outside of the nest protect it from possible intruders. Bothmale and female eagles participate in raising the eagle family. She lays the eggs and protects them; he builds the nest and hunts. During the time of training the young ones to fly, the mother eagle throws the eaglets out of the nest and because they are scared, they jump into the nest again.

Next, she throws them out and then takes off the soft layers of the nest, leaving the thorns bare. When the scared eaglets jump into the nest again, they are pricked by thorns. Shrieking and bleeding they jump out again this time wondering why the mother and father who love them so much are torturing them. Next, mother eagle pushes them off the cliff into the air. As they shriek in fear, father eagle flies out and picks them up on his back before they fall, and brings them back to the cliff. This goes on for sometime until they start flapping their wings.

They get excited at this newfound knowledge that they can fly and not fall at such a fast rate. The father and mother eagle supports them with their wings. The preparation of the nest teaches us to prepare for changes; The preparation for the family teaches us that active participation of both partners leads to success; The being pricked by the thorns tells us that sometimes being too comfortable where we are may result into our not experiencing life, not progressing and not learning at all.

The thorns of life come to teach us that we need to grow, get out of the nest and love on. We may not know it but the seemingly comfortable and safe haven may have thorns; The people who love us do not let us languish in sloth but push us hard to grow and prosper. Even in their seemingly bad actions they have good intentions for us.

7. When the Eagle grows old, his feathers become weak and cannot take him as fast as he should. When he feels weak and about to die, he retires to a place far away in the rocks. While there, he plucks out every feather on his body until he is completely bare. He stays in this hiding place until he has grown new feathers, then he can come out.

We occasionally need to shed off old habits & items that burden us add no value to our lives.

Have a nice day.

09-08-2004, 10:39 AM
Todays Update:

Dear friends,
Something good to read here... It is really realted to attitude of Winners and Losers.

Winners have dreams; Losers have schemes.
Winners see the grains; Losers see the pain.
Winners see the potential; Losers see the past.
Winners make it happen; Losers let it happen.
Winners see possibilities; Losers see problems.
Winners makes commitments; Losers makes promises.
Winners are a part of the team; Losers are apart from the team.
Winner always has a programme; Loser always has an excuse.
Winner says "Let me do it for you"; Loser says "That is not my job".
Winners say "I must do something"; Losers say "Something must be done".
Winner is always a part of the answer; Loser is always a part of the problem.
Winner sees an answer for every problem; Loser sees a problem for every answer.
Winners believe in win/win; Loser believe for them to win, someone has to lose.
Winner says "It may be difficult but it is possible"; Loser says "It may be possible but it is too difficult".
Winner makes a mistake,he says "I was wrong"; Loser makes a mistake, he says "It wasn't my fault".

So, please characterise yourself as a WINNER, not a loser !!!

Have a nice day.

09-08-2004, 11:48 AM
GGG, story was good and I was scrolling down eagerly to see the moral .Yeah it's true. Anyway I'm sleeping too much always . :ee:

09-08-2004, 05:15 PM
good story to support my laziness...whoo :D

09-08-2004, 06:25 PM
Hey GGG, nice work Dude :b: I liked the Eagle story. Nice to read it. Just summarizing all the morals

1. Stay away from sparrows and ravens. Eagles fly with eagles.
2. Have a vision and remain focused no matter what the obstacle and you will succeed.
3. Steer clear of outdated and old information. Do your research well always.
4. We can use the storms of our lives (obstacles, trouble, etc) to rise to greater heights. Achievers relish challenges and use them profitably.
5. Whether in private life or in business, one should test commitment of people intended for partnership.
6. The thorns of life come to teach us that we need to grow, get out of the nest and love on. We may not know it but the seemingly comfortable and safe haven may have thorns; The people who love us do not let us languish in sloth but push us hard to grow and prosper. Even in their seemingly bad actions they have good intentions for us.
7. We occasionally need to shed off old habits & items that burden us add no value to our lives.

Thanks for sharing it with us. Eagerly awaiting the next story :)

09-08-2004, 06:49 PM
Thanks G3 (or 3G).. !!

The eagle passage is old though.. Butterfly already posted it long while back.. :) But helps to remember.. :wink:



09-09-2004, 08:37 AM
Todays Update:

Title:Are we at the RIGHT PLACE?

Baby camels were lazing around, and suddenly the baby camel asks...

Baby: Mother, mother, can I ask you some question?
Mother: Sure! Why son, is there something bothering you?

Baby: Why do camels have humps?
Mother: Well son, we are desert animals, we need the humps to store water and we are known to survive without water.

Baby: Okay, then why are our legs long and our feet rounded?
Mother: Son, obviously they are meant for walking in the desert. You know with these legs I can move around the desert better than anyone! Said the mother proudly.

Baby: Okay, then why are our eye lashes long? Sometimes it is bothering my sight.
Mother: My son, those long thick eye lashes are your protective cover. They help to protect your eyes from the desert sand and wind. Said mother camel with eyes brimming with pride.

Baby: I see. So the hump is to store water when we are in the desert, the legs are for walking through the desert and these eye lashes protect my eyes from the desert. Then what the hell are we doing here in the ZOO???

Moral of the story is:


Have a nice day.

09-09-2004, 05:49 PM
Baby: I see. So the hump is to store water when we are in the desert, the legs are for walking through the desert and these eye lashes protect my eyes from the desert. Then what the hell are we doing here in the ZOO???

I like this question. Used to wonder, what the heck am I doing here in this job. When I have so many other better things to do. But we do have other external factors, which decide, where we have to be and what we have to be.

09-10-2004, 06:48 AM
Todays Update:

Dear friends,
Everything we need to know about life, we should learn from Noah's Ark...

One : Don't miss the boat.
Two : Remember that we are all in the same boat.
Three : Plan ahead. It wasn't raining when Noah built the Ark.
Four : Stay fit. When you're 60 years old, someone may ask you to do something really big.
Five : Don't listen to critics; just get on with the job that needs to be done.
Six : Build your future on high ground.
Seven : For safety's sake, travel in pairs.
Eight : Speed isn't always an advantage. The snails were on board with the cheetahs.
Nine : When you're stressed, float a while.
Ten : Remember, the Ark was built by amateurs; the Titanic by professionals.

Have a nice day and nice week end.

09-10-2004, 02:19 PM
Hey GGG, enga pudikureenga unga stories'a? Some of them are heard before, but its good to see it back :) Thanks for sharing it with us dude :b:

09-13-2004, 12:11 PM
Todays Update:

An interesting reality, and try first to decide and then read the answer. Read this carefully. The story given below is quite interesting and really gives us an insight into DECISION MAKING.

Which one will you choose?
A group of children were playing near two railway tracks, one still in use while the other disused. Only one child played on the disused track, the rest on the operational track. The train came, and you were just beside the track interchange.

You could make the train change its course to the disused track and saved most of the kids. However, that would also mean the lone child playing by the disused track would be sacrificed. Or would you rather let the train go its way?

Let's take a pause to think what kind of decision we could make.... No cheating... Think and reflect. Go ahead ???????????? and now read.

Most people might choose to divert the course of the train, and sacrifice only one child. You might think the same way, I guess. Exactly, I thought the same way initially because to save most of the children at the expense of only one child was rational decision most people would make, morally and emotionally.

But, have you ever thought that the child choosing to play on the disused track had in fact made the right decision to play at a safe place? Nevertheless, he had to be sacrificed because of his ignorant friends who chose to play where the danger was.
This kind of dilemma happens around us everyday.

In the office, community, in politics and especially in a democratic society, the minority is often sacrificed for the interest of the majority, no matter how foolish or ignorant the majority are, and how farsighted and knowledgeable the minority are.

The child who chose not to play with the rest on the operational track was sidelined. And in the case he was sacrificed, no one would shed a tear for him.

The friend who forwarded me the story said he would not try to change the course of the train because he believed that the kids playing on the operational track should have known very well that track was still in use, and that they should have run away if they heard the train's sirens.

If the train was diverted, that lone child would definitely die because he never thought the train could come over to that track! Moreover, that track was not in use probably because it was not safe. If the train was diverted to the track, we could put the lives of all passengers on board at stake!

And in your attempt to save a few kids by sacrificing one child, you might end up sacrificing hundreds of people to save these few kids.

While we are all aware that life is full of tough decisions that need to be made, we may not realize that hasty decisions may not always be the right one.

"Remember that what's right isn't always popular... and what's popular isn't always right." Everybody makes mistakes; that's why they put erasers on pencils.

Have a nice day and nice week ahead.

09-14-2004, 04:36 AM
Indha storya ippo dhaan Geethamla padicchen. But any how nice to see it again

09-14-2004, 04:37 AM
Oh! Sorry GGG!. Ongaloda dhaan naan padicchennu nenaikkaren

09-14-2004, 04:47 AM
I will agree with your friend. I will not divert the train because just for saving few kids life we cannot take life of hundreds of people to task since the train going in unused track is not safe. But ofcourse it is a very complicated.

09-14-2004, 07:28 AM
Todays Update:


What do we do, generally, when we want to get something done or when we want to get rid of something? We vow not to do that and we think that the very act of taking a vow will help us in reaching our goal. We believe it will help us turn over a new leaf and we think it will help us live life afresh. But we forget that taking a vow is nothing but an embodiment of sheer unconsciousness; in fact, it is quite an unintelligent act.

When we vow not to do something, it means we have not understood the issue — it simply means we are unconscious at that level. The act of taking a vow gives the message that we have not realised the things at the core of our heart. So taking a vow is nothing but an act of repression or suppression.

When we repress something, it becomes an obsession and obsession poisons our life. When we repress something, it goes into our unconsciousness and disturbs the very equilibrium, leaving us in deep misery. That’s why the Buddha stressed consciousness. "Be conscious", he said.

Pythagoras speaks the same language. He says not to be angry. When he forbids you to be angry, he does not mean you have to repress your anger. He says: "Don’t be angry. It mars your happiness, it makes ecstasy impossible. It leads to nothing but to utter misery". When he says don’t be angry, he is simply telling us to transcend anger. But instead of transcending it, we just repress or suppress it. And this is where we make a mistake. We end up unable to overcome anger and make our lives miserable. Repression is no solution, it cannot be. On the contrary, we will have to understand anger; we will have to watch anger. In watching is transcendence. "Watchfulness is the greatest magic that one can learn, because it can begin the transformation of your whole being. It is only through watchfulness that resurrection happens... you are reborn", said Acharya Rajneesh (Osho).

"If you repress anger, the anger goes into your unconsciousness; you become more and more poisoned. It is not good, it is not healthy; it is going to drive you neurotic sooner or later. And one day or the other, the accumulated anger will explode and that will be far more dangerous because then it will be absolutely uncontrollable by you. You will not be able even to be conscious of what you are doing", said Osho.

Transcendence is a totally different process, it is an art; it is by itself an art of living. Transcendence is the highest stage of silence where supreme realisation is possible. Osho said: "In transcendence, you do not repress anger and you don’t express it either". You know only two ways to deal with anger: _expression or repression. And the real way to deal with it is neither. The approach of all the enlightened people of the world is to neither express nor repress, but to watch silently. When anger arises, sit silently, let the anger surround you in your inner world, let the cloud surround you, be a silent watcher.

Buddha has said that when anger arises, listen to it, listen to its message. Keep alert, don’t fall asleep. Keep alert that anger is surrounding you. You will then come to realise that you are not it, but you are the watcher of it. That’s maturity and therein lies the key to overcoming anger.

Osho said that maturity has a fragrance. It lends tremendous beauty to the individual. It gives intelligence, the sharpest possible intelligence. It makes the individual nothing but love.

09-14-2004, 07:46 AM
Enna GGG! Dhidirnu bhakthi paravasam jasthi aayidutthu ungalukku!

09-15-2004, 10:37 AM
Today's Update

A kindergarten teacher has decided to let her class play a game. The teacher told each child in the class to bring along a plastic bag containing a few potatoes. Each potato will be given a name of a person that the child hates, so the number of potatoes that a child will put in his/her plastic bag will depend on the number of people he/she hates.

So when the day came, every child brought some potatoes with the name of the people he/she hated. Some had 2 potatoes; some 3 while some up to 5 potatoes.

The teacher then told the children to carry with them the potatoes in the plastic bag wherever they go for a week.

Days after days passed by, and the children started to complain due to the unpleasant smell let out by the rotten potatoes. Besides, those having 5 potatoes also had to carry heavier bags.

After a week, the children were relieved because the game had finally ended.

The teacher asked: "How did you feel while carrying the potatoes with you for a week?" The children let out their frustrations and started complaining of the trouble that they had to go through having to carry the heavy and smelly potatoes wherever they go.

Then the teacher told them the hidden meaning behind the game.

The teacher said: "This is exactly the situation when you carry your hatred for somebody inside your heart. The stench of hatred will contaminate your heart and you will carry it with you wherever you go. If you cannot tolerate the smell of rotten potatoes for just a week, can you imagine what is it like to have the stench of hatred in your heart for your lifetime???"

Moral of the story:

Throw away any hatred for anyone from your heart so that you will not carry sins for a life time. Forgiving others is the best attitude to take!

09-15-2004, 02:43 PM
Throw away any hatred for anyone from your heart so that you will not carry sins for a life time. Forgiving others is the best attitude to take!

nice thought for the day. Thanks G3.

09-16-2004, 01:48 AM
Real thought provoking stories...Thanks :b:

09-16-2004, 10:34 AM
Today's Update

- Never laugh at anyone's dreams.
- Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
- Someone will always be looking at you as an example of how to behave. Don't let him/her down.
- Once in a while, invite the person behind you in the queue to go ahead of you.
- Buy ladders, extension cords and garden hoses longer than you think you'll need.
- Never marry a woman you love. Marry the woman who loves you.
- Ask anyone giving directions to repeat them atleast twice.
- Rehearse a joke before telling it.
- Accept a breath mint if someone offers you one.
- Over-estimate travel time by fifteen minutes.
- Give people more than they expect, and do it cheerfully.
- Don't be so concerned with your rights that you forget your manners.
- Don't dismiss a good idea simply because you don't like the source.
- Put the strap around your neck before looking through binoculars.
- Trust in God, but lock your car.
- Pray. There is immeasurable power in it.
- Brush your teeth before putting on your tie.
- Never say anything uncomplimentary about your wife or children in the presence of others.
- When you say "I am sorry" look the person in the eye.
- No matter how old you get, hug your mother.
- Remember that everyone is influenced by kindness.
- Never be the first to break a family tradition (as far as possible).
- Do your homework and know your facts, but remember its passion that persuades.
- When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and say, "why do you want to know?"
- Be friendly to the janitor as you are to the chairman of the board.
- Be bold. Providence loves boldness and will assist you in ways you wouldn't imagine.
- Never take anybody for granted and never let anybody take you for granted.
- Never say NO to life.
- When it comes to worrying or painting a picture, know when to stop.
- Remember that no time spent with your children is ever wasted.
- Hold your childs hand every chance you get. The time will come when he/she won't let you.

09-17-2004, 10:53 AM
Today's Update

Topic: Are you a REASON, a SEASON or a LIFETIME Friend?

Friendship for a *REASON*

When someone is in your life comes for a REASON. . . It is usually to meet a need you have experienced. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at any inconvenient time, this friend will say or do something to bring the friendship to an end. Sometimes they walk away without saying anything. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on...

Friendship for a *SEASON*

Then friends come into your life for a SEASON. Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done before. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. The Seasonal Friends are just like "SPRING" in which flowers blossom and after a lot of fun k joys, the time is there for the departure of the season. Once they are lost in the crowded world it is rare to meet them again but it happens if we have true desire for that season...

Friendship for a *LIFETIME*

LIFETIME Friendships teach you lifetime lessons things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other Friendships and areas of your life.

Lifetime Friendships occurs rarely and it is hard to keep up but lifetime friends are a gift from god to someone special. For Lifetime friendships it is said that

"Love is blind but Lifetime Friendships are clairvoyant."

Have a nice day and nice weekend.

09-17-2004, 06:19 PM
Wow....GGG...some good stories and morals you have posted....thanks for these!!! :sm08: Seems as you have many like these hidden up your sleeves....keep them coming...they're real interesting to read...!!! :b:

09-20-2004, 02:02 PM
Today's Update

A water bearer in China had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole which he carried across his neck.. One of the pots had a crack in it, while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water. At the end of the long walk from the stream to the house, thecracked pot arrived only half full. For a full two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water to his house. Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments, perfect for which it was made.

But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do.

After 2 years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream. "I am ashamed of myself, and because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house." The bearer said to the pot, "Did you notice that there were flowers only on your side of the path, but not on the other pot's side? That's because I have always known about your flaw, and I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back, you've watered them.

For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table. Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house"

Moral: Each of us has our own unique flaws. We're all cracked pots. But it's the cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives together so very interesting and rewarding. You've just got to take each person for what they are, and look for the good in them.

09-21-2004, 09:24 AM
Today's Update

A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert. In a specific point of the journey, they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face.

The one, who got slapped, was hurt, but without anything to say, he wrote in the sand:

They kept on walking, until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who got slapped and hurt started drowning, and the other friend saved him. When he recovered from the fright, he wrote on a stone:

The friend who saved and slapped his best friend, asked him, "Why, after I hurt you, you wrote in the sand, and now you write on a stone?"

The other friend, smiling, replied: "When a friend hurts us, we should write it down in the sand, where the winds of forgiveness get in charge of erasing it away, and when something great happens, we should engrave it in the stone of the memory of the heart, where no wind can erase it".

In our friendships, please erase the bad moments from your mind and engrave the great moments in your heart.

09-22-2004, 11:07 AM
Today's Update

The 24 good things in your life are

1. Your presence is a present to the world
2. You're unique and one of a kind
3. Your life can be what you want it to be
4. Take the days just one at a time
5. Count your blessings, not your troubles
6. You'll make it through with whatever comes along
7. Within you are so many answers
8. Understand, have courage, be strong
9. Don't put limits on yourself
10. So many dreams are waiting to be realized
11. Decisions are too important to leave to chance
12. Reach for your peak, your goal, your prize
13. Nothing wastes more energy than worrying
14. The longer one carries a problem, the heavier it gets
15. Don't take things too seriously
16. Live a life of serenity
17. Not a life of regrets
18. Remember that a little love goes a long way
19. Remember that a lot goes for ever
20. Remember that friendship is a wise investment
21. Life's treasures are people together
22. Realize that it's never too late do ordinary things in an extraordinary way
23. Have health, hope and happiness
24. Take the time to wish upon a star


09-23-2004, 11:21 AM
Today's Update:

Each of us has a hidden place,
somewhere deep within ourselves;
A place where we go to get away,
to think things through,
to be alone, to be ourselves.

This unique place, where we confront our deepest feelings,
becomes a storehouse of all our hopes,
all our needs, all our dreams,
and even our unspoken fears.
It encompasses the essence of who we are and what we want to be.

But now and then, whether by chance or design,
someone discovers a way into that place we thought was ours alone.
And we allow that person to see, to feel and to share
all the reason, all the uncertainty
and all the emotion we've stored up there.

That person adds new perspective to our hidden realm,
then quietly settles down in his own corner of our special place,
where a bit of himself will stay forever.

And we call that person a friend.

09-24-2004, 09:05 AM
Today's Update

Each day is a step towards another
Each lie is a Sin I acquire
Each tear is from a broken heart
Each death is a road to the start

Don’t worry about the days gone
Don’t worry about living alone
Don’t worry about the people dead
Don’t worry you'll never be ahead

Truth in life we all should know
Truth of life, look for it now
Truth is life you'll soon know
Truth is summer with some snow

You have no rights to live forever
You have no rights to hurt each other
You have no rights to own your body
You have no rights to love somebody

Tears are answers to nothing
Tears they'll never wash your sin
Tears make you feel low
Tears your feelings they won't show

Truth in your heart you got to find
Truth is all around you are not blind
Truth is real like our death
Truth is eternal so is our life

Have a nice day and nice weekend.

09-30-2004, 01:57 AM
enna aachu...missing our daily thoughts to read :(

09-30-2004, 02:21 AM
Mr & Mrs GGG are on vacation, folks.. :P

Skiing in the Alps.. catching some early time on the slopes.. :wink:

Topic will resume after a week.. :)

10-01-2004, 05:01 PM
sorry guys, i was away for a week time. now i am back and so i am updating now for this whole week.


10-01-2004, 05:02 PM
Monday's Update:

To realize the value of a sister:
Ask someone who doesn't have one.

To realize the value of ten years:
Ask a newly divorced couple.

To realize the value of four years:
Ask a graduate.

To realize the value of one year:
Ask a student who has failed a final exam.

To realize the value of nine months:
Ask a mother who gave birth to a still born.

To realize the value of one month:
Ask a mother who has given birth to a premature baby.

To realize the value of one week:
Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.

To realize the value of one hour:
Ask the lovers who are waiting to Meet.

To realize the value of one minute:
Ask a person who has missed the train, bus or plane.

To realize the value of one-second:
Ask a personWho has survived an accident.

To realize the value of one millisecond:
Ask the person who has won a silver medal in the Olympics

Time waits for no one.
Treasure every moment you have.
You will treasure it even more when you can share it with someone special.

To realize the value of a friend:
Lose one.

10-01-2004, 05:02 PM
Tuesday's Update:

I asked God to take away my pain.

God said, "No".
It is not for Me to take away, but for you to give it up.

I asked God to make my handicapped child whole.

God said, "No".
His spirit is whole, his body is only temporary.

I asked God to grant me patience.

God said, "No".
Patience is a by-product of tribulations; it isn't granted, it is earned.

I asked God to give me happiness.

God said, "No".
I give you blessings, happiness is up to you.

I asked God to spare me pain.

God said, "No".
Suffering draws you apart from worldly cares and brings you closer to Me.

I asked God to make my spirit grow.

God said, "No".
You must grow on your own, but I will prune you to make you fruitful.

I asked for all things that I might enjoy life.

God said, "No".
I will give you life so that you may enjoy all things.

I asked God to help me LOVE others as much as He loves me.

God said... "Ahhh! Finally you have the idea".

I asked God to send me friends... He sent all you.

10-01-2004, 05:03 PM
Wednesday's Update

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.

Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window. The man in the other bed began to live for those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside. The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst, flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene. One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man couldn't hear the band - he could see it. In his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Days and weeks passed.

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone. Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window. The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall. She said, "Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you."

"There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations"
"Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled"
"If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can't buy"
"Today is a gift, that's why it is called the present."

10-01-2004, 05:04 PM
Thursday's Update

Your presence is a gift to the world,
You're unique and one of a kind.
Your life can be what you want it to be -
Take it one day at a time.

Count your blessings, not your troubles,
And you'll make it through what comes along.
Within you are so many answers,
Understand, have courage, be strong.

Don't put limits on yourself,
Your dreams are waiting to be realized.
Don't leave your important decisions to chance -
Reach for your peak, your goal, and your prize.

Nothing wastes more energy than worrying -
The longer a problem is carried, the heavier it gets.
Don't take things too seriously -
Live a life of serenity, not a life of regrets.

Remember that a little love goes a long way -
Remember that a lot goes forever.
Remember that friendship is a wise investment,
Life's treasures are people... together.

Have health and hope and happiness,
Take the time to wish on a star.
And don't ever forget for even a day...
How very special YOU are!

10-01-2004, 05:05 PM
Today's Update

Have you ever tried thinking: "What gives success in life?" Here is the formula for success.

A small truth to make our life 100% successful: If
A,B,C,D,E,F,G,H,I,J ,K ,L ,M ,N ,O ,P ,Q ,R ,S ,T ,U ,V ,W ,X ,Y ,Z is equal to
1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10,11,12,13, 14,15,16,17,18,19,20,21,22,23, 24,25,26.

Then, H+A+R+D+W+O+R+K = 8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11 = 98%
Then, K+N+O+W+L+E+D+G+E = 11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5 =96%
Then, L+O+V+E = 12+15+22+5 = 54%
Then, L+U+C+K = 12+21+3+11 = 47%

Then what makes Life 100% Successful?
Is it Money?.................No

Every problem has a solution, only if we perhaps change our Attitude (positive). It is our Attitude towards life and work that makes our Life 100% successful. See it your self.
A+T+T+I+T+U+D+E = 1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 = 100%.

Don’t you think so now? , Think about it. Wishing you all success in Life

Have a nice day and nice weekend.

10-04-2004, 01:59 PM
Today's Update

There is a curve called failure, a loop called confusion, speed bumps called friends, caution lights called family, and you will have flats called jobs.

But, if you have a spare called determination, an engine called perseverance, insurance called faith, and a driver called God, you will make it to a place called success!

10-04-2004, 02:23 PM
Hey GGG ....fantastic collections buddy :clap: ! ! Keep up the good work ! ! !

10-05-2004, 10:32 AM
Today's Update

Do good, and leave behind you a monument of virtue that the storms of time can never destroy.

Write your name in kindness, love, and mercy on the hearts of thousands you come in contact with year by year, and you will never be forgotten.

Your name and your good deeds will shine as the stars of heaven.

10-06-2004, 09:44 AM
Today's Update

* Your inner thoughts can cause you to be rich or poor, loved or unloved, happy or unhappy, attractive or unattractive, powerful or weak.

* What you impress upon your mind, you’ll inevitably become. It’s a psychological law that whatever you desire to accomplish you must first impress upon your subconscious mind.

* Relentless, repetitive self talk will change your self image. You’ll affect your subconscious mind with verbal repetition. Constant repetition carries conviction.

* When you change your values you’ll change your behavior. Start thinking of yourself as becoming the person you want to be. Self suggestion will make you the master of yourself.

* If you believe you can, you can.

* You can become whatever you want to be.

10-07-2004, 10:32 AM
Today's Update

1. For the taxes that I pay because it means that I am employed.
2. For the mess to clean after a party because it means that I have been surrounded by friends.
3. For the clothes that fit a little too snug because it means I have enough to eat.
4. For my shadow that watches me work because it means I am out in the sunshine.
5. For a floor that needs mopping, and windows that need cleaning because it means I have a home.
6. For all the complaining I hear about the government because it means that we have freedom of speech.
7. For the parking spot I find at the far end of the parking lot because it means I am capable of walking and that I have been blessed with transportation.
8. For the noise I have to bear from my neighbors because it means that I can hear.
9. For the pile of laundry and ironing because it means I have clothes to wear.
10. For weariness and aching muscles at the end of the day because it means I have been capable of working hard.
11. For the alarm that goes off in the early morning hours because it means that I am still alive.

AND FINALLY ....... for received personal and meaningful forwarded e-mails because it means I have friends who are thinking of me.

10-07-2004, 10:40 AM


Unga sevai thodara enudaya vazthukal...

oru small suggestion : todays update pakathula dateum mention panina nala irukum...ila day mention panalam

10-08-2004, 11:10 AM
Today's Update

2 Heaping cups of patience
1 Heart full of love
2 Hands full of generosity
Dash of laughter
1 Head full of understanding
Sprinkle generously with kindness
Add plenty of faith and mix well.
Spread over a period of a lifetime
And serve everyone you meet.

Have a nice weekend.

10-08-2004, 11:12 AM


Unga sevai thodara enudaya vazthukal...

oru small suggestion : todays update pakathula dateum mention panina nala irukum...ila day mention panalam

sarvnaa thanx for the suggestion. postukku mela date varudhey..adhunaala dhaan naan date ezhudhala or day ezhudhala. andha date podhadha?



10-11-2004, 03:38 AM
:clap: Awesome GGG! :clap:

What a wonderful collection of inspirational tid bits!

Loved reading them.

Ferny :b:

10-11-2004, 10:39 AM
Today's Update

* Don't love the Heart that hurts you and don't hurt the Heart that loves you.
* Don't cry over anyone who won't cry over you.
* Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave, and impossible to forget.
* Most people walk in and out of your life, but only friend's leave footprints in your heart.
* True friendship "never" ends. Friends are forever.
* People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.
* If we are incapable of finding peace in ourselves, it is pointless to search elsewhere.
* The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other's life. Rarely do members of one family grow up under the same roof.
* A change of heart changes everything.
* Our greatest glory is not in ever falling, but in rising every time we fall.
* You only live once - but if you work it right, once is enough.
* One generation plants trees, and the next enjoys the shade.
* It is difficult to live in the present, ridiculous to live in the future, and impossible to live in the past. Nothing is as far away as one minute ago.

10-12-2004, 11:22 AM
Today's Update

A simple friend has never seen you cry.
A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears.

A simple friend doesn't know your parents' first names.
A real friend has their phone numbers in his address book.

A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party.
A real friend comes early to help you cook and clean.

A simple friend hates it when you call after he has gone to bed.
A real friend asks you why you took so long to call.

A simple friend seeks to talk with you about their problems.
A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.

A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest.
A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself.

A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when you have an argument.
A real friend knows that it's not a friendship until after you've had a fight.

A simple friend expects you to always be there for them.
A real friend expects to always be there for you!

10-12-2004, 04:00 PM
Finally completed reading this.. Wanted to read this for a long time and completed it today..

Gr8 work GGG.. Some were really special.. I liked the Real life decisions post.. Its true that decisions in real life aren't straight forward..

PS: eppadi irundhuchu unga vacation.. enjoi pannengalaa.. coz, vacations are best time to hold ur kids hand (if u r married and have kids) and/or can Hug ur mother...

10-13-2004, 09:45 AM
Today's Update

* In each task that must be done, there is opportunity. See the task not as a burden, but as an encouragement to be fully alive and effective.
* The real burden would be the inability to do anything. No task is a burden, but is instead the chance to express your own aliveness.
* Does the work seem dreary, unimaginative, tedious or boring? That's mainly because your attitude makes it so.
* See what happens when you start by being thankful for the opportunity to do it. Your genuine gratitude will help you to see the positive value.
* When the things you must do become things you want to do, it can transform your life. Each moment takes on more meaning; each effort brings greater and greater reward.
* Rather than fighting and forcing yourself to do what must be done, let go of your resistance and allow yourself to accomplish. Let what you must, become what you want, and watch yourself begin to soar.

10-13-2004, 09:48 AM
PS: eppadi irundhuchu unga vacation.. enjoi pannengalaa.. coz, vacations are best time to hold ur kids hand (if u r married and have kids) and/or can Hug ur mother...

RK, officiala konjam velai irundhuchu..adhaan konjam vacation. enakku innum kalyanam agala. :D . romba ellam life pathi irukkennnu romba vasayasaanavannu ninaichuteengala.. :think:


10-14-2004, 09:16 AM
Today's Update

* Life is not a race. It is a journey.

* Getting someplace first, before anyone else, has very little real and lasting meaning. Seek instead to encourage others to come along, and you'll find the journey much more fulfilling.

* When you hurry through each moment, you miss out on the richness that could be yours. Take the time to live, to experience where you are, rather than being so obsessed with getting to the next checkpoint.

* When you stop demanding to have it all now, you'll discover that you have plenty already. Learn to experience joy where you are, and you'll experience it in abundance.

* Yes, it can be wonderfully exhilarating when life is moving quickly. But do not move so quickly that speed becomes your only experience, for there is so much more to enjoy.

* The terrain of life is filled with wonderful and astounding detail. Slow down and take in its richness.

10-15-2004, 10:30 AM
Today's Update

A student goes to Mulla Nazaruddin, a Sufi master, with a bundle of dresses, surrenders to him and says - O' divine master, I want peace, I want happiness.The master looked at him. He has left his house with only this bundle with him. Mulla slowly gets up snatches the bundle of dresses and starts running. The student is surprised. "I came in search of happiness and the master snatches my dresses and run away." The perplexed student tells himself, "Let me at least get my dresses back" and charges after him.

Mulla knows all the lanes of the town very well. He just appears and disappears and the student is very unhappy at the loss of his dresses. He was such unhappy. By coming to him, he has become more unhappy. He keeps running behind Mulla. Mulla goes all round, comes back to his original spot, keeps the bundle aside and innocently sits down.

The student comes running to him. Seeing this dangerous fellow, first thing he does is to snatch his dresses. He is so happy that he has his dresses back.


Please see, the student was unhappy when he came to Mulla. Mulla just snatched the bundle and returned it back to him. The student was happy that he had got back his dress. So what was the cause of happiness?

Logically it appears his happiness is because of the dress. But then, this bundle was with him even before it was snatched away by the master. Therefore where did the happiness come from, the dresses or from somewhere else?

Happiness has come from within and it is not because of the dresses. This is exactly how we feel in our life - that this object or that has given us happiness.

Have a nice day and nice weekend.

10-17-2004, 10:15 PM
Today's Update (18.10.2004):

They say that if you put a frog into a pot of boiling water, it will leap out right away to escape the danger.

But, if you put a frog in a kettle that is filled with water that is cool and pleasant, and then you gradually heat the kettle until it starts boiling, the frog will not become aware of the threat until it is too late.

The frog's survival instincts are geared towards detecting sudden changes.

This parable is often used to illustrate how humans have to be careful to watch slowly changing trends in the environment, not just the sudden changes. Its a warning to keep us paying attention not just to obvious threats, but to more slowly developing ones.

Have a nice day and nice week ahead.

10-18-2004, 01:17 AM
RK, officiala konjam velai irundhuchu..adhaan konjam vacation. enakku innum kalyanam agala. . romba ellam life pathi irukkennnu romba vasayasaanavannu ninaichuteengala..

Read wat vasan anna told us :D ...its all his fault :fight:

U have a good week ahead too :b:

10-18-2004, 04:19 AM
Today's Update (18.10.2004):

They say that if you put a frog into a pot of boiling water, it will leap out right away to escape the danger.

But, if you put a frog in a kettle that is filled with water that is cool and pleasant, and then you gradually heat the kettle until it starts boiling, the frog will not become aware of the threat until it is too late.

The frog's survival instincts are geared towards detecting sudden changes.

This parable is often used to illustrate how humans have to be careful to watch slowly changing trends in the environment, not just the sudden changes. Its a warning to keep us paying attention not just to obvious threats, but to more slowly developing ones.

Have a nice day and nice week ahead.

GGG! What you have told is absolutely correct. Sometimes we never recognize the dangers surrounding us until it becomes too late. This is more applicable for deadly diseases like cancer. Most of the people are not aware of the early symptoms of these diseases, and when the doctors diagnose the diseases, it becomes too late.

Each and every individual should check whether their close relatives have ever suffered from any serious ailments like heart problems, cancer etc. If they have family history, they should realize that the chances of them geting that disease is very high. They should have a periodical checkup according to their family physicians' advice.

10-18-2004, 07:53 PM
A well-known speaker started off his seminar

by holding up a $20.00 bill. In the room of 200, he asked,

"Who would like this $20 bill?"

Hands started going up.

He said, "I am going to give this $20 to one of you

but first, let me do this.

He proceeded to crumple up the $20 dollar bill.

He then asked, "Who still wants it?"

Still the hands were up in the air.

Well, he replied, "What if I do this?"

And he dropped it on the ground

and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe.

He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty.

"Now, who still wants it?"

Still the hands went into the air.

My friends, we have all learned a very valuable lesson.

No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it

because it did not decrease in value.

It was still worth $20.

Many times in our lives,

we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt

by the decisions we make and

the circumstances that come our way.

We feel as though we are worthless.

But no matter what has happened or

what will happen, you will never lose your value.

Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased,

you are still priceless to those who DO LOVE you.

The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we


but by WHO WE ARE.

You are special- Don't EVER forget it."

If you do not pass this on, you may never know the

lives it touches, the hurting hearts it speaks to,

or the hope that it can bring.

Count your blessings, not your problems.

And remember: amateurs built the ark ...

professionals built the Titanic.

If God brings you to it - He will bring you through it.


10-18-2004, 10:12 PM
Today's Update (19.10.2004):

You are the living embodiment of every joy you've ever experienced.

You are the accumulated wisdom gained from every difficult challenge you've ever faced.

You are the child who danced gleefully in the bright morning sunshine.

You are the wonder, the curiosity, the thrill of each new discovery.

You are so much more than just the circumstances of the moment.

You are all the life you've known, all the days you've experienced.

You carry with you the joys from the good times and the strength that the difficult times have forged.

You've gained confidence when things have gone your way and determination when things have not.

The positive value in your life right now is more than can be measured. And all of it is yours to use as you move forward.

Remember all of who you are . Make from it the very best of who you now can be.

10-20-2004, 11:37 AM
Today's Update

# Happiness is like a muscle, it must be exercised to stay healthy.

# Happiness is contagious - if you're near it, you'll catch it.

# Happiness has a direct relationship with good health.

# Time invested in working on happiness is an investment in your own future.

# You have to be careful, the minute you stop blaming others - boom!! happiness attacks.

10-20-2004, 02:25 PM
Money and calories are oppositte to one another. Know how?


10-20-2004, 02:29 PM
kutty, kalkereenga ponga. onnu sonnalum supera solli irukeenga.. :D


10-21-2004, 09:04 AM
Today's Update

"Can I see my baby?" the happy new mother asked. When the bundle was nestled in her arms and she moved the fold of cloth to look upon his tiny face, she gasped. The doctor turned quickly and looked out the tall hospital window. The baby had been born without ears. Time proved that the baby's hearing was perfect. It was only his appearance that was marred. When he rushed home from school one day and flung himself into his mother's arms, she sighed, knowing that his life was to be a succession of heartbreaks.

He blurted out the tragedy. "A boy, a big boy...called me a freak." He grew up, handsome for his misfortune. A favorite with his fellow students, he might have been class president, but for that. He developed a gift, a talent for literature and music. "But you might mingle with other young people," his mother reproved him, but felt a kindness in her heart.

The boy's father had a session with the family physician. Could nothing be done? "I believe I could graft on a pair of outer ears, if they could be procured" the doctor decided. Whereupon the search began for a person who would make such a sacrifice for a young man. Two years went by. Then, "You are going to the hospital, son. Mother and I have someone who will donate the ears you need. But it's a secret" said the father. The operation was a brilliant success, and a new person emerged. His talents blossomed into genius, and school and college became a series of triumphs. Later he married and entered the diplomatic service. "But I must know!" He urged his father. "Who gave so much for me? I could never do enough for him."

"I do not believe you could," said the father, "but the agreement was that you are not to know...not yet." The years kept their profound secret, but the day did come . . . one of the darkest days that ever pass through a son. He stood with his father over his mother's casket. Slowly, tenderly, the father stretched forth a hand and raised the thick, reddish-brown hair to reveal . . . that the mother had no outer ears.

"Mother said she was glad she never let her hair be cut," he whispered gently, "and nobody ever thought mother less beautiful, did they"?

Real beauty lies not in the physical appearance, but in the heart. Real treasure lies not in what that can be seen, but what that cannot be seen. Real love lies not in what is done and known, but in what that is done but not known.

10-22-2004, 10:02 AM
Today's Update

A frog was hopping around a farmyard, when it decided to investigate the barn. Being somewhat careless, and maybe a little too curious, he ended up falling into a pail half-filled with fresh milk.

As he swam about attempting to reach the top of the pail, he found that the sides of the pail were too high and steep to reach.
He tried to stretch his back legs to push off the bottom of the pail but found it too deep.

But this frog was determined not to give up, and he continued to struggle.

He kicked and squirmed and kicked and squirmed, until at last, all his churning about in the milk had turned the milk into a big hunk of butter.
The butter was now solid enough for him to climb onto and get out of the pail!

Moral: "Never Give Up!"

Have a nice day and nice weekend.

10-25-2004, 03:00 PM
Today's Update

When you educate yourself,
you build the power to accomplish your goals.
Power comes from knowing how to do something.
Your knowledge is power.

As a general rule the most successful people in life
are the one's with the best information.
People with power are people who know how to get things done.
Your knowing how to do something
is sometimes virtually the same as having done it.

Knowledge will come to you by having your eyes and mind always open.
There is no knowledge that is not power.

In the land of the blind, the one eyed man is king.

10-26-2004, 12:06 PM
Today's Update

Today can be about the same as yesterday and the day before. Or, it can be a new, invigorating, exciting adventure.

You can try to drain as much value as you can from this day. Or, you can resolve to fill it with new value through your thoughts and your efforts.

You can complain that this day is just like all the rest, and struggle to get through it. Or, you can greet this day with enthusiasm and find positive, enriching possibilities that you've never seen before.

You can, on this day, be filled with resentment over the difficulties with which you're burdened. Or, you can choose to fill your heart with gratitude for the opportunity to move positively forward, no matter what may stand in your way.

This day can serve as an excuse to be miserable. Or, it can serve as an opportunity to fulfill the very best of your possibilities.

This day is yours right now. Choose to fill it with all the richness that life has to offer.

10-27-2004, 12:43 PM
Today's Update:

When you make use of your strength, it does not get used up. It grows.

When you give your love to others, it does not diminish the love you have. It deepens and enriches that love.

When you teach what you know, it does not take knowledge away from you. It expands and broadens your knowledge.

When you offer kindness, you end up with even more. When you make use of discipline, your discipline grows ever stronger.

The more you live with integrity, the more integrity you'll have. The more you speak the truth, the more real truth you'll discover.

The truly valuable things in life are easy to recognize, for they're the things that never get used up. Indeed, the truly valuable things become more plentiful each and every time they're used.

10-28-2004, 06:04 PM
Today's Update

"Character is that which reveals moral purpose, exposing the class of things a man chooses and avoids." -- Aristotle

What is more important to you:
a) To be wealthy?
b) To be powerful?
c) To be attractive?
d) To be happy?
e) To be a person of good character?

One can easily prove by looking through magazines about celebrities that wealth, power and attractiveness do not lead to persistent happiness. Can a person without good character be happy for long?

What do we mean by good character? Let's say it is a persistent tendency of a person to make ethical choices. It shows itself in how we treat others and in the actions we take when we think nobody is looking. It suggests an adherence to a moral code and a benign relationship with one's family and community. In this century, for many of us, good character would include the meaning of having a good-hearted relationship with humanity beyond one's local community and a proper respect for the planet.

French journalist Alphonse Karr said, "Every man has three characters: that which he shows, that which he has, and that which he thinks he has." The character others see may not be true, because they don't have all the information. The character we think we have is subject to self-delusion. We may hide our weaknesses from ourselves, because the inconsistency between our ideal self and our actual behavior is too painful to contemplate. If we are to be whole and authentic persons, however, we had better look at ourselves with clear eyes and investigate the shadows of our character.

An intention to be of good character can be a moral compass. When dubious choices present themselves we can ask ourselves, "If I am a person of good character, do I do what I am thinking of doing?" This question can cut through the fears and selfish desires that take us off the path we'd hope to tread.

Cultivating good character would seem to be a worthy goal, and still there is what Woodrow Wilson said about it: "If you will think about what you ought to do for other people, your character will take care of itself. Character is a by-product, and any man who devotes himself to its cultivation in his own case will become a selfish prig." Seems like a lovely paradox. And the way out of it is to minimize the puffing up of self and focus on the well-being of others. When we serve, we develop character. When we cultivate loving-kindness good character follows.

10-29-2004, 09:41 AM
Today's Update

Somewhere in you is a dream. It's probably buried deeply under all the day-to-day concerns, yet somewhere in you it lives.

It's not at all practical, and it's probably a little outrageous. Even so, it energizes your spirit like nothing else can.

It rises to the surface every now and then. And when it does, for a short while, the years melt away and you touch that place where everything seems possible.

Then it usually sinks back down under the surface of your awareness. And there it waits, patiently, never losing its hope or its luster.

Your dream, as crazy and impractical as it may seem, is trying to tell you something. Your dream, with its promise that you all too quickly, all too often dismiss, wants to tell you who you are.

Isn't it time you truly listen to what it has to say? Perhaps it is time to begin following that dream, and live the purpose with which you're blessed.

Have a nice day and nice week end.

11-01-2004, 12:42 PM
Today's Update

A certain man asked the famous Mulla Nasrudin, "What is the meaning of fate, Mulla?"

Mulla replied, "Assumptions."

"In what way?" the man asked again.

Mulla looked at him and said, "You assume things are going to go well, and they don't - that you call bad luck. You assume things are going to go badly and they don't - that you call good luck. You assume that certain things are going to happen or not happen - and you so lack intuition that you don't know what is going to happen. You assume that the future is unknown. When you are caught out - you call that Fate."

11-02-2004, 03:19 PM
Today's Update

What you impress upon your mind, you inevitably become.
It is a psychological law that whatever you desire to accomplish
you must first impress upon your subconscious mind.

Your inner thoughts, can cause you to be rich or poor,
loved or unloved, happy or unhappy,
attractive or unattractive, powerful or weak.

Relentless, repetitive self talk is what changes your self image.
You affect your subconscious mind with verbal repetition.
Constant repetition carries conviction.

When you change your values you change your behavior.
Start thinking of yourself as becoming the person you want to be.
Self-suggestion makes you master of yourself.

What you conceive yourself to be, you become.

11-03-2004, 11:50 AM
Today's Update

Take on a difficult challenge and bring yourself fully to life. Whatever the challenge demands from you, it also gives in even greater measure.

For when you step forward to meet a challenge, you connect with the best you have. As you work through the challenge, whatever strength and ability you possess grows even stronger.

There is treasure contained in each challenge you face. Your effort and persistence forge the path to that treasure.

Often you'll work through a difficult challenge only to be met with an even greater one. Rather than curse the unfairness of it all, stop and consider how fortunate you are.

For the first challenge has well prepared you for the next. And the next challenge will take you where previously you never could have dared to imagine.

As the challenges come, let them build you. And the richness of life grows and grows.

11-04-2004, 12:26 PM
Today's Update

I hired a plumber to help me restore an old farmhouse, and after he had just finished a rough first day on the job, a flat tire made him lose an hour of work & his electric drill quit, his ancient one ton truck refused to start. As I drove him home, he sat in stony silence.

On arriving he invited me in to meet his family. As we walked toward the front door, he paused briefly at a small tree, touching the tips of the branches with both hands. Upon opening the door he had undergone an amazing transformation. His tanned face was wreathed in smiles and he hugged his two small children and gave his wife a kiss.

Afterward he walked me to the car. We passed the tree and my curiosity got the better of me. I asked him about what I had seen him do at the little tree.

"Oh, that's my trouble tree," he replied. "I know I can't help having troubles on the job, but one thing's for sure, those troubles don't belong in the house with my wife and the children. So I just hang them up on the tree every night when I come home and ask God to take care of them. Then in the morning I pick them up again." Funny thing is," he smiled, "when I come out in the morning to pick them up, there aren't nearly as many as I remember hanging up the night before."

11-05-2004, 10:44 AM
Today's Update

When faced with a choice, choose the path that strengthens you. Choose to learn, choose to grow, choose to more fully become who you are.

Explore places where you have not been before. Look at ideas and concepts that you have not considered before.

If you stay hidden in the comfortable and familiar, your spirit can soon grow weary. Venture out and recharge the passion in your life.

Venture out there beyond what is comfortable, routine and expected. Venture out and discover the depth and the richness of who you are.

A life that is tested and challenged is a life that surely becomes filled with real purpose. The more briskly the wind blows against your face, the more fully alive you'll feel.

Venture out from where you've been, then from that new perspective venture out again. There's no end to what you can discover, and become.

Have a nice day and nice weekend.

11-08-2004, 04:22 PM
Today's Update

Good fortune may sometimes bring success sooner than it otherwise would have come. And bad luck may sometimes cause a temporary setback.

In the long run, though, success in life is not much affected by luck or by accidents. It is based on the character with which you live from day to day, moment to moment.

In fact, success is not really defined by any particular point that you reach. It is much more a matter of the way that you live.

In order to be successful, you do not need any particular circumstance or set of events. Real success comes from living with purpose and meaning.

That's something that requires no one else's consent, assistance or permission. It's something you can begin to do right here and now.

Fortune can bring you a fleeting windfall or a momentary setback. The way you choose to live, though, is what brings true, lasting success.

Have a nice day and nice week ahead.

11-09-2004, 11:14 PM
Today's Update

* Take time to WORK, it is the price of success.
* Take time to THINK, it is the source of power.
* Take time to PLAY, it is the secret of youth.
* Take time to READ, it is the foundation of knowledge.
* Take time to WORSHIP, it is the highway of reverence and washes the dust of earth from our eyes.
* Take time to HELP and ENJOY FRIENDS, it is the source of happiness.
* Take time to LOVE, it is the one sacrament of life.
* Take time to DREAM, it hitches the soul to the stars.
* Take time to LAUGH, it is the singing that helps with life's loads.
* Take time to PLAN, it is the secret of being able to have time to take time for the first nine things.

11-09-2004, 11:29 PM
you're absolutely right GGG :b:
I should start planning everything :think:

btw Bravo!! great thread :clap:


11-10-2004, 12:10 AM
* Take time to LOVE, it is the one sacrament of life

Yeah.. :P :P :P Way to go GGG... :P :P

Wait a minute.. :oops: :oops: Not what I thought it was.. rrr.. sorry about the sidetrack folks.. :sm03:

Good one, 3G :sm08:


11-11-2004, 07:55 PM
Wednesday's Update

Certainly there are times when it is essential to exercise good judgment. There are also many times when judgment needlessly gets in the way.

Get beyond the need to make a judgment about every little thing, and rise to a higher level of awareness. When your energy is not consumed with constantly making judgments, you are free to be more positively effective.

Instead of contemplating whether the moment is good or bad, helpful or hurtful, accept that it simply is. Instead of fighting for or against something that doesn't matter anyway, simply live the reality of it.

Letting go of your need to judge does not diminish or impair your ability to make worthwhile judgments. In fact, when your judgment is an intentional choice instead of a habitual reaction, it becomes more meaningful.

Spend less time and energy judging and categorizing every little thing that comes your way. Enjoy how much more aware and alive you feel when you get beyond the need to judge.

Make judgment something you use wisely instead of something you crave endlessly. And free yourself to fully live each moment.

11-11-2004, 07:56 PM
Today's Update:

She had been shopping with her Mom in Wal-Mart. She must have been 6 years old, this beautiful brown haired, freckle-faced image of innocence. It was pouring outside. The kind of rain that gushes over the top of rain gutters, so much in a hurry to hit the Earth it has no time to flow down the spout.

We all stood there under the awning and just inside the door of the Wal-Mart. We waited, some patiently, others irritated because nature messed up their hurried day. I am always mesmerized by rainfall. I get lost in the sound and sight of the heavens washing away the dirt and dust of the world. Memories of running, splashing so carefree as a child come pouring in as a welcome reprieve from the worries of my day.

Her voice was so sweet as it broke the hypnotic trance we were all caught in. “Mom, let's run through the rain." she said.

“What?" Mom asked. “Let’s run through the rain!" She repeated.

"No, honey. We'll wait until it slows down a bit." Mom replied.

This young child waited about another minute and repeated: "Mom, let's run through the rain."

"We'll get soaked if we do." Mom said.

"No, we won't, Mom. That's not what you said this morning." the young girl said as she tugged at her Mom's arm. "This morning? When did I say we could run through the rain and not get wet?"

"Don't you remember? When you were talking to Daddy about his cancer, you said, 'If God can get us through this, he can get us through anything!' ”

The entire crowd stopped dead silent. I swear you couldn't hear anything but the rain. We all stood silently. No one came or left in the next few minutes. Mom paused and thought for a moment about what she would say.

Now some would laugh it off and scold her for being silly. Some might even ignore what was said. But this was a moment of affirmation in a young child's life. Time when innocent trust can be nurtured so that it will bloom into faith. "Honey, you are absolutely right. Let's run through the rain. If God let's us get wet, well maybe we just needed washing." Mom said. Then off they ran.

We all stood watching, smiling and laughing as they darted past the cars and, yes, through the puddles. They held their shopping bags over their heads just in case. They got soaked. But they were followed by a few who screamed and laughed like children all the way to their cars. And yes, I did. I ran. I got wet. I needed washing. Circumstances or people can take away your material possessions, they can take away your money, and they can take away your health. But no one can ever take away your precious memories. So, don't forget to make time and take the opportunities to make memories every day!

To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under heaven. I hope you still take the time to run through the rain.

11-11-2004, 08:00 PM
* Take time to LOVE, it is the one sacrament of life

Yeah.. :P :P :P Way to go GGG... :P :P

Good one, 3G :sm08:


i just thought of posting some message like whether i can continue posting this thread or stop it completely. i couldnt c some reply or much hits.. i just want to know whether it is interesting atleast for few persons? if so i will continue. otherwise i will close this chapter..

waiting for ur replies..


11-12-2004, 12:39 AM
. Circumstances or people can take away your material possessions, they can take away your money, and they can take away your health. But no one can ever take away your precious memories. So, don't forget to make time and take the opportunities to make memories every day!

To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under heaven. I hope you still take the time to run through the rain.

you're soooooo right GGG :D

nothing short of complete memory loss could make us lose our most cherished memories.

:ee: I'll sure try to run through the rain next time :wink:
I used to have so much fun ...old age creeps in slowly on one...and suddenly you feel too grown up to do some things...but hey no more grown up thoughts! .. :ee:

Spend less time and energy judging and categorizing every little thing that comes your way. Enjoy how much more aware and alive you feel when you get beyond the need to judge.

Make judgment something you use wisely instead of something you crave endlessly. And free yourself to fully live each moment

it's really really hard ggg :? we're taught to judge each situation and act accordingly ...part of growing up...it's hard to let go ...'cause control seem so important theses days...
do you have anything against control freakism :ahha: will try that one too :ee:

:sm30: ningha post pannungho :D naan vasikirein :sm08:
:| I need to learn loads loads of stuff abt life and all its vagaries :cool:


11-12-2004, 03:17 PM
Today's Update

You can choose to curse this moment, or you can choose instead to see the possibilities that it offers. You can choose to stay in the shadows or you can choose instead to move into the surrounding light.

You can choose to make excuses for failure, or you can choose instead to put forth the real effort that brings success. You can choose to blame others for holding you back, or you can choose to encourage them steadily forward with you.

You can choose to be annoyed by events or you can choose to be inspired. You can choose to be dismayed or you can choose to be determined.

You can choose to fill your heart with resentment for the things that have not gone your way. Or you can choose to be filled with a level of gratitude that will bring true abundance to life.

Life is what it is, and will ever be so. Whatever it is that may come your way, you can choose how to live it.

And what you choose will always matter much, much more than what you happen to come across. Make your choice, stick with it, and life will be whatever you choose.

Have a nice day and nice weekend.

(Note: There wont be any updates until coming wednesday. On thursday, I will update for all the 4 days.)

11-14-2004, 08:35 PM
Make your choice, stick with it

okie Mr GGG, will do :b:



(Note: There wont be any updates until coming wednesday. On thursday, I will update for all the 4 days.) no problem ...just a question...enna panrathu...I never stop thinking :ee: kanda sasthi vratham-aa :wink:

11-18-2004, 05:35 PM
Monday's Update

The key that insures your success in any endeavor, is desire.
If you are willing to pay the price,
even your circumstances will change.
If you want something badly enough,
you are sure to get it.

Reality forms around the commitments you make.
Your desires will in time externalize themselves into concrete facts.

Obstacles don't matter very much.
Pain or other circumstances can be there.
But if you want to do something bad enough,
you'll find a way to get it done.

You only have to love a thing greatly to get it.

11-18-2004, 05:36 PM
Tuesday's Update

1. At least 5 people in this world love you so much they would die for you.

2. At least 15 people in this world love you in some way.

3. The only reason anyone would ever hate you is because they want to be just like you.

4. A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don't like you.

5. Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep.

6. You mean the world to someone.

7. If not for you, someone may not be living.

8. You are special and unique.

9. Someone that you don't even know exists loves you.

10. When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good comes from it.

11. When you think the world has turned its back on you, take a look: you most likely turned your back on the world.

12. When you think you have no chance of getting what you want, you probably won't get it, but if you believe in yourself, probably, sooner or later, you will get it.

13. Always remember the compliments you received. Forget about the rude remarks.

14. Always tell someone how you feel about them; you will feel much better when they know.

15. If you have a great friend, take the time to let them know that they are great.

11-18-2004, 05:37 PM
Wednesday's Update

The obstacles are almost never as big or imposing as you first imagine them to be. The moment you start to work past each one, it begins to diminish in size.

As long as you're merely contemplating them, challenges can take on seemingly infinite and insurmountable proportions. As soon as you begin to work on them, those same challenges suddenly become more manageable.

Simply by taking the first step to solve a problem, you can dramatically change the nature of that problem. You transform it from a force that is holding you back into a path that can move you forward.

As you continue to work your way through the problem, you continue to change its negative influence into positive value. It increasingly becomes an opportunity for you to make a positive difference.

The way to cut a big problem down to size is to get busy working through it. Each step you take brings you closer to the point where you are completely beyond the difficult challenge.

The biggest problems can often lead to the most valuable opportunities. And your effort is what will make that happen.

11-18-2004, 05:38 PM
Today's Update

A Mouse who always lived on the land, by an unlucky chance, formed an intimate acquaintance with a Frog, who lived, for the most part, in the water.

One day, the Frog was intent on mischief. He tied the foot of the Mouse tightly to his own. Thus joined together, the Frog led his friend the Mouse to the meadow where they usually searched for food.

After this, he gradually led him towards the pond in which he lived, until reaching the banks of the water, he suddenly jumped in, dragging the Mouse with him.

The Frog enjoyed the water amazingly, and swam croaking about, as if he had done a good deed. The unhappy Mouse was soon sputtered and drowned in the water, and his poor dead body floating about on the surface.

A Hawk observed the foating Mouse from the sky, and dove down and grabbed it with his talons, carrying it back to his nest. The Frog, being still fastened to the leg of the Mouse, was also carried off a prisoner, and was eaten by the Hawk.

Moral: "Choose your allies carefully"

11-18-2004, 05:48 PM
just thought of posting some message like whether i can continue posting this thread or stop it completely. i couldnt c some reply or much hits.. i just want to know whether it is interesting atleast for few persons? if so i will continue. otherwise i will close this chapter..

waiting for ur replies..


continue.. GGG.. we do read.. :) always.. :P


11-18-2004, 06:20 PM

Keep posting.. I donno about others but I read all the weekdays update once a week.. each and every week, it is pretty interesting..

I have learnt something from this.. Keep going.. :b:

11-18-2004, 11:41 PM
i just thought of posting some message like whether i can continue posting this thread or stop it completely. i couldnt c some reply or much hits.. i just want to know whether it is interesting atleast for few persons? if so i will continue. otherwise i will close this chapter..

waiting for ur replies..


Please stop panadheengo...we might not comment on every post...but we are for sure reading :)

11-19-2004, 04:36 PM
vasan, blue, pattams and RK.. surely this postings will continue until i have this kind of messages..:b:


11-19-2004, 04:37 PM
Today's Update

A young man was getting ready to graduate from college. For many months he had admired a beautiful sports car in a dealer's showroom, and knowing his father could well afford it, he told him that was all he wanted.

As Graduation Day approached, the young man awaited signs that his father had purchased the car. Finally, on the morning of his graduation, his father called him into his private study. His father told him how proud he was to have such a fine son, and told him how much he loved him. He handed his son a beautiful wrapped gift box. Curious, but somewhat disappointed, the young man opened the box and found a lovely, leather-bound Bible, with the young man's name embossed in gold. Angrily, he raised his voice to his father and said, "With all your money you give me a Bible?" He then stormed out of the house, leaving the Bible.

Many years passed and the young man was very successful in business. He had a beautiful home and a wonderful family, but realizing his father was very old, he thought perhaps he should go to see him. He had not seen him since that graduation day. Before he could make the arrangements, he received a telegram telling him his father had passed away, and willed all of his possessions to his son. He needed to come home immediately and take care of things.

When he arrived at his father's house, sudden sadness and regret filled his heart. He began to search through his father's important papers and saw the still new Bible, just as he had left it years ago. With tears, he opened the Bible and began to turn the pages. As he was reading, a car key dropped from the back of the Bible. It had a tag with the dealer's name, the same dealer who had the sports car he had desired. On the tag was the date of his graduation, and the words….."PAID IN FULL".

How many times do we miss blessings because they are not packaged as we expected? Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.

Sometimes we don't realize the good fortune we have or we could have because we expect "the packaging" to be different. What may appear as bad fortune may in fact be the door that is just waiting to be opened.

11-22-2004, 10:52 PM
Today's Update:

Before you consider the difficulties, consider the rewards you'll enjoy after getting past those difficulties. Before looking at the effort you must put forth, look at what you have an opportunity to accomplish.

Yes, there are obstacles that stand in front of you. And the most effective way to get through them is with a meaningful, compelling reason.

Look, in your imagination, to the other side of the mountain. For it is the strength of your vision that will carry you over that mountain.

When your heart is in the effort, you'll find a way to prevail against whatever may block your path. When your heart is in the effort, you'll be fully and effectively engaged every step of the way.

See, hear, feel and taste the end of the journey before you even begin. The more vividly you visualize and relate to the goal, the more energy you'll have to get there.

Difficult as it may be, there is a path from here to there. Connect solidly with your purpose for going, and you'll surely complete the journey.

11-23-2004, 09:06 PM
Today's Update: (on Behalf of GGG)

There was once a King who had a wise advisor. The advisor followed the King everywhere, and his favorite advice was, “Everything happens for the good”.

One day the King went hunting and had a little accident. He shot an arrow at his own foot and was injured. He asked the advisor what he thought about the accident, to which the advisor replied, “Everything happens for the good”. This time the King was really upset and ordered for his advisor to be put in prison. The King asked his advisor, “Now, what do you think?” The advisor again replied, “Everything happens for the good”. So the advisor remained in prison.

The King later went on a hunting trip, this time without the advisor. The King was then captured by some cannibals. He was taken to the cannibals' camp where he was to be the evening meal for the cannibals. Before putting him into the cooking pot he was thoroughly inspected.

The cannibals saw the wound on the King’s foot and decided to throw him back into the jungle. According to the cannibals' tradition, they would not eat anything that was imperfect. As a result the King was spared. The King suddenly realized what his advisor said was true. The advisor also escaped death because had he not been in prison, he would have followed the King on the hunting trip, and would have ended up in the cooking pot.

"It is true that everything in life happens for a purpose, and always for our own good. If you think about it, all our past experiences actually happened to bring us to where we are today, and it is always for the good. All the past experiences makes us a better person. So, whatever challenges that we may face today, consider it happening to bring us to the next level."

11-24-2004, 08:13 PM
Today's Update

An elderly man living in Phoenix calls his son in New York and says: "I hate to ruin your day, but I have to tell you that your mother and I are divorcing. Forty-five years of misery is enough." The son gets all excited and responds: "Pop, what are you talking about? You can't divorce mom after all these years. That's crazy."

"It may be crazy," says the old man, "but I am going to tell her on this coming Thanksgiving Day! It will be the last one we spend together!" Frantically, the son calls his sister in Chicago and she explodes: "Like heck they're getting a divorce. We're both going to fly to Phoenix tomorrow and talk some sense into dad! I don't care if it is Thanksgiving!"

Then she calls her father and shouts at him over the phone: "Do you hear me? Don't you dare do a thing until brother and I get there tomorrow." Then she hangs up. The old man hangs up his phone and turns to his wife: "Ok, he says with a smile, they are coming for Thanksgiving and paying their own way. Now what do we tell them for Christmas?"

That's what we call creativity at its best. Studies show there's no link between intelligence and creativity. However, we can all become more creative if we put our minds to it. Creativity certainly helps in finding jobs. Don't be boring, don't be predictable, don't be just another candidate. Stand out. Be different. Use a little creativity.

Here are some examples of people who used creativity to land a job:
* A person who had been out of work for four months saw an ad for her dream job with a local TV station. The standard tactic, a cover letter with a copy of her resume, netted absolutely nothing. So she launched a more imaginative campaign, which included letters from the fellow she was going with, from her lawyer, from her eighty-year-old mother, even from her priest, who wrote, "I'm enclosing this in hopes that you will hire her. It's depressing to look at her sad face, and besides, we haven't had a donation from her in months."

* A candidate for a teaching job with the Minneapolis public schools sent a singing telegram praising her skills. "When people sell themselves in a creative way, it does attract attention," said the person who hired the candidate.

* An advertising applicant won a job at an ad agency when he sent out a creative mailer touting his services. When the cover was opened, the inside page showed a photo of the candidate standing next to a sign that read, "I'm the one."

* A contender for the marketing director position at an arena where professional basketball is played sent her resume and cover letter in a sneaker with the comment, "Now that I've got one foot in the door, how about the other?"

As you can see, one of the best strategies is to separate yourself from the pack. The part that makes the difference between getting the job and being an also-ran is giving the interviewer what he or she doesn't expect. Be pleasingly unpredictable: Shock 'em. Be entertainingly original.

Pat Fallon, Chairman of Fallon Worldwide, one of the great advertising companies, says, "Imagination is one of the last remaining legal means you have to gain an unfair advantage over the competition."

Moral: Creativity is as important as knowledge.

11-25-2004, 08:51 PM
Today's Update

True success is based not on how obnoxious you can be, but on how helpful and valuable you can make yourself. True success is based not on how hateful of spiteful you can be, but on how much love you can inspire.

True success is based not on how much glamour you can project, but on how much beauty you can see and appreciate. True success is based not on how much you can take, but on the real value you are able to create.

When everything you do is all about you, then nothing you do will really matter. Even if you drive the most intimidating vehicle on the road, and have the most prestigious address in town, life will be empty if you are the only person you truly care about.

Being absorbed only with yourself is the quickest route to misery. In contrast, the more genuine consideration you have for others, the more blessed your life will be.

Before you act, think of how your actions will affect others. Seek to make a positive difference for the people around you, and you'll find real, lasting success and fulfillment flowing into your own life.

Each moment you have an opportunity to be truly successful by contributing your own special value to life. Think and act beyond yourself, and there's no limit to the real success you can achieve.

11-26-2004, 07:50 PM
Today's Update

A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his 5-year old son waiting for him at the door. "Daddy, may I ask you a question?"

"Yeah sure, what is it?" replied the man."Daddy, how much do you make an hour?"

"That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?" the man said angrily. "I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?" pleaded the little boy."If you must know, I make $20 an hour."

"Oh," the little boy replied, with his head down. Looking up, he said, "Daddy, may I please borrow $10?" The father was furious, "If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I work hard everyday for such this childish behavior."

The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door. The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy's questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?

After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down, and started to think: Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $10 and he really didn't ask for money very often. The man went to the door of the little boy's room and opened the door.

"Are you asleep, son?" He asked. "No daddy, I'm awake," replied the boy.

"I've been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier," said the man, "It's been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here's the $10 you asked for."

The little boy sat straight up, smiling. "Oh, thank you daddy!" He yelled. Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills. The man, seeing that the boy already had money, started to get angry again. The little boy slowly counted out his money, then looked up at his father.

"Why do you want more money if you already have some?" the father grumbled.

"Because I didn't have enough, but now I do," the little boy replied. "Daddy, I have $20 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you."

It's just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent sometime with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts.

If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days. But the family & friends we left behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives. And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than to our family an unwise investment indeed.

Have a nice day and nice weekend.

11-29-2004, 05:40 PM
Once a Professor began his class by holding up a glass with some water in it. He held it up for all to see; asked the students, "How much do you think this glass weighs?

"50gms!" ?.... "100gms!".... "25gms".... the students answered.

"I really don't know unless I weigh it" said the Professor. But, my question is: "What would happen if I held it up like this for a few minutes?"

"Nothing" the students said.

"OK, what would happen if I held it up like this for an hour?" the Professor asked. "Your arm would begin to ache" said one of the students.

"You're right, now what would happen if I held it for a day?"

"Your arm could go numb, you might have severe muscle stress & paralysis; have to go to hospital for sure!" ventured another student; all the students laughed.

"Very good. But during all this, did the weight of the glass change?" asked the Professor. "No" replied the students.

"Then what caused the arm ache; the muscle stress? Instead what should I do?"

The students were puzzled. "Put the glass down!" said one of the students.

"Exactly!" said the Professor. "Life's problems are something like this. Hold it for a few minutes in your head; they seem OK. Think of them for a long time; they begin to ache. Hold it even longer; they begin to paralyze you."

You will not be able to do anything. It's important to think of the challenges (problems) in your life, but EVEN MORE IMPORTANT to 'put them down' at the end of every day before you go to sleep. That way, you are not stressed, you wake up every day fresh and strong; can handle any issue, any challenge that comes your way!

Remember friend to PUT THE GLASS DOWN TODAY! That's life ! !! ! !! !

Have a nice day and nice week ahead.

11-29-2004, 07:48 PM
Superbly said GGG....

It is sometimes got to put down the past and get on with life.... creying over spilt milk is never going to change the past.... but then if the problem is a persistent one.. try to solve it and get ahead of it rather than goin on with it...

12-01-2004, 11:19 AM
Tuesday's Update

Whatever you enjoy, you improve. Enjoy where you are, and suddenly where you are has more value.

Enjoy the moment you're living. And suddenly the moment offers new and positive possibilities.

Enjoy what you're doing. By so doing, you transform your effort into a pathway to success and achievement.

You can always find a reason to be miserable. But being miserable will accomplish nothing.

Being joyful, on the other hand, will put you in a positive, productive, effective frame of mind. You'll be well positioned to accomplish and succeed.

Whatever this day may hold, find something to truly enjoy about it. And you will have found your own best path forward.

12-01-2004, 11:20 AM
Today's Update:

If you want to get somewhere, you have to know where you want to go and how to get there. Then never, never, never give up.

The secret of life isn't what happens to you, but what you do with what happens to you.
Help other people to cope with their problems and your own will be easier to cope with.

Never use the word impossible seriously again. Toss it into the verbal wastebasket.

Self-trust is the first secret of success. So believe in and trust yourself.

Stand up to your obstacles and do something about them. You will find that they haven't half the strength you think they have.

Joy increases as you give it, and diminishes as you try to keep it for yourself. In giving it, you will accumulate a deposit of joy greater than you ever believed possible.

How you think about a problem is more important than the problem itself - so always think positively.

Go at life with abandon; give it all you've got. And life will give all it has to you.

12-02-2004, 05:13 PM
Today's Update

There is a story many years ago of an elementary teacher.

Her name was Mrs. Thompson. And as she stood in front of her fifth grade class on the very first day of school, she told the children a lie. Like most teachers, she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same. But that was impossible, because there in the front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard.

Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he didn't play well with the other children, that his clothes were messy and that he constantly needed a bath. And Teddy could be unpleasant. It got to the point where Mrs. Thompson would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X's and then putting a big "F" at the top of his papers.

At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child's past records and she put Teddy's off until last.

However, when she reviewed his file, she was in for a surprise. Teddy's first grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners...he is a joy to be around."

His second grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is an excellent student, well liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be a struggle."

His third grade teacher wrote, "His mother's death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best but his father doesn't show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren't taken."

Teddy's fourth grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is withdrawn and doesn't show much interest in school. He doesn't have many friends and sometimes sleeps in class."

By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents, wrapped in beautiful ribbons and bright paper, except for Teddy's.

His present was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper that he got from a grocery bag. Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing and a bottle that was one quarter full of perfume. But she stifled the children's laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was. She put it on and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist.

Teddy Stoddard stayed after school that day just long enough to say, Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my Mom used to."

After the children left she cried for at least an hour. On that very day, she quit teaching, reading, writing, and arithmetic. Instead, she began to teach children.

Mrs. Thompson paid particular attention to Teddy. As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Teddy had become one of the smartest children in the class and, despite her lie that she would love all the children the same, Teddy became one of her "pets".

A year later, she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling her that she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life.

Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life.
Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honors. He assured Mrs. Thompson that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had in his whole life.

Then four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor's degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had. But now his name was a little longer.
The letter was signed, Theodore F. Stoddard, M.D.

The story doesn't end there. You see, there was yet another letter that spring. Teddy said he'd met this girl and was going to be married. He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit in the place at the wedding that was usually reserved for the mother of the groom.

Of course, Mrs. Thompson did. And guess what? She wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing. And she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Teddy remembered his mother wearing on their last Christmas together.

They hugged each other, and Dr. Stoddard whispered in Mrs. Thompson's ear, "Thank you, Mrs. Thompson, for believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference."

Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, "Teddy, you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn't know how to teach until I met you."

Moral: "Be careful how you live. You may be the only Bible some people will ever read."

12-03-2004, 02:52 PM
Today's Update

Every positive thing in your life represents a single unique blessing. Every negative thing in your life has the opportunity to become a double blessing.

For when you turn a negative into a positive, you gain twice. You are no longer burdened with the negative situation, and in addition to that you are strengthened by a new positive force.

Heal a strained relationship and not only do you lose an enemy, you also gain a friend. Turn a weakness into a strength, and not only are you no longer held back by the weakness, you are pushed forward by the strength.

Every negative situation carries its own energy. When you turn that energy around, the effort involved brings a double reward.

The weaknesses, liabilities, nuisances and troubles are no cause for despair. They are assets, conveniences, joys and riches waiting to be manifested through your efforts.

Don't seek to merely get rid of the negative things in your life. Instead, transform their energy into something of real positive value.

Have a nice day and nice weekend.

12-06-2004, 05:24 PM
Today's Update

Your willpower is much stronger than you think. But all too often, most of it is being used to maintain your own ego, which gets you nowhere.

You use the energy of your willpower to prove you are right, yet that brings nothing of value. You use your willpower to defend and justify what you already know rather than learning something new.

When you use your willpower to feed, soothe, comfort and maintain your own ego, what happens? You end up with a big, strong, comfortable ego, and not much else.

Your willpower is always pointed in precisely the direction you have decided to point it. Take a good look around and you'll see what that direction has been, you'll see where your willpower has brought you so far.

Then make the decision to apply the considerable power of your will to the things that truly matter. Instead of wasting your willpower on frustration, anger and envy, put it to use creating value, achievement and real joy.

Your willpower can take you quickly and effectively to wherever you decide to go. Keep it pointed in a positive direction.

12-07-2004, 05:18 PM
Today's update

A void negative sources, people, things and habits.
B elieve in yourself.
C onsider things from every angle.
D on't give up and don't give in.
E njoy life today, yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come.
F amily and Friends are hidden treasures. Seek them and enjoy their riches.
G ive more than you planned to give.
H ang on to your dreams.
I gnore those who try to discourage you.
J ust do it!
K eep on trying, no matter how hard it seems.
I t will get better.
L ove yourself first and foremost.
M ake it happen.
N ever lie, cheat or steal. Always strike a fair deal.
O pen your eyes and see things as they really are.
P ractice makes perfect.
Q uitters never win and winners never quit.
R ead, study and learn about everything important in life.
S top Procrastination.
T ake control of your own destiny.
U nderstand yourself in order to understand others.
V isualize it.
W ant it more than anything.
X ccelerate your efforts.
Y ou are unique, nothing can replace you.
Z ero in on your target, and go for it!!

12-09-2004, 10:24 PM
Wednesday's Update

A lamb was grazing with a flock of sheep one day. She soon found some sweet grass at the edge of the field. Farther and farther she went, away from the others.

She was enjoying herself so much that she did not notice a wolf coming nearer to her. However, when it pounced on her, she was quick to start pleading, "Please, please don't eat me yet. My stomach is full of grass. If you wait a while, I will taste much better."

The wolf thought that was a good idea, so he sat down and waited. After a while, the lamb said, " If you allow me to dance, the grass in my stomach will be digested faster." Again the wolf agreed.

While the lamb was dancing, she had a new idea. She said, " Please take the bell from around my neck. If you ring it as hard as you can, I will be able to dance even faster."

The wolf took the bell and rang it as hard as he could. The shepherd heard the bell ringing and quickly sent his dogs to find the missing lamb. The barking dogs frightened the wolf away and saved the lamb's life.

Moral: The gentle and weak can sometimes be more clever than fierce and strong.

12-09-2004, 10:25 PM
Today's Update

Kindness is just as enjoyable when you're giving it as it is when you're receiving it. Love makes you just as warm inside whether you're offering it to another or you're on the receiving end of its good graces.

There is nothing to be gained by keeping score, by worrying whether or not you're receiving as much love and kindness as you're giving. Instead of wasting your time and energy keeping track, put that energy into creating more love, more kindness in the world.

Whether it is coming or going, love is yours to enjoy. When you feel the need for love, give your love freely, and you will surely experience its richness and warmth.

Even when a kindness is never returned, it still exists and shines a positive light on all who touch it. Rather than waiting for kindness to come to you, let it freely come from you at every opportunity.

Give love, and it grows more abundant. Offer kindness, and there is more of it in your life. No matter what direction they flow, love and kindness add real value to each life they touch. Take every opportunity to let them freely flow.

12-10-2004, 09:20 PM
Today's Update

A woman came out of her house and saw 3 old men sitting in her front yard. She did not recognize them. She said "I don't think I know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat."

"Is the man of the house in home?", they asked.

"No", she replied. "He's out."

"Then we cannot come in", they replied.

In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had happened.

"Go tell them I am home and invite them in!"

The woman went out and invited the men in"

"We do not go into a House together," they replied.

"Why is that?" she asked.

One of the old men explained: "His name is Wealth," he said pointing to one of his friends, and said pointing to another one, "He is Success, and I am Love." Then he added, "Now go in and discuss with your husband which one of us you want in your home."

The woman went in and told her husband what was said. Her husband was overjoyed. "How nice!!", he said. "Since that is the case, let us invite Wealth. Let him come and fill our home with wealth!"

His wife disagreed. "My dear, why don't we invite Success?"

Their daughter-in-law was listening from the other corner of the house. She jumped in with her own suggestion: "Would it not be better to invite Love? Our home will then be filled with love!"

"Let us heed our daughter-in-law's advice," said the husband to his wife.

"Go out and invite Love to be our guest."

The woman went out and asked the 3 old men, "Which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest."

Love got up and started walking toward the house. The other 2 also got up and followed him. Surprised, the lady asked Wealth and Success: "I only invited Love, Why are you coming in?"

The old men replied together: "If you had invited Wealth or Success, the other two of us would've stayed out, but since you invited Love, wherever He goes, we go with him. Wherever there is Love, there is also Wealth and Success!!!!!!"


- Where there is pain, I wish you peace and mercy.
- Where there is self-doubting, I wish you a renewed confidence in your ability to work through it.
- Where there is tiredness or exhaustion, I wish you understanding, patience and renewed strength.
- Where there is fear, I wish you love and courage.

Have a nice weekend.

12-13-2004, 10:15 PM
Today's Update:

A Professor of a university challenged his students with this question, "Did God create everything that exists?"

A student answered bravely, "Yes, he did".

The Professor then asked, "If God created everything, then he created evil. Since evil exists (as noticed by our own actions), so God is evil."

The student couldn't respond to that statement causing the professor to conclude that he had "proved" that "belief in God" was a fairy tale, and therefore worthless.

Another student raised his hand and asked the professor "May I pose a question?", "Of course" answered the professor.

The young student stood up and asked : "Professor does Cold exist?"

The professor answered, "What kind of question is that?...Of course the cold exists... haven't you ever been cold?"

The young student answered, "In fact sir, Cold does not exist. According to the laws of Physics, what we consider cold, in fact is the absence of heat. Anything is able to be studied as long as it transmits energy (heat). Absolute Zero is the total absence of heat, but cold does not exist. What we have done is create a term to describe how we feel if we don't have body heat or we are not hot."

"And, does Dark exist?", he continued. The Professor answered "Of course".

This time the student responded, "Again you're wrong, Sir. Darkness does not exist either.
Darkness is in fact simply the absence of light. Light can be studied, darkness can not. Darkness cannot be broken down. A simple ray of light tears the darkness and illuminates the surface where the light beam finishes. Dark is a term that we humans have created to describe what happens when there's lack of light."

Finally, the student asked the professor, "Sir, does evil exist?"

The professor replied, "Of course it exists, as I mentioned at the beginning, we see violations, crimes and violence anywhere in the world, and those things are evil."

The student responded, "Sir, Evil does not exist. Just as in the previous cases, Evil is a term which man has created to describe the result of the absence of God's presence in the hearts of man."

After this, the professor bowed down his head, and didn't answer back.

12-13-2004, 10:53 PM
Give love, and it grows more abundant. Offer kindness, and there is more of it in your life.

:b: :b:

It does indeed, GGG...

Thanks for your faithful updates. Very enriching.. :sm03:


12-14-2004, 08:01 PM
Today's Update:

Once you reach a goal that was previously unattainable, a whole new level of opportunities will open up to you. The more you achieve, the more your possibilities grow.

Conquering a difficult challenge does much more than merely getting you past that one particular challenge. It also brings increased levels of confidence and effectiveness you can use to face other challenges.

The effort you put into reaching higher pays off over and over again. One of the best things about accomplishment is that it sets you up for even more accomplishment.

That's why every positive accomplishment, no matter how small, makes a big difference. Because no matter what the accomplishment, you can build on it.

Even though you may start small, taking baby steps, with each step forward you rise to a higher level. Even the small accomplishments count, because they're what get you started.

There is a positive step forward that you can take right now. Go for it, and you'll soon be reaching higher than you ever could have imagined.

12-15-2004, 07:55 PM
Today's Update:

If you woke up this morning with more health than illness.....you are more blessed than the million who will not survive this week.

If you have never experienced the danger of battle, the loneliness of imprisonment, the agony of torture, or the pangs of starvation.....you are ahead of 500 million people in the world.

If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overhead and a place to sleep.....you are richer than 75% of this world.

If you have money in the bank, in your wallet, and spare change in a dish someplace.....you are among the top 8% of the world's wealthy.

If you hold up your head with a smile on your face and are truly thankful.....you are blessed because the majority can, but most do not.

If you prayed yesterday and today.....you are in the minority because you believe God does hear and answer prayers.

If you can read now, you are more blessed than over two billion people in the world that cannot read at all.[/b]

12-17-2004, 10:58 PM
Thursday's Update:

What kind of life are you attracting to yourself with your thoughts? Is it a life of peace, serenity, positive achievement and fulfillment, or a life of stress, disorder and disappointment?

Imagine that each thought is a powerful magnet, attracting to your life whatever that thought contains. Consider that you have thousands of thoughts each day.

Thoughts of worry and despair bring to you those negative things about which you are so worried. Thoughts of positive possibilities, on the other hand, bring you the opportunity to make those possibilities real.

Do your thoughts of others attract interesting, loving, caring, generous and helpful people into your life? Or do you think the worst of everyone, and then watch as those thoughts are played out in the experience of each day?

Your thoughts continuously send powerful messages to life about what you expect from it. What kind of messages are you sending each day?

In every moment, let your thoughts send a positive message to yourself, to those around you, and to the world at large. You'll attract to yourself the best that life has to offer.

12-17-2004, 10:59 PM
Today's Update:

Anxiety is not an outside force. It exists entirely within your own thoughts.

Anxiety is nothing more than a response you choose. And just as surely as you can choose to experience anxiety, you can choose to let it go.

Without your thoughts, anxiety cannot exist. It has no power of its own, and there is no reason to hold on to it.

Instead of being blinded by your anxious thoughts, open your eyes to the positive possibilities. Instead of using your energy to support thoughts of anxiety, you can use that energy to move yourself forward.

Allow love to fill the places where anxiety now resides. Feel a warm sense of peace and serenity as your anxious thoughts melt away.

See what happens when you choose to respond with love, with gratitude, with acceptance and positive expectations. With a calm mind and a peaceful heart, you are free to be your very best.

Have a nice day and nice weekend.

12-18-2004, 12:26 AM
A Professor of a university challenged his students with this question, "Did God create everything that exists?"

I have read this one before.. However, in the one that I read, the kid would challenge the professor for his stance on the existence of god.. I liked it very much.. It changes ones thinking perspective.. Nothing is opposite in life..

Nice ones GGG... Keep going..

12-22-2004, 09:11 PM
Baby: I see. So the hump is to store water when we are in the desert, the legs are for walking through the desert and these eye lashes protect my eyes from the desert. Then what the hell are we doing here in the ZOO???

I like this question. Used to wonder, what the heck am I doing here in this job. When I have so many other better things to do. But we do have other external factors, which decide, where we have to be and what we have to be.


I agree. But let me say this anyway: You always have choices. Sometimes, the choices you have are called risks, but they are choices anyway. Only trading has risks and living only has choices. Again, choosing to trade in life or choosing to live life is a choice we all have.


And only recently did I stumbled upon this thread, and this thread is really great. Hats off to GGG.

12-22-2004, 09:34 PM
i just thought of posting some message like whether i can continue posting this thread or stop it completely. i couldnt c some reply or much hits.. i just want to know whether it is interesting atleast for few persons? if so i will continue. otherwise i will close this chapter..

waiting for ur replies..


Hey! "Dont expect love to come to you, let love come from you anytime". Those are what you wrote, may be with different words. I never knew there is a thread like this. But I saw it today, and am enjoying it for the past half hour. Do what you think you should. Or do what you like to do. It will be useful for someone or other, you never know to who.

Great work GGG. Do continue it. But I really wonder how you manage to do that. Such nice thoughts everyday. Should be very hard to manage.

By the way, where are you located in Europe? Just asking.


12-22-2004, 10:11 PM
"Exactly!" said the Professor. "Life's problems are something like this. Hold it for a few minutes in your head; they seem OK. Think of them for a long time; they begin to ache. Hold it even longer; they begin to paralyze you."

You will not be able to do anything. It's important to think of the challenges (problems) in your life, but EVEN MORE IMPORTANT to 'put them down' at the end of every day before you go to sleep. That way, you are not stressed, you wake up every day fresh and strong; can handle any issue, any challenge that comes your way!

Sorry, I disagree. Some problems are solved only when you think about them even unconsciously. Madam Curie's invention of radium is of that kind. She solved the problem in her sleep.

Well, being bothered about the problem is another thing. But trying to solve it is what I am talking about.

12-22-2004, 10:47 PM
Somewhere in you is a dream. It's probably buried deeply under all the day-to-day concerns, yet somewhere in you it lives.

It's not at all practical, and it's probably a little outrageous. Even so, it energizes your spirit like nothing else can.

It rises to the surface every now and then. And when it does, for a short while, the years melt away and you touch that place where everything seems possible.

Then it usually sinks back down under the surface of your awareness. And there it waits, patiently, never losing its hope or its luster.

Your dream, as crazy and impractical as it may seem, is trying to tell you something. Your dream, with its promise that you all too quickly, all too often dismiss, wants to tell you who you are.

Isn't it time you truly listen to what it has to say? Perhaps it is time to begin following that dream, and live the purpose with which you're blessed.

That is so very true. I would have kissed you if you were before me when i read this. (and you are fortunate enough not to be before me ;) )

12-22-2004, 10:48 PM
Monday's Update

* Your ability to make judgments can serve you well. It can also cause a lot of needless trouble, anxiety, and pain.

* Stop making judgments about the things that don't matter. And you'll free yourself to focus on the things that do.

* Imagine a world in which there was nothing to annoy you. When you let go of the constant need to judge, the annoyances drop quickly away.

* Many times judgment can be replaced with understanding. And by truly seeking to understand others, you will yourself be far better understood.

* Certainly there are times when a judgment is necessary and appropriate. Your judgment at such times can be much more powerful and effective when you haven't wasted it on things that don't matter.

* Use your judgment wisely. And just as wisely, give it a rest.

12-22-2004, 10:49 PM
Tuesday's Update

Whatever you do, do it with passion, with love, with full attention and awareness. Put all you have into even the smallest of acts.

The richness of life is in the doing. Fulfillment comes not from getting, taking, having or keeping, but from being and becoming.

In every action there is the opportunity for greatness. The more of yourself you put into all that you do, the more successful you will be.

This moment is not a practice or preparation. Now is when real life happens.

Give your energy, your attention, your thoughts and your love to what you are doing with now. Put yourself fully into what you do, and whatever you do will be of much value.

There is no task too small or too large to ignore. Life is truly rich when you can see that every moment, every act has its own special greatness.

12-22-2004, 10:50 PM
Today's Update

* Live like a candle, which burns itself but gives light to others.

* Be nice to others in the same way, as you want others to be nice with you.

* Life is too short to live. So, think good and say better and try to do the best. Then this world will be more beautiful to you.

* Impose your own terms upon life; if you don't, you will have to accept the terms of others.

* Look backward with gratitude, upward with confidence and forward with hope.

* When you truly care for someone you don't look for faults, you don't look for answers, you don't look for mistakes, instead you fight the mistakes, you accept the faults, and you overlook the excuses.

12-22-2004, 10:55 PM
Somewhere in you is a dream. It's probably buried deeply under all the day-to-day concerns, yet somewhere in you it lives.

It's not at all practical, and it's probably a little outrageous. Even so, it energizes your spirit like nothing else can.

It rises to the surface every now and then. And when it does, for a short while, the years melt away and you touch that place where everything seems possible.

Then it usually sinks back down under the surface of your awareness. And there it waits, patiently, never losing its hope or its luster.

Your dream, as crazy and impractical as it may seem, is trying to tell you something. Your dream, with its promise that you all too quickly, all too often dismiss, wants to tell you who you are.

Isn't it time you truly listen to what it has to say? Perhaps it is time to begin following that dream, and live the purpose with which you're blessed.

That is so very true. I would have kissed you if you were before me when i read this. (and you are fortunate enough not to be before me ;) )

Thappichar GGG. unga munnadi illa :D neenga nalla enjoy senchu padikereenganu puriyudhu Prasan8181. enjoy pannunga. :b:


12-23-2004, 11:35 PM
Today's Update

Your doubts have no power to take action. All they can do is prevent you from acting. You have far more power than any doubt. The only way doubt can stop you is if you let it.

There is no need to fight against your doubts. You can simply decide to walk away from them.

The only thing they offer you is their familiar comfort. When you're willing to let go of that, you'll have no reason to keep your doubts alive.

A small, positive action is enough to begin carrying you past any doubt. Keep in mind that doubt is just a thought, and when your experience proves it wrong, doubt will quickly wither away.

Doubts can stop you cold, but only if you allow them to do so. Take action, and the doubts will be no more.

12-24-2004, 04:17 PM
Today's Update

A small congregation in the foothills of the Great Smokies built a new sanctuary on a piece of land willed to them by a church member. Ten days before the new church was to open, the local building inspector informed the pastor that the parking lot was inadequate for the size of the building. Until the church doubled the size of the parking lot, they would not be able to use the new sanctuary.

Unfortunately, the church with its undersized lot had used every inch of their land except for the mountain against which it had been built. In order to build more parking spaces, they would have to move the mountain out of the back yard. Undaunted, the pastor announced the next Sunday morning that he would meet that evening with all members who had "mountain moving faith." They would hold a prayer session asking God to remove the mountain from the back yard and to somehow provide enough money to have it paved and painted before the scheduled opening dedication service the following week.

At the appointed time, 24 of the congregation's 300 members assembled for prayer. They prayed for nearly three hours. At ten o'clock the pastor said the final "Amen." "We'll open next Sunday as scheduled," he assured everyone. "God has never let us down before, and I believe He will be faithful this time too."

The next morning as he was working in his study there came a loud knock at his door. When he called "come in," a rough looking construction foreman appeared, removing his hard hat as he entered. "Excuse me, Reverend. I'm from Acme Construction Company over in the next county. We're building a huge new shopping mall over there and we need some fill dirt. Would you be willing to sell us a chunk of that mountain behind the church? We'll pay you for the dirt we remove and pave all the exposed area free of charge, if we can have it right away. We can't do anything else until we get the dirt in and allow it to settle properly."

The little church was dedicated the next Sunday as originally planned and there were far more members with "mountain moving faith" on opening Sunday than there had been the previous week!

Some people say faith comes from miracles. But others know: MIRACLES COME FROM FAITH!

Wish you Merry Christmas. Have a nice day and nice weekend.

12-27-2004, 11:45 PM
Today's Update:

The gifts and bright decorations will soon be put away. Yet the love in which they're shared will continue to grow even stronger.

The words and songs, rituals and traditions will soon give way to other pursuits. Yet the real hope that they express will live on, renewed again by the expressions of the season.

Christmas does not end when the gifts have all been opened and the feasting has been finished. The story of Christmas is a story of new birth, of promise, love and hope.

This day is not an end, but a brilliant new beginning. This day is an opportunity to open your heart to the best of all possibilities.

Though the years will pass and the seasons will change, time cannot erase the love and joy that live in your heart today. So give your very best to this day, for its real value will always be with you.

Whatever else it may hold for you, today is a new beginning, an opportunity to move forward with renewed purpose. And that's a gift you can always treasure.

12-28-2004, 11:44 PM
Today's Update

When you plan and prepare carefully, you can legitimately expect to have success in your efforts. When you recognize and develop the winning qualities that you were born with, the winner you were born to be emerges. When you plan and prepare to make a sale, for example, you can legitimately expect to make a sale. Although not all your expectations are going to come to pass, you give yourself an infinitely better chance of succeeding by taking the proper steps.

Regardless of your goal--losing weight, making more sales, furthering your education, earning a promotion, saving money for a new home or an exotic vacation--you can expect to achieve your goal if you plan and prepare for it.

Also understand that the path from where you are to where you want to be is not always smooth and straight. The reason for the twists and bumps is simple, and it has nothing to do with you. It has more to do with the fact that not everyone is as interested in your success as you are. Some people may accidentally hinder your efforts; others who are in competition with you and have little or no integrity may try to sabotage your efforts.

Keep in mind, though, that when you hit those roadblocks your character, commitment, and attitude are the determining factors in your success... Carefully review your plan of action, seek wise counsel, and be particularly careful to feed your mind good information. An optimistic, positive mind is far more likely to come up with creative solutions than a mind that dwells on setbacks and difficulties.

Bottom line: expect success and you can achieve it!

12-29-2004, 07:45 PM
Today's Update (on Behalf of GGG):

A group of frogs were traveling through the woods and two of them fell into a deep pit. All the other frogs gathered around the pit. When they saw how deep the pit was, they told the two frogs that they were as good as dead.

The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out of the pit with all of their might. The other frogs kept telling them to stop, that they were as good as dead. Finally, one of the frogs took heed to what the other frogs were saying and gave up. He fell down and died.

The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and just die. He jumped even harder and finally made it out.

When he got out, the other frogs said, "Did you not hear us?" The frog explained to them that he was deaf. He thought they were encouraging him the entire time.

This story teaches two lessons:
1. There is power of life and death in the tongue. An encouraging word to someone who is down can lift them up and help them make it through the day.

2. A destructive word to someone who is down can be what it takes to kill them. Be careful of what you say.

Speak life to those who cross your path. The power of words.... it is sometimes hard to understand that an encouraging word can go such a long way. Anyone can speak words that tend to rob another of the spirit to continue in difficult times.

Special is the individual who will take the time to encourage another. Be special to others.

An appeal:
Most of us aware of the worst tragedy caused by the Tsunami which took nearly 60,000 lives. Let us pray for the people died, wounded and lost their belongings in this tragedy. Also please contribute some money to the worst affected countries like Indonesia, Sri Lanka and Thailand. May be you could contribute the money which you planned to spend for the New Year eve.

12-30-2004, 11:14 PM
Today's Update:

Experience will show which choices have helped you. To learn from experience, decide to keep making those choices.

Experience will tell you which choices have held you back. To benefit from even your negative experiences, remember to avoid those same kinds of choices.

The choices you've made have brought you to where you are. Now, looking at those choices can show you how to get where you want to go.

You've experienced the reality of what works and what doesn't. So the choices you now make can be far more informed than those in your past.

You've earned the ability to be very clear in your vision for the best life can be. And you've earned the ability to make the choices that will actually get you there.

Look back at the choices you've made, and consider what they have brought you. They'll help you know what's best to choose now.

12-31-2004, 09:13 PM
Today's Update

There is a reason why you have the dreams that you have. Your dreams are yours so that you'll be compelled to follow them.

The pain you feel when you're prevented from following your dreams has the same purpose as any other pain. It is meant to get your attention and encourage you to correct the situation.

The joy you feel when following a dream is also there for a reason. That joy serves to keep you in pursuit of that dream.

Your dreams are not there to frustrate you. Your dreams encourage you to more fully become the best that you can be.

Your dreams may not seem reasonable or practical or realistic, based on your current circumstances. Keep in mind, though, that those dreams exist to encourage you to reach beyond the circumstances of the moment.

As you follow those dreams, you'll discover and develop new skills, passion, and knowledge that can carry you far. Follow your dreams, and fully become who you are.

I wish you all a Happy and Prosperous New Year. Let us pray for the world with full of peace and happiness in the coming year.

01-03-2005, 03:40 PM
Today's Update

To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out for another is to risk involvement.
To expose feelings is to risk exposing our true self.
To place your ideas, your dreams, before the crowd is to risk loss.
To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To live is to risk dying.
To hope is to risk despair.
To try at all is to risk failure.
But to risk, we must, because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The Man or the Woman who risks nothing does nothing -- has nothing -- is nothing.

Have a nice day and nice week ahead.

01-04-2005, 05:46 PM
Today's Update

Once upon a time a very strong woodcutter ask for a job in a timber merchant, and he got it. The paid was really good and so were the work conditions. For that reason, the woodcutter was determined to do his best.

His boss gave him an axe and showed him the area where he was supposed to work. The first day, the woodcutter brought 18 trees.

"Congratulations," the boss said. "Go on that way!"

Very motivated for the boss’ words, the woodcutter try harder the next day, but he only could bring 15 trees. The third day he try even harder, but he only could bring 10 trees.Day after day he was bringing less and less trees.

"I must be losing my strength", the woodcutter thought. He went to the boss and apologized, saying that he could not understand what was going on.

"When was the last time you sharpened your axe?" the boss asked.

"Sharpen? I had no time to sharpen my axe. I have been very busy trying to cut trees..."

Don't forget to sharpen your knowledge often.

01-05-2005, 05:10 PM
Today's Update:

A young but earnest Zen student approached his teacher, and asked the Zen Master: "If I work very hard and diligent how long will it take for me to find Zen."

The Master thought about this, then replied, "Ten years."

The student then said, "But what if I work very, very hard and really apply myself to learn fast -- How long then?"

Replied the Master, "Well, twenty years."

"But, if I really, really work at it. How long then?" asked the student.

"Thirty years" replied the Master.

"But, I do not understand," said the disappointed student. "At each time that I say I will work harder, you say it will take me longer. Why do you say that?"

Replied the Master, "When you have one eye on the goal, you only have one eye on the path."

01-08-2005, 12:15 AM
Thursday's Update:

The setbacks and disappointments always get your attention. That's because they have so much to say. It can be easy to wander off course without even realizing you've done so. Yet when you do, something is likely to soon go wrong that will point out the errors you have made.

It's important to pay attention to the small problems as they arise. For they can help you take action to avoid bigger problems later on. The setbacks you experience won't be pleasant. Yet they can bring you a renewed commitment to point yourself back in a positive, effective direction.

When the disappointments come, listen to what they have to say. Learn from the results, both positive and negative, and your approach will improve over time. The setbacks you experience are usually suggesting a course correction. Learn to let them set you back on track.

01-08-2005, 12:16 AM
Friday's Update:

Les Brown, a noted inspirational speaker, tells the story of one of his friends, a salesman, who was in financial trouble because sales were down. Les asked him, "How many phone calls are you making a day?" His friend answered, "Twenty five."

Les didn't hesitate with his advice. "Double them," he said. "Make fifty. Or seventy-five. Or one hundred."

The salesman answered, "Aw, man. that's too much."

"Too much!" replied Les. "You tell me that you are behind on your bills and then you say it's too much. You know, one way to get back on your feet real quick is to miss two car payments. How can you say anything is too much when you have everything at stake?"

The advice Les Brown gave his friend needs to be heard by people everywhere. It's amazing what we can do when we're "hungry" for success. Most people who say "I've tried," haven't scratched the surface of their potential.

Today, why not make a commitment to achieve your personal best?

Have a nice day and nice weekend.

02-24-2005, 10:55 PM
I received this by mail & since our GGG is busy thought of posting it here :)

A farmer had some puppies he needed to sell. He painted a sign advertising the 4 pups. And set about nailing it to a post on the edge of his yard. As he was driving the last nail into the post, he felt a tug on his overalls. He looked down into the eyes of a little boy. "Mister," he said, "I want to buy one of your puppies."

"Well," said the farmer, as he rubbed the sweat of the back of his neck, "These puppies come from fine parents and cost a good deal of money." The boy dropped his head for a moment. Then reaching deep into his pocket, he pulled out a handful of change and held it up to the farmer. "I've got thirty-nine cents. Is that enough to take a look?"

"Sure," said the farmer. And with that he let out a whistle. "Here, Dolly!" he called. Out from the doghouse and down the ramp ran Dolly followed by four little balls of fur. The little boy pressed his face against the chain link fence. His eyes danced with delight. As the dogs made their way to the fence, the little boy noticed something else stirring inside the doghouse. Slowly another little ball appeared, this one noticeably smaller. Down the ramp it slid. Then in a somewhat awkward manner, the little pup began hobbling toward the others,doing its best to catch up....

"I want that one," the little boy said, pointing to the runt. The farmer knelt down at the boy's side and said, "Son, you don't want that puppy. He will never be able to run and play with you like these other dogs would." With that the little boy stepped back from the fence, reached down, and began rolling up one leg of his trousers. In doing so he revealed a steel brace running down both sides of his leg attaching itself to a specially made shoe. Looking back up at the farmer, he said, "You see sir, I don't run too well myself, and he will need someone who understands." With tears in his eyes, the farmer reached down and picked up the little pup. Holding it carefully he handed it to the little boy. "How much?" asked the little boy. "No charge," answered the farmer, "There's no charge for love."

The world is full of people who need someone who understands.

02-24-2005, 11:03 PM
That's wonderful, pattams. Thanks.

03-08-2005, 05:27 PM
I will update the thoughts that was missed for the last approx 43 working days on behalf of GGG that too very soon. GGG is bit busy with some other work. he asked me to do that. so keep tracking this thread..


03-08-2005, 05:38 PM
Update for 10.01.2005

A businessman was highly critical of his competitors' storefront windows. "Why, they are the dirtiest windows in town," he claimed. Fellow business people grew tired of the man's continual criticism and nitpicking comments about the windows. One day over coffee, the businessman carried the subject just too far.

Before leaving, a fellow store owner suggested the man get his own windows washed. He followed the advice, and the next day at coffee, he exclaimed, "I can't believe it. As soon as I washed my windows, my competitor must have cleaned his too. You should see them shine."

Confucius once declared, "Don't complain about the snow on your neighbor's roof when your own doorstep is unclean."

03-08-2005, 05:49 PM
Update for 11.01.2005

When the road ahead is long, that is no reason to slow down. When there is much work to be done, that is no reason to be discouraged. In fact, it is a reason to get going. It is a reason to get started as soon as possible.

For when there is much to be done, there is an abundance of positive opportunities. When the road ahead is long, there are countless ways for you to make a difference. The greatest achievements come in response to the greatest challenges. The richest, most fulfilling journeys are the ones that seem impossibly long.

When there is much to be done, there is enormous value to be created. Those who step forward, those who make the effort, those who persist will be able to claim that value.

When the road is long, when the challenges are great, that is your chance to truly shine. For when you give it all you have, you end up with the best you can be.

03-08-2005, 07:52 PM
For when you give it all you have, you end up with the best you can be.

hmmm....but sometimes it cud lead to dissappoinments too

WB Krish :b:

03-08-2005, 07:55 PM
yen pattams.. manam irunthaal margam undu solvaangalae.. am i not getting it correctly.. peech explain :oops:


03-08-2005, 08:08 PM
yen pattams.. manam irunthaal margam undu solvaangalae.. am i not getting it correctly.. peech explain


Sometimes we do everything we can shy...but still misunderstanding varudhu illaiya??...making u doubht where u went wrong...or how can have i done differentlynu yosika thonudhu illaiya?

03-08-2005, 08:17 PM
yen pattams.. manam irunthaal margam undu solvaangalae.. am i not getting it correctly.. peech explain


Sometimes we do everything we can shy...but still misunderstanding varudhu illaiya??...making u doubht where u went wrong...or how can have i done differentlynu yosika thonudhu illaiya?

oh ok ok.. now I get it.. I agree pattams... yes at times evaloo thaan namba senchu irunthaalum, its not in our hands for the ending :( some negative things might happen too.. Well, thats fate i guess...


03-09-2005, 03:19 PM
Update for 12.01.2005

1. Don't think of problems as difficulties. Think of them as opportunities for action.

2. After you've done your best to deal with a situation, avoid speculating about the outcome. Forget it and go onto the next thing.

3. Keep busy. Keep the 24 hours of your day filled with these three ingredients: work, recreation, and sleep. Don't allow yourself time for abstract thinking.

4. Don't concern yourself with things you can't do anything about. Armchair generals don't win battles, but they do have nervous breakdowns.

5. For the time being anyway, eliminate daydreaming completely. Stop building air castles.

6. Don't procrastinate. Putting off an unpleasant task until tomorrow simply gives you more time for your imagination to make a mountain out a possible molehill. More time for anxiety to sap your self-confidence. Do it now, brother, do it now.

7. Don't pour woes and anxieties to other people. You don't want their sympathy - it'll merely make it easy for you to feel sorrier for yourself.

8. Get up as soon as you wake up. If you lie in bed, you may use up as much nervous energy living your day in advance as you would in actual accomplishment of the day's work.

9. Try to arrange your schedule so that you will not have to hurry. Hurry, a blood brother to worry, helps shatter poise and self-confidence, and contributes to fear and anxiety.

10. If a project seems too big, break it up into simple steps of action. Then negotiate those steps-link rungs in a ladder...one at a time. And don't allow yourself to think about the difficulties of step number two until you've executed step number one.

03-09-2005, 03:21 PM
Update for 13.01.2005

When the reason why is powerful enough, you can find the strength necessary to get the job done. When the reason why is clear enough, you can develop the discipline required to reach the goal.

When the reason why is meaningful enough, you will gain access to the resources you need to make it happen. When the reason why is compelling enough, you will have the persistence needed to see it through.

Whatever you undertake, it is essential to understand and connect to the reason why you're doing it. With a strong enough and meaningful enough reason why, you will find a way there.

Though the obstacles may seem overwhelming, a compelling reason why will motivate you to get past them. Though the challenges may be enormous, a clear reason why will bring you the encouragement necessary to work through them.

Before you begin, ask yourself why. When the going gets rough, remind yourself why.

Know, understand, and connect to a meaningful reason why. And you'll find a way to get it done.

03-09-2005, 03:22 PM
Update for 14.01.2005

You have heard of the cup that overflowed. This is a story of a bucket that is like the cup, only larger, it is an invisible bucket. Everyone has one. It determines how we feel about ourselves, about others, and how we get along with people. Have you ever experienced a series of very favorable things which made you want to be good to people for a week? At that time, your bucket was full.

A bucket can be filled by a lot of things that happen. When a person speaks to you, recognizing you as a human being, your bucket is filled a little. Even more if he calls you by name, especially if it is the name you like to be called. If he compliments you on your dress or on a job well done, the level in your bucket goes up still higher. There must be a million ways to raise the level in another's bucket. Writing a friendly letter, remembering something that is special to him, knowing the names of his children, expressing sympathy for his loss, giving him a hand when his work is heavy, taking time for conversation, or, perhaps more important, listing to him.

When one's bucket is full of this emotional support, one can express warmth and friendliness to people. But, remember, this is a theory about a bucket and a dipper. Other people have dippers and they can get their dippers in your bucket. This, too, can be done in a million ways.

Lets say I am at a dinner and inadvertently upset a glass of thick, sticky chocolate milk that spills over the table cloth, on a lady's skirt, down onto the carpet. I am embarrassed. "Bright Eyes" across the table says, "You upset that glass of chocolate milk." I made a mistake, I know I did, and then he told me about it! He got his dipper in my bucket! Think of the times a person makes a mistake, feels terrible about it, only to have someone tell him about the known mistake ("Red pencil" mentality!)

Buckets are filled and buckets are emptied ? emptied many times because people don't really think about what are doing. When a person's bucket is emptied, he is very different than when it is full. You say to a person whose bucket is empty, "That is a pretty tie you have," and he may reply in a very irritated, defensive manner.

Although there is a limit to such an analogy, there are people who seem to have holes in their buckets. When a person has a hole in his bucket, he irritates lots of people by trying to get his dipper in their buckets. This is when he really needs somebody to pour it in his bucket because he keeps losing.

The story of our lives is the interplay of the bucket and the dipper. Everyone has both. The unyielding secret of the bucket and the dipper is that when you fill another's bucket it does not take anything out of your own bucket. The level in our own bucket gets higher when we fill another's, and, on the other hand, when we dip into another's bucket we do not fill our own ... we lose a little.

For a variety of reasons, people hesitate filling the bucket of another and consequently do not experience the fun, joy, happiness, fulfillment, and satisfaction connected with making another person happy. Some reasons for this hesitancy are that people think it sounds "fakey," or the other person will be suspicious of the motive, or it is "brown-nosing."

Therefore, let us put aside our dipper and resolve to touch someone's life in order to fill their bucket.

03-09-2005, 03:24 PM
Update for 17.01.2005

* If you were just one step away from reaching your goal, would you take that step? How do you know, right now, that you're not?

* What a shame it would be to stop making the effort, when just a little bit more would make it all worthwhile. What a shame it would be to have taken all those steps, only to miss the very last one.

* The next step you take may very well be the one that makes all the others count. You owe it to yourself, and the efforts you've made, to keep going.

* No, the next step may not get you there. Yet what about the one after that? If you keep moving ahead, a little at a time, you will indeed arrive. When you take that final, triumphant step, you'll be so very thankful you persevered.

* At some point success is just one step away. Keep going and you'll be there.

03-09-2005, 03:27 PM
Update for 18.01.2005

Be the first to smile. When there is no reason to smile is when a smile is needed the most.

Be the first to forgive. And forever leave the negativity of the past where it belongs, in the past.

Be the first to take action. The sooner you act, the more you will accomplish.

Be the first to say thank you. A grateful attitude will bring more richness into your life.

Be the first to adapt to new and different situations. When you embrace change, you get it working in your favor.

Don't wait any longer for the best that life can be. Be the first to move forward, and be the one to make it happen.

03-09-2005, 03:30 PM
Update for 19.01.2005

Give a little kindness, and receive friendship in return.
Give an extra effort, and receive even more value in return.
Give an honest answer, and receive trust in return.
Give a smile, and receive joy in return.
Give with real meaning, and receive fulfillment in return.
Give thanks, and receive true abundance in return.
Give your full attention, and receive a positive experience in return.
Give your knowledge, and learn something in return.
Give what you treasure most, and receive much more of it in return.
Give what you can, and receive the best of who you are.
Give of yourself, and receive a life of richness in return.

03-09-2005, 03:34 PM
Update for 20.01.2005

Doubt is nothing but a thought. And you can choose to let go of any doubtful thought. When experience proves it wrong, it will quickly go away.

The way to get beyond doubt is to take action. Even a small positive step forward can begin to melt away a big, imposing doubt. When you fight and strive against your doubt, it grows stronger. Yet when you simply ignore that doubt, and take positive action, the doubt withers away to nothing.

Doubt exists in your mind. Put it out of your mind, and it has no place to live.

Fill your mind with positive thoughts, and your moments with positive, productive action. And doubt will never hold you back.

03-09-2005, 03:37 PM
Update for 21.01.2005

Once upon a time, there was a king who ruled a prosperous country. One day, he went for a trip to some distant areas of his country. When he was back to his palace, he complained that his feet were very painful, because it was the first time that he went for such a long trip, and the road that he went through was very rough and stony. He then ordered his people to cover every road of the entire country with leather. Definitely, this would need thousands of cows' skin, and would cost a huge amount of money.

Then one of his wise servant dared himself to tell the king, "Why do you have to spend that unnecessary amount of money ? Why don't you just cut a little piece of leather to cover your feet ?"

The king was surprised, but he later agreed to his suggestion, to make a "shoe" for himself.

There is actually a valuable lesson of life in this story: to make this world a happy place to live, you better change yourself - your heart; and not the world.

03-09-2005, 03:43 PM
Update for 24.01.2005

Today does not have to be the same as yesterday. You can make it better. Just because you've been in a negative pattern does not mean that you have to stay in that pattern. You can change it.

If the day has gotten off to a bad start, it doesn't have to end that way. You can turn it around. When life has been disappointing, you don't have to continue to be disappointed. You can make positive changes.

Though there's nothing you can do to change the past, it is now over. The future is yours to create, beginning right now. Life is filled with possibilities from this point forward. You can choose, and you can follow, the very best.

03-09-2005, 03:47 PM
Update for 25.01.2005

A mechanic was removing a cylinder head from the motor of a Harley, when he spotted a famous heart surgeon in his shop. The heart surgeon was waiting for the service manager to come and take a look at his bike.

The mechanic shouted across the garage, "Hey Doc, can I ask you a question?"

The famous surgeon, a bit surprised, walked over to the mechanic working on the motorcycle.

The mechanic straightened up, wiped his hands on a rag and asked, "So Doc, look at this engine. I also can open it up, take valves out, fix'em, put in new parts and when I finish, this will work just like a new one. So how come I get a pittance and you get the really big money, when you and I are doing basically the same work?"

The surgeon paused, smiled and leaned over, and whispered to the mechanic...
"Try doing it while it's running!"

Each profession has its own difficulties. So we should not simply underestimate and criticise others profession.

03-09-2005, 03:52 PM
Update for 26.01.2005

Don't let today get away from you. It is far too precious to waste. Give the best of yourself to this day and it will be with you always. Though the hours will quickly pass and the day will end, the value you put into it will go on and on.

Don't postpone your enjoyment of life for another moment. Today is the day to bring the best of your dreams to life. Do some of those things you've been meaning to do. Get in touch with those people you've been meaning to see.

Today is when you have the opportunity to make something happen. Today is your time to live with all the fullness you can imagine. This day is here now, ready for you to fill with your own special value. Fill it, live it, and make it one to always treasure.

03-09-2005, 03:57 PM
Update for 27.01.2005

How many of us have applied the positive thinking and mind power theories in our life only to be frustrated with the results?

Maybe we read a motivational book or attended a seminar and we were told that we only get what we expect. So we applied expectation to our dream and currently the dream looks more like a nightmare. Is it possible that the "What we sow, we reap" law has gone wrong for us? Why, we may ask.

The short of a long story is that we often only focus on the surface of the retribution law. It's true that "what we sow, we reap". But what we forget is that there's supposed to be a space between sowing and reaping: it is not an instant process. If we try to reap in the wrong season, we reap frustration. If we try to reap in the wrong season, we do NOT get what we expect and we don't reap what we sowed. It's for this reason most ancient religious texts speak of everything having an order and a season.

Imagine a farmer deciding to reap a crop in the wrong season and later proclaiming he's a failure as a farmer when the harvest fails. We would laugh at him and tell him to look at the calendar. Trouble is, in our own lives, we do a similar thing far too often and then wonder why things turn out wrong. If results are contrary to our expectations, go check the season - we might just be early.

Don't mistake delay for denial by life. Timing is everything - for this reason, patience is a vital ingredient in success planning. Patience will give us keys to the kingdom!

03-09-2005, 04:08 PM
Update for 28.01.2005

The way to take control is to take responsibility. The way to gain maximum influence over anything is to become fully responsible for it.

Responsibility may sometimes seem like a burden. That's because discipline, focus and effort are necessary in order to maintain responsibility. Even so, responsibility is not a burden so much as it is an opportunity. For it is through living with responsibility, day in and day out, that great and valuable things are achieved.

With responsibility, you can take a confusing situation and give it clarity. With responsibility, what was previously considered impossible can become a reality.

You can add significant value to any aspect of your life by taking responsibility for it. Where responsibility goes, success follows.

Get in the habit of looking for ways to take responsibility. And you'll find yourself firmly, positively in control.

03-09-2005, 04:22 PM
Update for 31.01.2005

Today, many will awaken with a fresh sense of inspiration. Why not you?

Today, many will open their eyes to the beauty that surrounds them. Why not you?

Today, many will choose to leave the ghost of yesterday behind and seize the immeasurable power of today. Why not you?

Today, many will break through the barriers of the past by looking at the blessings of the present. Why not you?

Today, for many the burden of self doubt and insecurity will be lifted by the security and confidence of empowerment. Why not you?

Today, many will rise above their believed limitations and make contact with their powerful innate strength. Why not you?

Today, many will choose to live in such a manner that they will be a positive role model for their children. Why not you?

Today, many will choose to free themselves from the personal imprisonment of their bad habits. Why not you?

Today, many will choose to live free of conditions and rules governing their own happiness. Why not you?

Today, many will find abundance in simplicity. Why not you?

Today, many will be confronted by difficult moral choices and they will choose to do what is right instead of what is beneficial. Why not you?

Today, many will decide to no longer sit back with a victim mentality, but to take charge of their lives and make positive changes. Why not you?

Today, many will take the action necessary to make a difference. Why not you?

Today, many will make the commitment to be a better mother, father, son, daughter, student, teacher, worker, boss, brother, sister, & so much more. Why not you?

Today is a new day! Many will seize this day. Many will live it to the fullest. Why not you?

03-09-2005, 04:37 PM
Update for 01.02.2005

Shine a positive light on the people around you. And they'll live up to the best of your expectations.

Shine a positive light on the circumstances in which you find yourself. And you'll discover opportunities to create real, lasting value.

Shine a positive light on the disappointments that can hurt so much. And you'll learn how to successfully move forward.

Shine a positive light on the things you cannot control. And you'll find plenty of ways to achieve whatever you intend.

Shine a positive light on the moments of each day. And you'll see real treasure in every direction.

Shine a positive light on life. And the life you experience will be filled with true richness.

04-28-2005, 01:18 PM
Update for 02.02.2005

The Pencil Maker took the pencil aside, just before putting him into the box. There are 5 things you need to know, he told the pencil, before I send you out into the world. Always remember them and never forget, and you will become the best pencil you can be.

One: You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in someone's hand.

Two: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, but you'll need it to become a better pencil.

Three: You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make.

Four: The most important part of you will always be what's inside.

And Five: On every surface you are used on, you must leave your mark. No matter what the condition, you must continue to write.

The pencil understood and promised to remember, and went into the box with purpose in its heart.

Now change places with the pencil. Always remember them and never forget, and you will become the best person you can be.

04-28-2005, 01:19 PM
Update for 03.02.2005

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life, and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it, and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first pot, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word. In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what do you see?" "Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied. She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they got soft. She then asked her to take the egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to smell and sip the coffee. The daughter smiled, as she smelled and tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, "What's the point, mother?"

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity- boiling water-but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When trials and adversity knock on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I?

Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a passive heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside, am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?

Or, am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you become better and change the situation around you.

When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level?

How do you handle adversity - like the CARROT, the EGG, OR the COFFEE BEAN?

Handle it like the COFFEE BEAN...

04-28-2005, 01:20 PM
Update for 04.02.2005

Pick one of the many moments that make up this day, and set it aside for something truly special. Take that one moment, and make it the best you can imagine.

In your one special moment today, let go of every last bit of anger, fear, resentment and sorrow. Fill your moment with hope, love, beauty and joy.

Spend that moment appreciating how truly precious life is. Experience, for a moment, complete, profound and unrestrained joy.

Understand, in that moment, that all you could ever need or want is already available to you. Resolve, in that moment, to fulfill the highest and best of your possibilities.

In one special moment, live a life that is exactly the way you know it should be. For one special moment, be fully and without reservation the person you truly are.

Make yourself a moment filled to the brim with the best of life. And you'll soon find yourself making many more.

04-28-2005, 01:22 PM
Update for 07.02.2005

When you imagine it, it's possible. When you visualize it in every detail, it's possible.

When you expect it to happen, it's possible. When you develop a workable, realistic plan, it's possible.

When you put forth sustained, effective effort, it's possible. When you make a solid commitment, it's possible.

When you're willing to work through whatever challenges and obstacles may come your way, it's possible. When you persist through all the ups and downs while always looking forward, it's possible.

When you can learn from the mistakes and gain strength from the disappointments, it's possible. When you put your creativity, passion and enthusiasm to work, it's possible.

When you imagine and visualize, expect and plan for it, when you work and commit and persist, passionately facing every challenge, it is not merely possible. It is certain to happen.

04-28-2005, 01:22 PM
Update for 08.02.2005

One night a man had a dream. He dreamt that he was walking along the beach with the Lord. Across the sky flashed scenes from his life. For each scene he noticed two sets of footprints in the sand; one belonging to him, and the other to the Lord.

When the last scene of his life flashed before him, he looked back at the footprints in the sand. He noticed that at many times along the path of his life there were only one set of footprints. He also noticed that it happened at the very lowest and saddest times in his life.

This really bothered him and he questioned the Lord about it. "Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you, you would walk with me all the way. But I noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life, there is only one set of footprints. I don't understand why when I needed you most would you leave me."

The Lord replied, "My precious, precious child, I love you and would never leave you. During your times of trial and suffering, when you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you."

04-28-2005, 01:23 PM
Update for 09.02.2005

Kindness is one of the most powerful tools available to you. Kindness can positively transform your world in a way that nothing else can.

When your heart is filled with kindness, your thoughts and actions are driven by a positive, creative force. Instead of being needlessly distracted by anger, envy or despair, your eyes are more fully open to the many valuable possibilities.

Act with kindness toward others. You'll create an atmosphere of understanding and cooperation in which amazing things can be accomplished.

Be kind to yourself. You'll make it possible to clearly focus your considerable creative energy on achieving the highest and best of your dreams.

Choose to act with kindness, and you free yourself from the heavy burden of negativity. Persist in your kindness, and you rise to higher and higher levels of true, meaningful accomplishment.

Kindness transforms profoundly and spreads quickly. Let kindness freely flow from you, and it will surely change your world.

04-28-2005, 01:24 PM
Good ones GGG today !!!!! encouraging and making one beleive that nothing is impossible :b:


04-28-2005, 01:24 PM
Update for 10.02.2005

Don't spend major time with minor people.
If there are people in your life who continually disappoint you, break promises, stomp on your dreams, are too judgmental, have different values and don't have your back during difficult times...that is not friendship.

To have a friend, be a friend.
Sometimes in life as you grow, your friends will either grow or go. Surround yourself with people who reflect values, goals interests and lifestyles.

When you think of any of your successes,
You are thankful to God from whom all blessings flow, and to your family and friends who enrich your life.

Over the years your phone book has changed because you changed, for the better.
At first, you think you're going to be alone, but after awhile, new people show up in your life that make it so much sweeter and easier to endure.

Remember what your elders used to say,
"Birds of a feather flock together.
If you're an eagle, don't hang around chickens; Chickens can't fly!"

04-28-2005, 01:25 PM
Update for 11.02.2005

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly, that he brought home.

One day a small opening appeared, he sat and watched the butterfly for several hours. It struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and it could go no further.

So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily, but, it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. He continued to watch the butterfly, he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and the body would contract. Neither happened!

In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It was never able to fly.

The man acted with well-intentioned kindness but he didn't understand the consequences. The restricting cocoon and the struggle required to get through the tiny opening, were nature's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If we were to go through life without any obstacles, it would cripple us. We would not be as strong as we could have been and we could never fly.

So the next time you are faced with an obstacle, a challenge, or a problem, remember the butterfly. Struggle a little - then fly!

04-28-2005, 01:26 PM
Update for 14.02.2005

When troubles come toward you, let peace come from you. When the world is filled with anger, frustration and confusion, that is when a peaceful heart can be the most valuable.

The more peaceful you are, the more effective you become. When your heart is filled with peace, your energy is more positively and purposefully focused.

The longer you remain peaceful, the stronger you become. Peace on the inside thus leads to real, meaningful success on the outside.

You can choose to carry peace within you, no matter what may be happening around you. Let the calm, deep power of peace energize your spirit and it will surely make a difference.

With peace at your very core, your thoughts are clear and your actions filled with purpose. Whatever the challenges of the moment may be, you have what it takes to move successfully through them.

Peace is something you can always choose to carry confidently inside you. The more you do, the more moments you'll fill with purpose and meaning.

04-28-2005, 01:27 PM
Update for 15.02.2005

A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20.00 bill. In the room of 200, he asked, "Who would like this $20 bill?" Hands started going up.

He said, "I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this." He proceeded to crumple the $20 dollar bill up. He then asked, "Who still wants it?" Still the hands were up in the air. "Well", he replied, "What if I do this?" And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty. "Now who still wants it?" Still the hands went into the air. "My friends, we have all learned a very valuable lesson", he said, "No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20.

Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless.... and especially to those who love you.

The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or whom we know, but by WHO WE ARE.

"You are special - Don't EVER forget it."

04-28-2005, 01:28 PM
Update for 16.02.2005

Sometimes the way to move ahead faster is to slow down. Sometimes the way to get more done is to stop trying so hard.

When you're relentlessly pushing yourself, then the pushing becomes your focus and you can lose sight of your true objective. When you're constantly busy being constantly busy, it can be easy to forget what you seek to accomplish.

Hurrying through a task can burn you out and create mistakes that you'll have to spend more time fixing. Keep in mind that sprinting is not a workable strategy for winning a marathon.

Slowing down to a sustainable pace can actually make the results come faster. Remember that your goal is not simply to be busy, but to accomplish something of value with your efforts.

Take a deep breath, calm your mind, and focus your thoughts on where you're going. There is much power in moving thoughtfully and deliberately.

Time and steady persistence will achieve much more than frantic, hurried turmoil. Go fast enough to get it done, yet slow enough to get it right.

04-28-2005, 01:29 PM
Update for 17.02.2005

A wise woman who was traveling in the mountains found a precious stone in a stream. The next day she met another traveler who was hungry, and the wise woman opened her bag to share her food. The hungry traveler saw the precious stone and asked the woman to give it to him. She did so without hesitation.

The traveler left, rejoicing in his good fortune. He knew the stone was worth enough to give him security for a lifetime.

But, a few days later, he came back to return the stone to the wise woman. "I've been thinking," he said. "I know how valuable this stone is, but I give it back in the hope that you can give me something even more precious. Give me what you have within you that enabled you to give me this stone."

Sometimes it's not the wealth you have but what's inside you that others need.

04-28-2005, 01:30 PM
Update for 18.02.2005

Your life is all about you -- not in a selfish way, but rather in an empowering, creative and giving way. The world you see is the world you imagine to see.

The life you experience is the life you expect to experience. So imagine the best, and expect the best.

Desire to fill your own life with true, authentic richness, and you will fill the rest of the world with that richness. You give to life to the degree that you more fully become yourself.

There is no one else just like you. So you have the vital responsibility and the delightful opportunity to let your life unfold in all its fullness and splendor.

Your most treasured desires, when you follow them as far as they will go, are truly valuable things you have to give to life. Connect with those desires and live them out.

Work to fulfill your dreams, and in the process you'll be giving your own special gifts to life. You'll feel the genuine fulfillment of lifting the whole world along with you.

04-28-2005, 01:31 PM
Update for 21.02.2005

Nothing ever goes wrong. Whatever happens, happens for a reason.

When events don't go your way, there is a reason. When you don't achieve the desired results, there is a reason.

And precisely because there is a reason why things are the way they are, there is a way to change them. To achieve a different result simply requires a different cause.

Instead of assuming that the world has unfairly turned against you, seek to understand the cause of your misfortune. Once you know what's causing the result you don't want, you'll have a strategy for creating what you do want.

What you see as a problem has not been put in place to hold you back. It is merely the inevitable result of whatever is causing it.

Understand the cause, understand the reason, and you can change it for the better. There is a reason behind what happens, so make that reason work for you.

04-28-2005, 01:32 PM
Update for 22.02.2005

There is some way to get beyond every limiting factor that exists outside you. The limitations within you, however, are the ones that most stubbornly hold you back.

The challenges and obstacles outside you usually require time, effort and persistence to get beyond. Getting past the limitations within you requires nothing more than the simple act of letting go.

Yet all too often, those self-imposed limitations persist, day after day, year after year. But every one of them can be gone the moment you choose to let go.

Why do you cling so tightly to the limiting thoughts, the assumptions, and the feelings that hold you back? It doesn't really matter why.

What matters is that you realize those self-imposed limitations are not a permanent part of you. You can choose, at any time, to leave them behind.

When you do, you'll find that you can easily and naturally handle whatever challenges life may throw your way. When you leave your limitations behind, you'll be moving quickly and solidly ahead.

04-28-2005, 01:33 PM
Update for 23.02.2005

A story is told about a soldier who was finally coming home after having fought in Vietnam. He called his parents from San Francisco. "Mom and Dad, I'm coming home, but I've got a favor to ask. I have a friend I'd like to bring with me."

"Sure," they replied, "we'd love to meet him."

"There's something you should know," the son continued. "He was hurt pretty badly in the fighting. He stepped on a land mine and lost an arm and a leg. He has nowhere else to go, and I want him to come live with us."

"I'm sorry to hear that, son. Maybe we can help him find somewhere to live." "No, Mom and Dad, I want him to live with us."

"Son," said the father, "you don't know what you're asking. Someone with such a handicap would be a terrible burden on us. We have our own lives to live, and we can't let something like this interfere with our lives. I think you should just come home and forget about this guy. He'll find a way to live on his own."

At that point, the son hung up the phone.

The parents heard nothing more from him. A few days later, however, they received a call from the San Francisco police. Their son had died after falling from a building, they were told. The police believed it was suicide. The grief-stricken parents flew to San Francisco and were taken to the city morgue to identify the body of their son. They recognized him, but to their horror they also discovered something they didn't know, their son had only one arm and one leg.

The parents in this story are like many of us. We find it easy to love those who are good-looking or fun to have around, but we don't like people who inconvenience us or make us feel uncomfortable. We would rather stay away from people who aren't as healthy, beautiful, or smart as we are.

Thankfully, there's someone who won't treat us that way. Someone who loves us with an unconditional love that welcomes us into the forever family, regardless of how messed up we are. Tonight, before you tuck yourself in for the night, say a little prayer that God will give you the strength you need to accept people as they are, and to help us all be more understanding of those who are different from us!!!

There's a miracle called Friendship that dwells in the heart. You don't know how it happens or when it gets started. But you know the special lift. It always brings and you realize that Friendship is God's most precious gift! Friends are a very rare jewel, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, and they always want to open their hearts to us. Show your friends today how much you care.

04-28-2005, 01:33 PM
Update for 24.02.2005

There are as many definitions of success as there are people who pursue it. Real success is what feels right to you, what you know in your heart that it is.

If you have to compromise your most deeply held values to achieve success, that isn't success. If you have to make yourself miserable to achieve success, that isn't success.

Real success comes from bringing to life the best of who you are. It has nothing to do with acquiring trinkets or exercising power over others.

Real success comes when you use each moment to express a purpose that is uniquely you. Success is a gift you work to give rather than a position you strive to attain.

You can never be happy by accumulating things you don't truly cherish, no matter how many of them you may have. Happiness is yours when you simply let it be, with no conditions and no requirements.

Move on past the disappointment that comes from following a dream that is not yours. Be the best of who you are, and live the joy of real success.

04-28-2005, 01:34 PM
Update for 25.02.2005

Life is made enjoyable not by certain people, activities or circumstances. Life is enjoyable when you decide to enjoy it. And that can be any time, at any place, with or without anyone else. Whether the moment is quiet or noisy, bright or dark, peaceful or frenzied, you can decide to enjoy.

Enjoyment is much more than just a pleasant experience. Enjoyment adds power and effectiveness to whatever you're doing. When you're enjoying life, you become better at it. Enjoyment makes you more focused, more committed, and more inspired.

Enjoyment connects you to the best that is within you. And it shows in the results you get. Even when there's no good reason to enjoy where you are, enjoyment is its own best reason. So choose to enjoy, and delight in the real value it brings.

04-28-2005, 01:35 PM
Update for 28.02.2005

A simple friend has never seen you cry.
A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears.

A simple friend doesn't know your parents' first names.
A real friend has their phone numbers in his address book.

A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party.
A real friend comes early to help you cook and clean.

A simple friend hates it when you call after he has gone to bed.
A real friend asks you why you took so long to call.

A simple friend seeks to talk with you about their problems.
A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.

A simple friend wonders about your romantic history.
A real friend could blackmail you with it.

A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest.
A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself.

A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when you have an argument.
A real friend knows that it's not a friendship until after you've had a fight.

A simple friend expects you to always be there for them.
A real friend expects to always be there for you!

04-28-2005, 01:36 PM
Update for 01.03.2005

Even when it seems that you're not making progress, you most likely are. The biggest breakthroughs often come after a long period of being stuck. If you're making a focused, determined effort, then you are making positive progress, even if you can't see it yet. Keep going, for the breakthrough will come.

It is impossible to create value without receiving value in return. Keep working to create value, and the value you seek will come to you in time. Your next bit of effort may be what finally makes everything start falling into place. You may already be so close to the goal that you can almost touch it.

Keep going, for your efforts will pay off. Keep on acting with purpose, with focus and commitment. The path to the top of the mountain of accomplishment will grow steeper as you near the summit. When the going gets difficult, keep going, for it means you're almost there.

04-28-2005, 01:36 PM
Update for 02.03.2005

* There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days. All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten, will pass to someone else. Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance. It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed. Your grudges, resentments, frustrations, and jealousies will finally disappear.

* So, too, your hopes, ambitions, plans, and to-do lists will expire. The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away. It won't matter where you came from, or on what side of the tracks you lived, at the end. It won't matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant.

* Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant.

* So what will matter? How will the value of your days be measured?

* What will matter is not what you bought, but what you built; not what you got, but what you gave. What will matter is not your success, but your significance. What will matter is not what you learned, but what you taught. What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage or sacrifice that enriched, empowered or encouraged others to emulate your example.

* What will matter is not your competence, but your character. What will matter is not how many people you knew, but how many will feel a lasting loss when you're gone. What will matter are not your memories, but the memories that live in those who loved you. What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom and for what.

* Living a life that matters doesn't happen by accident. It's not a matter of circumstance but of choice.

* Choose to live a life that matters.

* "We make a living by what we get; we make a life by what we give".

04-28-2005, 01:37 PM
Update for 03.03.2005

The energy you devote to being annoyed brings you nothing of value in return. So choose to quickly let go of your need to be annoyed.

The time and energy you put into being offended adds nothing positive to your life. So decide to quickly let go of your need to be offended.

Winning petty arguments will do nothing to enhance your relationships. So find a way to quickly let go of the need to prove that you're right.

There are many things that can hold you back. But they'll hold you back only as long as you continue to hold on to them.

Each day is filled with plenty of valid reasons to be angry, resentful, jealous, frustrated, offended and annoyed. All that negativity can stop you cold if you allow it to take up long-term residence in your life.

So make the choice to quickly let it go. And free yourself to soar above it all.

04-28-2005, 01:38 PM
Update for 04.03.2005

One day a father and his rich family took his son to a trip to the country with the firm purpose to show him how poor people can be. They spent a day and a night in the farm of a very poor family. When they got back from their trip the father asked his son, "How was the trip?"

"Very good Dad!" replied his son.

"Did you see how poor people can be?" the father asked.


"And what did you learn?"

The son answered, "I saw that we have a dog at home, and they have four. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of the garden; they have a creek that has no end. We have imported lamps in the garden; they have the stars. Our patio reaches to the front yard, they have a whole horizon." When the little boy was finishing, his father was speechless.

His son added, "Thanks Dad for showing me how poor we are!"

Our outlook on life depends on the way you look at things. What others may think as riches, others may want. The most important things in life are your friends, family, health, good humor and a positive attitude towards life. If you have these then you have everything!

04-28-2005, 01:39 PM
Update for 07.03.2005

Most things that end up being urgent didn't start out that way. Most urgent matters, had they been addressed when they first came up, would not have to be rushed.

Putting off a difficult task until later only makes it more difficult. To truly make your life easier, go ahead and take care of the hard stuff as early as you can.

When you put off something that needs to be done, you don't get rid of it. You merely make it more burdensome than it otherwise would have been.

Each time you procrastinate you deny yourself the opportunity to get the work done calmly and carefully, at a comfortable pace. Instead, you push the work to a time and place where it must be hurried.

That ends up creating needness anxiety and reducing your effectiveness. The far better choice is to go ahead and get it done before the need for urgency sets in.

What could you take care of today that would prevent you from having to deal with an urgent matter later? Go ahead, get it done, and bring more peace and positive purpose to your life.

04-28-2005, 01:40 PM
Update for 08.03.2005

A man meets a guru in the road. The man asks the guru, "which way is success?"

The berobed, bearded sage speaks not but points to a place off in the distance.

The man, thrilled by the prospect of quick and easy success, rushes off in the appropriate direction. Suddenly, there comes a loud "SPLAT." Eventually, the man limps back, tattered and stunned, assuming he must have misinterpreted the message. He repeats his question to the guru, who again points silently in the same direction.

The man obediently walks off once more. This time the splat is deafening, and when the man crawls back, he is bloody, broken, tattered, and irate. "I asked you which way is success," he screams at the guru. "I followed the direction you indicated. And all I got was splatted! No more of this pointing! Talk!"

Only then does the guru speak, and what he says is this: "Success IS that way. Just a little PAST splat."

04-28-2005, 01:41 PM
Update for 09.03.2005

Self discipline is not something you acquire. It is something you use. When you make use of it, self discipline will help to bring about anything you can imagine. And it is yours to use whenever you choose.

You don't need to take a certain course or read a particular book or attend a weekend workshop in order to benefit from self discipline. The benefits of self discipline come, not with any special knowledge or skill, but with simple practice.

When you decide to discipline yourself to achieve, you achieve. When you decide to make consistent use of discipline in your life, you're able to fulfill the best of your possibilities.

If you put self discipline to use, you can reach your dreams and no obstacle can stand in your way for long.

The power of self discipline is yours to use when you have a reason that's meaningful enough to you. So find that reason, lock your focus onto it, and you're already well on your way.

04-28-2005, 01:42 PM
Update for 10.03.2005

- If you are quick to take offense, then you'll be under the control of those who you find offensive.

- If you are easily angered, then your actions will be dictated by those who anger you.

- If you are obsessed by what other people think, then you will be imprisoned by their thoughts.

- If you yearn for easy answers and quick solutions, you'll fall prey to people who offer you nothing but promises.

- If you find the truth too difficult to bear, you'll be enslaved to those who tell you what you want to hear.

- When you have the courage to think for yourself, the strength to accept what is, the commitment and discipline to make a difference, then you are free.

- You are truly free to live with purpose, joy and fulfillment.

- Let your life be defined, not by reactions to what others do, say, or think but rather your own unique vision.

- Raise your eyes above the pettiness and follow the path of the greatness that is within you.

04-28-2005, 01:45 PM
Update for 11.03.2005

Without silence, there would be no sound. Without emptiness, there would be no fulfillment.

When you sense emptiness what you are really feeling is the ability to create. It is not a lack or an absence, but an opportunity.

The empty spaces in your life give you space to live. The empty spaces are yours to fill with joy, with love, with meaning and fulfillment.

The silence gives you opportunity to speak, to express life in your own unique way. The darkness gives you a place to shine your own special light.

An empty moment is truly a treasure. For it is yours to fill with meaning, with life.

When nothing is there, everything is possible. Take that opportunity, and make it into something great.

04-28-2005, 01:46 PM
Update for 14.03.2005

The more you identify yourself with the problems that face you, the more difficult it will be for you to get past them. If your whole identity is wrapped up in your limitations, how can you ever be free of them?

There is a part of you that exists beyond every problem, beyond every limitation. Let that part of you dominate your thoughts, your words, and your actions.

Though you will certainly experience problems, don't allow those problems to define who you are. Operate from a level that is above all the problems, for it is from that perspective that you'll successfully transcend them all.

If you think of yourself as a loser, that is what you'll always be. Yet when you think of yourself as a winner who is experiencing some difficult challenges, you're sure to work your way successfully past those challenges.

See yourself not as a person who has problems, but as a person who creates value out of difficult situations. See the challenges and limitations not as permanent parts of you, but as stepping stones on the path to the fulfillment of your greatest dreams.

You are not your problems and they are not you. You can choose to express your own unique value no matter what your circumstances may be.

04-28-2005, 01:46 PM
Update for 15.03.2005

About ten years ago, a young and very successful executive named Josh was traveling down a Chicago neighborhood street. He was going a bit too fast in his sleek, black, 12-cylinder Jaguar XKE, which was only two months old. He was watching for kids darting out from between parked cars and slowed down when he thought he saw something.

As his car passed, no child darted out, but a brick sailed out and -- WHUMP! -- it smashed into the Jag's shiny black side door! SCREECH...!!!! Brakes slammed! Gears ground into reverse, and tires madly spun the Jaguar back to the spot from where the brick had been thrown.

Josh jumped out of the car, grabbed the kid and pushed him up against a parked car. He shouted at the kid, "What was that all about and who are you? Just what the heck are you doing?!" Building up a head of steam, he went on. "That's my new Jag, that brick you threw is gonna cost you a lot of money. Why did you throw it?"

"Please, mister, please...I'm sorry! I didn't know what else to do!" pleaded the youngster. "I threw the brick because no one else would stop!"

Tears were dripping down the boy's chin as he pointed around the parked car. "It's my brother, Mister," he said. "He rolled off the curb and fell out of his wheelchair and I can't lift him up." Sobbing, the boy asked the executive, "Would you please help me get him back into his wheelchair? He's hurt and he's too heavy for me."

Moved beyond words, the young executive tried desperately to swallow the rapidly swelling lump in his throat.

Straining, he lifted the young man back into the wheelchair and took out his handkerchief and wiped the scrapes and cuts, checking to see that everything was going to be OK. He then watched the younger brother push him down the sidewalk toward their home. It was a long walk back to the sleek, black, shining, 12-cylinder Jaguar XKE - a long and slow walk.

Josh never did fix the side door of his Jaguar. He kept the dent to remind him not to go through life so fast that someone has to throw a brick at him to get his attention.

---- What a great story!

At times in our lives, we tend to become so wrapped up in other things. We become focused on ourselves or our job we do not realize there are others around us that need our help.

We can react in a negative way to a situation without fully realizing or taking the time to look at the other persons situation. Or to take the time to find out the reason the other person has taken the action that they did.

Don't let the bricks in life hit you, be sensitive to those around you.

04-28-2005, 01:48 PM
Update for 16.03.2005

When your path is blocked, it's likely that you've just encountered a grand opportunity. When what you were planning doesn't go as you planned, it can put you on your way to something even better than you first imagined.

Sure, it's nice when everything in your day and in your world goes smoothly and according to plan. Yet when the difficult, unexpected challenges arise, then you truly have a chance to shine.

When one door is suddenly slammed shut on you, it forces you to seek out and open another door. Behind that other door there could very well be a whole, big, wonderful world filled with astounding richness.

If things are going along nicely, you probably will not want to venture very far from what is familiar and comfortable. Yet when you suddenly run up against a brick wall, it can compel you to a higher level of performance.

When a challenge suddenly looms, you'll find yourself calling upon skills and capabilities you may have never used before. And once you've used those new skills they do not go away, but in fact become even stronger and more accessible to you.

Challenges are life's way of showing you that you can be stronger, more capable, more creative, more highly focused than you ever would have thought. When life does not go as you had wanted, that's your golden opportunity to make it even better.

04-28-2005, 01:49 PM
Update for 17.03.2005

When the day is gray and gloomy, smile. And you have just made the world a brighter place.

When faced with choosing between what is easiest and what is best, choose what is best. And you have just raised the power of your focus to a new, more effective level.

When your efforts bring disappointing results, learn from what went wrong, then give it another shot. And you have just set yourself up to come back even stronger.

When others criticize and oppose what you have done, thank them for their helpful feedback. And you have just seen your efforts from a valuable new perspective.

When nothing seems to be going your way, recommit yourself to positive, productive thoughts and actions. And you have just taken control of your own destiny.

What matters most is not what life sends you. What truly matters is what you do with it all.

04-28-2005, 01:49 PM
Update for 18.03.2005

Those who achieve great things are not any smarter or more capable than others. They have simply decided to make use of what's available to them.

Those who achieve great things encounter challenges, obstacles and problems, just as everyone else does. Achievers have simply chosen to work their way through the difficult challenges, rather than be stopped by them.

Those who achieve great things experience plenty of setbacks and disappointments. They have simply decided to take renewed determination, instead of discouragement, from those disappointments.

Those who achieve great things have exactly the same amount of time available in each day as does everyone else. They have simply committed to making the most of each moment.

Those who achieve great things are not any different than anyone else except for this. They decide to do it, and then follow through with persistent, consistent action.

In this way, very ordinary people realize quite extraordinary levels of achievement. In this way, you can do it too.

04-28-2005, 01:50 PM
Update for 21.03.2005

Imagine for a moment that you could go to your local appliance store and purchase an achievement machine. How would such a device work?

First, you would need to supply it with a clear, specific, detailed description and image of what you wanted it to achieve. After all, you wouldn't want your achievement machine engaged in work that had no meaning to you.

Next, you would need to provide your achievement machine with plenty of good, quality fuel so it could do its work. You would also have to keep it properly maintained so it would stay in top working condition.

And in return, your amazing achievement machine would use its considerable power and flexibility to bring you the things you desire. As long as you were clear about what you wanted and supplied your goal achievement machine with care and nourishment, it would perform truly amazing feats.

Alas, you cannot purchase such a machine. But the good news is that you don't need one.

For you already have a spectacularly effective achievement machine at your disposal, in the form of your mind and body. The fact is, within you is the best achievement machine that could ever be imagined.

Give that achievement machine clear, detailed instructions along with plenty of quality fuel and careful maintenance. And it will surely find a way to reach any goal you set before it.

04-28-2005, 01:50 PM
when i was reading this wonderful post by GGG and krishng abt life i remembered a lovely poem by Robert Frost "The Road Not Taken"most of u might have read it..i think its worth reading again

TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I--
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

04-28-2005, 01:51 PM
Update for 22.03.2005

Sometimes in the daily challenges that life gives us, we miss what is really important. We may fail to say hello, please, thank you, congratulate someone on something wonderful that has happened to them, give a compliment, or just do something nice for no reason.

Charles Plumb, a US Naval Academy graduate, was a jet pilot in Vietnam. After 75 combat missions, his plane was destroyed by a surface-to-air missile. Plumb ejected and parachuted into enemy hands. He was captured and spent 6 years in a communist prison. He survived the ordeal and now lectures on lessons learned from that experience.

One day, when Plumb and his wife were sitting in a restaurant, a man at another table came up and said, "You're Plumb! You flew jet fighters in Vietnam from the aircraft carrier Kitty Hawk. You were shot down!"

"How in the world did you know that?" asked Plumb.

"I packed your parachute," the man replied.

Plumb gasped in surprise and gratitude. The man grabbed his hand and said, "I guess it worked!"

Plumb assured him, "It sure did. If your chute hadn't worked, I wouldn't be here today."

Plumb couldn't sleep that night, thinking about that man. Plumb kept wondering what the man might have looked like in a Navy uniform. He wondered how many times he might have seen him and not even said good morning, how are you or anything, because you see, he was a fighter pilot and the man was just a sailor. Plumb thought of the many hours that sailor had spent in the bowels of the ship, carefully weaving the shrouds and folding the silks of each chute, holding in his hands each time the fate of someone he did not know.

Now Plumb asks his audience, "Who is packing your parachute?" Everyone has someone who provides what they need to make it through the day. Plumb also points out that he needed many kinds of parachutes when his plane was shot down.

As you go through your week, month, and even New Year, recognize the people who have packed your parachute and enabled you to get where you are today!

04-28-2005, 01:52 PM
Update for 23.03.2005

You can wait and wish and hope for everything in life to be perfect. Or you can get busy making things better and better.

You can complain that life is unfair, and lament that the best in life has passed you by. Or you can get busy and make the very best of your life.

You can compile a big list of all the things you don't have. Or you can get busy and make full use of the good and valuable things you do have.

You can worry that there's not enough time to get everything done. Or you can get busy doing what you can with the time you have available.

You can let the setbacks and disappointments get you down. Or you can get busy filling your efforts with enthusiasm and positive determination.

You can sit and watch as life happens around you. Or you can get busy and make your life into something great.

04-28-2005, 01:53 PM
Update for 24.03.2005

Your success is not a matter of idle chance,
it's a matter of making the right choices.
It's not something you wait for,
but rather something you'll achieve with effort.
Things won't turn up in this world until you turn them up.

Success is neither magical nor mysterious.
The people that truly succeed in the world
are the people who look for the circumstances they want,
and, if they can't find them, make them.
Don't sit on the sidelines, get in the game.
Your access to success has no real limits.

The great opportunity in your life is where you are right now.
Every situation, properly perceived, becomes an opportunity for you.
You have grand opportunities all around you.
Open your eyes, and you will find it.

If you have the desire, you have the power.
Taking action is all that is required.

04-28-2005, 01:54 PM
Update for 25.03.2005

This day will reflect back to you the thoughts and feelings you have about how it is going. The world will reflect back to you the expectations you have of how it will be.

The people you encounter will reflect your attitude back to you. The situations you come across will reflect your own perspective back to you.

The shortcomings you notice in others are reflecting similar things within yourself. The beauty you see around you is a reflection of the beauty that is a part of you.

The problems you encounter out there can be most effectively addressed by first considering what they reflect within you. The opportunities out there can best be grasped by first connecting with the part of you that they reflect.

Be your best, and life will be too. Live with integrity, a generous spirit, a positive enthusiasm, and the world will reflect it all back to you.

What you experience is a reflection of who you are. Nurture the value and goodness inside you, and the reflection will be magnificent indeed.

04-28-2005, 01:56 PM
Update for 28.03.2005

Where you are right now is a very good place to be. For you are alive, aware, and able to make a difference. Certainly things are not perfect. You may face uncomfortable situations, painful choices and difficult challenges.

Even so, where you are right now is a good place to be. For you have the opportunity to take whatever you have and make it into a life of value, meaning and fulfillment. You have the extreme good fortune to be right here, right now. The more you see your life as the immense opportunity that it is, the more true richness you will uncover.

There is a path that leads to the best in life that you can possibly imagine. And the starting point of that path is where you are right now. Pause for a moment and consider your many blessings. Then move forward and fulfill all the rich promise of where you are right now.

04-28-2005, 01:57 PM
Update for 29.03.2005

The moment that's yours right now is the link between intention and reality. You know what it is that you want to accomplish, and today is when you can actually make it so.

You might well wish that you had done it sooner. But all the wishing in the world will not change what is in the past.

You might think you can put it off until later. But the only time that's currently available to you is the moment that you're in.

Now is when you can actually make a difference. Now is when you can act to make it so.

Now is a golden moment, filled to the brim with valuable possibilities and rich opportunities. Yet all the wealth in this moment, in this day, will be lost forever if you fail to act.

Seize this moment that you're in, and fill it with purposeful, powerful action. See life in the best light you can imagine, then take this day and make it so.

04-28-2005, 01:58 PM
Update for 30.03.2005

If you're spending your time doing it, then it's important enough to do it right. A quality life is built through quality effort.

Put yourself fully in to every effort, whatever that effort may be. Even the seemingly trivial chores can set the stage for greatness when you put your love, attention and commitment into them.

Put yourself fully into every moment, whatever you may be doing. For each moment comes with its own unique opportunities.

Success depends just as much on the quality of your efforts as it does on the quantity and nature of those efforts. When you consistently put quality and commitment into what you do, then whatever you do will create real, lasting value.

Every moment, then, is a chance to move forward. Every effort, no matter how mundane or tedious it may first appear, can be a crucial step on the path to greatness.

Put your best into every effort. And all those efforts, the big ones and the small ones, will lift your life ever higher.

04-28-2005, 01:59 PM
Update for 31.03.2005

Stop for a moment and consider the priorities you've set for your life. Then ask yourself -- what are you doing about them? In your heart and in your mind you carry around certain priorities, things that are truly important to you. Are these all-important things also being reflected in your time and in your actions?

When the reality of your life is in conflict with your most deeply held values and priorities, then nothing is going to work very well. How can you expect to be successful at achieving those things you don't truly even want to achieve?

Put more of your time, more of your thoughts, and more of your efforts where your heart is. The achievements which truly matter are the achievements that have real meaning and substance for you. If you blindly follow the world's shallow, superficial definition of success you'll find yourself becoming shallow and superficial as well. Is that what you really want?

Honor and respect that very real feeling you have that life can be so much more than merely getting by. Commit the time, the attention, the substance of your life to your most sacred beliefs and your most compelling vision of what life can be. Live the best of your priorities in each moment, and the success you achieve will be sweet indeed.

04-28-2005, 02:00 PM
Update for 01.04.2005

Wishing to encourage her young son's progress on the piano, a mother took her boy to a Paderewski concert. After they were seated, the mother spotted a friend in the audience and walked down the aisle to greet her.

Seizing the opportunity to explore the wonders of the concert hall, the little boy rose and eventually explored his way through a door marked "NO ADMITTANCE."

When the houselights dimmed and the concert was about to begin, the mother returned to her seat and discovered that the child was missing. Suddenly, the curtains parted and spotlights focused on the impressive Steinway on stage. In horror, the mother saw her little boy sitting at the keyboard, innocently picking out "Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star."

At that moment, the great piano master made his entrance, quickly moved to the piano, and whispered in the boy's ear, "Don't quit. Keep playing." Then leaning over, Paderewski reached down with his left hand and began filling in the bass part.

Soon his right arm reached around to the other side of the child and he added a running obbligato. Together, the old master and the young novice transformed a potentially frightening situation into a wonderfully creative experience. The audience was absolutely mesmerized.

Whatever our situation in life and histories, however outrageous, however desperate, whatever dry spell of the spirit, whatever dark night of the soul, our Higher Self is whispering deep within our beings, "Don't quit. Keep playing. You're not alone; together We will transform the broken patterns into a masterwork of Our creative art. Together, We will mesmerize the world with Our song of peace."

04-28-2005, 02:01 PM
Update for 04.04.2005

The place where you live does not have to be limited by where your physical self is located. The place where you live is influenced far more, on a moment-by-moment basis, by your thoughts, your expectations and your attitude.

The place where you live your life is not dependent on other people or outside circumstances. The place where you live is determined by you.

How is that place? Where exactly do you live the moments of your life?

Choose to live in a place where your eyes are always open to the positive possibilities. Choose to live in a place where your thoughts and actions are focused on what's truly important and meaningful.

Choose today to live in a place where the distractions bounce right off of you. Choose to live in a place where each incident that comes along is an opportunity to give the best of who you are.

This is your precious life. Live it in the best place possible.

04-28-2005, 02:02 PM
Update for 05.04.2005

Give love away, and you will have even more. Love like nothing else matters, for without love, it doesn't.

When you act solely out of self interest, you end up making yourself that much smaller. When your actions are sincerely guided by love for others, you are lifted up as much as they.

When love is attacked, it grows stronger. When love is denied, it becomes even more compelling. Love endures through the most difficult of times and the most hopeless of situations. By yielding, love overcomes, setting up a dynamic that cannot be defeated.

Think of your life as it was ten or twenty years ago. The details in your memory have likely faded, yet the love you experienced is stronger than ever.

Is there any truth that is greater than this? Love is, and will always be.

04-28-2005, 02:03 PM
Update for 06.04.2005

When you are truly happy and fulfilled, it will show. Be careful, though, not to confuse the symptoms of happiness with happiness itself.

Happiness shows itself in many ways. Remember, however, that those outward manifestations are not the source of happiness.

The signs of happiness you see in others are the results, not the cause of their happiness. Chasing those same results in an attempt to bring happiness to your own life is an empty pursuit.

Instead, live each day with gratitude, with wonder, awe, love and kindness. Be happy, without first requiring a reason to be.

And the symptoms of happiness will begin to show in you. What's more, they'll be real and meaningful, not just empty tokens.

Rather than expecting happiness to come to you from the outside, let it come from you, pouring forth from the inside. And delight in the joy your happiness creates.

04-28-2005, 02:04 PM
Update for 07.04.2005

For anything worth having, anything of value, there is a price to pay. If there were no price, there would be no value. The price is not arbitrarily imposed on the thing of value. The price is in fact a big part of what gives it the value.

If diamonds were scattered around on the ground everywhere, they would be worth no more than pieces of gravel. The rarity of diamonds, and the resulting price that must be paid to obtain them, are what make them so valuable.

Trying to obtain something of value without paying the price will only lead to frustration and disappointment. Much of the misery in the world today is the result of such misguided quests.

For anything of value, be willing to pay the price. Be grateful and enthusiastic about paying the price. Because without the price to pay, there is nothing of value.

04-28-2005, 02:05 PM
Update for 08.04.2005

The old monk sat by the side of the road. With his eyes closed, his legs crossed and his hands folded in his lap, he sat. In deep meditation, he sat. Suddenly his zazen was interrupted by the harsh and demanding voice of a samurai warrior. "Old man! Teach me about heaven and hell!"

At first, as though he had not heard, there was no perceptible response from the monk. But gradually he began to open his eyes, the faintest hint of a smile playing around the corners of his mouth as the samurai stood there, waiting impatiently, growing more and more agitated with each passing second. "You wish to know the secrets of heaven and hell?" replied the monk at last. "You who are so unkempt. You whose hands and feet are covered with dirt. You whose hair is uncombed, whose breath is foul, whose sword is all rusty and neglected. You who are ugly and whose mother dresses you funny. You would ask me of heaven and hell?"

The samurai uttered a vile curse. He drew his sword and raised it high above his head. His face turned to crimson and the veins on his neck stood out in bold relief as he prepared to sever the monk's head from its shoulders.

"That is hell," said the old monk gently, just as the sword began its descent.

In that fraction of a second, the samurai was overcome with amazement, awe, compassion and love for this gentle being who had dared to risk his very life to give him such a teaching. He stopped his sword in mid-flight and his eyes filled with grateful tears.

"And that," said the monk, "is heaven."

04-28-2005, 02:06 PM
Update for 11.04.2005

Being thankful in your thoughts and words is a good starting point. Yet the real power of gratitude comes when you put it into action.

How do you put gratitude into action? By making the most of the good things you have.

When you hoard and hide away your blessings, they soon wither and die. When, on the other hand, you put them to use, the good things in your life grow and multiply.

There is no better way to show your thankfulness and appreciation for something than by using it for a positive, productive, creative purpose. Do that, and the value you already have grows even more valuable.

Whatever you have is not really yours unless you are truly thankful for it. To be truly and effectively thankful for it, make full and fruitful use of it.

Live with a thankfulness in your heart, in your thoughts and, most importantly, in your every action. All the good things you make use of will grow even better.

04-28-2005, 02:06 PM
Update for 12.04.2005

A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year grandson. The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered. The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather's shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.

The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. "We must do something about Grandfather," said the son. "I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor". So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed their dinners together.

Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl. When the family glanced in Grandfather's direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.

The four-year-old watched it all in silence. One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, "What are you making?" Just as sweetly, the boy responded, "Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when you get old." The four year old smiled and went back to work.

The words so struck the parents that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done. That evening the husband took Grandfather's hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.

You have to learn that, regardless of your relationship with your parents, you'll miss them when they're gone from your life. You have to learn that life sometimes gives you a second chance.

You have to learn that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you. But, if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others, your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you.

You have to learn that children's eyes observe more than there ears ever hear and the example we set for them determines their actions.

You have to learn that make a "living" is not the same thing as making a "life".

You have to learn that every day, you should reach out and touch someone. People love that human touch -- holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.

You have to learn that people will forget what you said ...people will forget what you did......but people will never forget how you made them feel.

You have to learn that life is about people and making a positive difference.

You have to learn that you should take care of yourself and those you love - Today and Everyday!

You have to learn you still have a lot to learn!

04-28-2005, 02:07 PM
Update for 13.04.2005

Peace is not something that happens to you. Peace is a part of who you are.

Peace is not something that can be taken away from you. Peace comes from the way you choose to be.

Though the world around you may be filled with confusion, noise and turmoil, you can choose to be peaceful in your own heart. Though life is filled with difficult challenges and setbacks that pop up out of nowhere, you can choose to move through each moment with a peaceful heart.

When you live only for the shallow, fleeting, frivolous things, then true peace will most certainly elude you. The way to choose peace is by investing yourself in real and lasting values.

No one can force your heart to be at peace. And no one can chase true peace away from you when it is there.

Imagine how powerful it would be to live each day with peace in your heart. And know that it is always there for you to choose.

04-28-2005, 02:08 PM
Update for 14.04.2005

You have what it takes to make an ordinary day into a great one that will always be remembered. For what it takes is nothing more than the willingness to live every moment like it will never come again.

You have what it takes to transform small, easily performed actions into great accomplishments. For what it takes is nothing more than the persistence to make one small step, and then another, and another, until the job is done.

You have what it takes to make every moment better than the one before. For what it takes is nothing more than choosing to learn all you can from both the victories and the defeats.

You have what it takes to live a life of meaning and fulfillment. For what it takes is nothing more than committing yourself, in each moment, to what you know is right for you.

You have what it takes to move beyond your fears. For what it takes is the understanding that fear is not there to stop you, but to prepare you.

You have what it takes, right now, this very day. So choose to make it happen.

04-28-2005, 02:09 PM
Update for 18.04.2005

Everything you know has passed through the filter of your own perspective. So when was the last time you cleaned that filter?

Have your thoughts and assumptions collected a lot of anger, resentment, frustration, and other forms of negativity? Then the world that comes through the gateway of your experience will increasingly seem more dark and depressing.

Fortunately, you can choose to cleanse your own perspective so that it lets in more of life's goodness. By improving the value of what you expect, you'll increase the value of what you get.

Simply changing your thinking will not directly change the world around you. Yet it will significantly change what part of that world actually gets through to you.

Everything you expect to find in life is out there somewhere. And what you expect to find will very faithfully determine what you do in fact find.

Life has more than enough substance to meet every expectation. So choose to expect the very best, and that is exactly what will come your way.

04-28-2005, 02:09 PM
Update for 19.04.2005

A member of a certain church, who previously had been attending services regularly, stopped going. After a few weeks, the pastor decided to visit him. It was a chilly evening. The pastor found the man at home alone, sitting before a blazing fire. Guessing the reason for his pastor's visit, the man welcomed him, led him to a big chair near the fireplace and waited. The pastor made himself comfortable but said nothing. In the grave silence, he contemplated the play of the flames around the burning logs.

After some minutes, the pastor took the fire tongs, carefully picked up a brightly burning ember and placed it to one side of the hearth all alone. Then he sat back in his chair, still silent. The host watched all this in quiet fascination. As the one lone ember's flame diminished, there was a momentary glow and then its fire was no more. Soon it was cold and "dead as a doornail." Not a word had been spoken since the initial greeting.

Just before the pastor was ready to leave, he picked up the cold, dead ember and placed it back in the middle of the fire. Immediately it began to glow once more with the light and warmth of the burning coals around it. As the pastor reached the door to leave, his host said, "Thank you so much for your visit and especially for the fiery sermon. I shall be back in church next Sunday."

04-28-2005, 02:10 PM
Update for 20.04.2005

Delight in beauty, and you make it more beautiful. Cherish life, and you make it more meaningful.

Be thankful for the good things, and you make them even better. Make use of your strengths, and they become even stronger.

Share your joy, and it becomes far more joyful. Give your love, and there's more of it to have.

Be happy with the little victories, and they soon merge together into big accomplishments. Appreciate every moment, and they will bring you great treasure.

Focus your thoughts and your feelings on the goodness that's there in your present situation. Then consider what you can do to make that goodness grow.

Every day, every hour, every action, word, and thought is an opportunity to add value to life. The more of those opportunities you seize and fulfill, the better life will surely become.

04-28-2005, 02:11 PM
Update for 21.04.2005

When you constantly think in terms of needs, it focuses your thoughts on what you don't have, on lack and limitation. That kind of thinking will hold you back.

Instead, set your thoughts free to soar, away from the needs, away from the limitations. For every perceived need, there is an opportunity.

Direct your thoughts toward those opportunities. Instead of living in bondage to your needs, live each moment in _expression of your highest and best possibilities.

That doesn't mean that you abandon your responsibilities, or live in a fantasy world where there are no problems. It means that your best response, to whatever life may hold, is to connect with the positive possibilities.

Yes, there are very real factors that impede your progress, very real challenges to be overcome. And there is absolutely no sense in adding to those obstacles with your own limiting thoughts.

Your thoughts are yours to create, so choose the ones that generate positive, productive energy in your life. When you stop needing so much, you can start doing so much more.

04-28-2005, 02:11 PM
Update for 22.04.2005

Lady: Why do you like me? Why do you love me?
Man : I can't tell the reason... but I really like you...
Lady: You can't even tell me the reason... how can you say you like me? How can you say you love me?
Man : I really don't know the reason, but I can prove that I love you.
Lady: Proof? No! I want you to tell me the reason. My friend's boyfriend can tell her why he loves her but not you!
Man : Ok...Ok!!! Erm...
because you are beautiful,
because your voice is sweet,
because you are caring,
because you are loving,
because you are thoughtful,
because of your smile,
because of your every movements.

The lady felt very satisfied with the man's answer. Unfortunately, a few days later, the Lady met with an accident and went into the coma stage. The Guy then placed a letter by her side, and here is the content:

Because of your sweet voice that I love you... Now can you talk? No! Therefore I cannot love you.
Because of your care and concern that I like you... Now that you cannot show them, therefore I cannot love you.
Because of your smile, because of your every movements that I love you... Now can you smile? Now can you move? No, therefore, I cannot love you.
If love needs a reason, like now, there is no reason for me to love you anymore.

Does love need a reason? NO!
Therefore, I still love you...
And love doesn't need a reason.

04-28-2005, 02:12 PM
Update for 25.04.2005

One of the greatest causes of unhappiness is letting other people tell you what will make you happy. For true happiness is not something you must chase in a particular way.

Happiness is yours when you choose it. Yes, it really is as simple as that.

When you let go of the notion that this thing or that thing will make you happy, something truly amazing happens. You are suddenly free to be happy without condition.

The good things you associate with happiness are not things that will cause you to be happy. Quite to the contrary, they are things that will come about once you allow yourself to be happy.

Putting conditions on your happiness keeps happiness at a distance away from you. Drop the conditions, and happiness is free to flow into your life.

Stop trying to figure out what it means to be happy or what will cause you to be happy. Simply choose to be happy, and you'll know exactly what it means.

04-28-2005, 02:13 PM
Update for 26.04.2005

How do you see the world? Is it full of ugliness or is it full of beauty? A stunningly beautiful sunset was pointed out to a troubled young man some years ago, and his response was, "If you’ve seen one sunset, you’ve seen ‘em all." It was a remarkable statement, not just in its utter falseness, but in that it revealed how cut off from the outer world this young person was. He was incapable of walking in beauty. It surrounded him, but he could not see it.

How like that young man are we though? How well do we experience the beauty around us? As we rush from one obligation to another, do we attend to the beauty of our world? What would it be like to walk in beauty all the time? What would be required of us?

When we walk in beauty we are connected. The universe walks with us. We are in our place and we are aware of the beauty around us. Our eye may be caught by the colorful flower, but we must direct our attention to it to recognize its beauty. So there is an exchange between the beautiful and the witness to the beauty. It is said, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." We must be awake to recognize beauty. We must have our eyes open to the world to see its beauty.

Recognition of beauty is an act of love. When our hearts are open to love, the world is more beautiful. When we are overcome by hate, all we see is ugliness. When the world looks beautiful to us, it is a sign that we are in a harmonious relationship with the universe. Let us then prepare ourselves to walk in beauty.

Where there is disharmony, let us create harmony.
Where there is falsehood, let us bear truth.
Where there is imperfection, let us bring wholeness.
Where there is cluttered complexity, let us draw out simplicity.
Where there is dishonesty, let us act of integrity.

Let us cultivate beauty in our surroundings.
Let us bring forth the beauty in our minds.
May we open to the beauty in our hearts
May we perceive the beauty in our souls.

04-28-2005, 02:14 PM
Update for 27.04.2005

"This is the way of peace: overcome evil with good, and falsehood with truth, and hatred with love."

The world is a dangerous place now. It always has been. The nature of the dangers change, but danger has always been here. Though we pray for it, we have not yet attained peace on earth, except that which resides in the hearts of individuals. Throughout history, some people have learned to open their hearts to their fellow humans and to the world at large. They have carried peace with them. Those fortunate enough to encounter these carriers of peace may have become infected with that love also.

Others could not be touched by love. They held to their prejudices, their grudges and their defenses. How sad to have been an acquaintance of Jesus or Buddha or St. Francis or some other great being and have missed the opportunity to share in the peace.

Peace givers live now. People in this world live lives of compassion and kindness. They are around us. We must wake up though to recognize them and share in their peace.

It is perhaps not in our power to change the entire world instantly, but we can change ourselves. We can affect those around us by living in the spirit of love, by being more forgiving, more accepting, more honest. We can only do what we can do, but we can do something.

04-28-2005, 02:15 PM
Today's Update

When you can find a way to do it calmly, you'll do it with more strength and effectiveness. Becoming tense, agitated, frantic and angry will indeed get you a lot of attention, but it probably won't get much accomplished.

The most profound and enduring strength is found and expressed in calmness. What is done in a state of high anxiety can be done much more powerfully in a state of calm determination.

When you feel like lashing out, stop and consider this. Do you want to make the situation worse with a frantic reaction, or would you prefer to make positive progress with a thoughtful response?

Your options will greatly multiply when you take the time to think them through. Your effectiveness will greatly increase when you address the situation with a powerful, purposeful, positive plan.

The passion of the moment may feel strong, yet if you depend on passion alone it will quickly burn out. Instead, redirect that passion into a calm, positive, thoughtful response, and its energy will continue much longer, accomplishing much more.

The more calmly you express yourself, the more powerful and effective that _expression will be. Be peaceful and you will be strong.

04-28-2005, 02:17 PM
I have updated this thread until today. and i hope here after this thread will be updated everyday..


04-28-2005, 02:18 PM
btw, y this thread is in Mens Talk section. Is it related to Mens Talk? I dont think like that. Please move this thread to appropriate section.


04-28-2005, 07:54 PM
The more calmly you express yourself, the more powerful and effective that _expression will be. Be peaceful and you will be strong.

Wish it was that easy :Ksp:

Does love need a reason? NO!
Therefore, I still love you...
And love doesn't need a reason.

So True :b:

04-28-2005, 08:18 PM
Wish it was that easy :Ksp:

Not only its easy, its also cheap. Just imagine how much you can save on poosanikkai.. :P

achoo.. chummaa pagidi, Pattampoochi.. :sm03:

Like most good things in life, this too comes with patience. Little by little...

Love doesn't really a reason - though people love to know why they are being loved.. :P

Thanks for the UPDATES mrs.GGG :sm08:

v- :wink:

04-28-2005, 08:33 PM
btw, y this thread is in Mens Talk section. Is it related to Mens Talk? I dont think like that. Please move this thread to appropriate section.


You started this thread, did not you? Why did you start it in the "Men talk" (Ah, someone change it please, Mens sounds so bad) section?

04-28-2005, 08:45 PM
GGG thanks for updating.. good read :b:

04-28-2005, 10:05 PM
Moved it to Talk General :b:


04-28-2005, 11:00 PM
btw, y this thread is in Mens Talk section. Is it related to Mens Talk? I dont think like that. Please move this thread to appropriate section.


You started this thread, did not you? Why did you start it in the "Men talk" (Ah, someone change it please, Mens sounds so bad) section?

Prasanna, previously this thread was in talk general section. suddenly it went to Men talk section. Now again it is here. ippo purinchicha??

thanx shy..


04-29-2005, 07:59 PM
Today's Update
Accomplishment is largely a matter of creating a vision and then filling in the details. With time, effort and commitment, you can accomplish whatever you make it a priority to accomplish.

First, create the vision. Make it something with real, meaningful value, something that brings you true fulfillment or solves a vexing problem.

Then, begin to fill in all the details. Many of the details will lead to other details, so be sure to fill in all those, too.

Filling in the details is more than just thinking of what they will be. You also must bring those details to life with your actions.

Depending on the scope of your accomplishment, that could take anywhere from a few minutes to several years. Stick with it for whatever amount of time it takes, and the accomplishment you envision will surely come to be.

Dare to create a vision that's the very best you can imagine. Then use your time and effort to fill in all the details, and bring your dream to life.

Have a nice day and nice weekend.

04-29-2005, 08:24 PM
btw, y this thread is in Mens Talk section. Is it related to Mens Talk? I dont think like that. Please move this thread to appropriate section.


You started this thread, did not you? Why did you start it in the "Men talk" (Ah, someone change it please, Mens sounds so bad) section?

Prasanna, previously this thread was in talk general section. suddenly it went to Men talk section. Now again it is here. ippo purinchicha??

thanx shy..


mmm..... interesting.. athu eppadi move aachu theriyalai... but anyway now shes happy right??

aamma naan avanga post paninaen... athu enna unga wifea pesa vida mateengala... :evil: :evil: Thanks kooda neenga solreengo.. :snooty: :snooty: unga thanks vendaam.. GGG thanks thaan venum ;)



04-29-2005, 08:32 PM
krishng sonna enna, naan sonna enna?

Anyway, thanks a lot Shy! :D

04-29-2005, 08:37 PM
ada da.. inga parda..

SHY :sm04: :sm04: :sm04: :sm04: :sm04: inga vadhu parunga..

idha MSGkkkum katanum.. enga avanga.. sri kku ponnu pathu kittu irupanga.. madam neengalum vandhu parunga..

05-03-2005, 05:41 PM
Yesterday's update

The most successful job you'll ever have is being you. You were born for it, you're perfectly equipped for it, and you'll find genuine, profound fulfillment in being the person you are.

The most impressive you'll ever be is by being you. That will make a far more positive and valuable impact than trying to imitate some celebrity or attempting to play one-up with your neighbor.

The most value you'll ever create is by being you. You have many unique and worthwhile things to contribute to life, and the more you truly give of yourself, the better life will be.

When you come to a fork in the road, and have trouble deciding which way to go, be you. Take the path that more closely expresses the distinctive and irreplaceable person you are.

The happiest you'll ever be is by being you. There's a reason why happiness feels so good, and that reason is to encourage you to be the happy and fulfilled person you are meant to be.

In you there is greatness that you've just barely begun to realize. Be you, and let your own special greatness fill the world with light.

05-03-2005, 05:43 PM
Today's update

“Those who are awake live in a state of constant amazement.” -- Jack Kornfield

To live fully, we must be aware. To live wisely, we must be aware of our motivations. Some experiences give us pleasure and some give us pain. We are likely to be attracted to experiences which give us pleasure and averse to those which give us displeasure or pain.

Life is better if we are able to experience pleasure in simple ways. One who finds joy in life’s small moments and simple pleasure is less likely to be driven by impulsive or addictive behaviors. When a person is depressed, the ability to experience pleasure is impaired. When a person is addicted, pleasure can be gained primarily from the object of the addiction, the drug, for instance. It is important that we get to experience feeling good, so if our ability to feel good naturally and with subtle stimulus is damaged, we may go to extremes of risky behavior to get the good feelings.

When our aversions control our behavior outside of our awareness, we lose flexibility and freedom of action. When our neurotic fears take control of us, we lose the ability to respond to life spontaneously. In the process, we cut ourselves off from the moments of experience that might bring us joy.

When we become more aware of our experience we feel more fully alive and are likely to behave more wisely. It is more than knowing that we like a certain food or color. It is knowing how we experience what we like and what we dislike.

Try this:
Notice when you have a sensation of pleasure.
What is that like?
What induces it?
What thoughts might you have that affect the experience?

Notice when you have a sensation of aversion or displeasure.
What is that like?
What induces it?
What thoughts might you have that affect the experience?

Notice when your thoughts minimize your experience of pleasure or magnify your experience of aversion or displeasure.

Practice moments of awareness without attaching to thoughts. Seek the direct experience untouched by evaluation thoughts.

Become ever more mindful of your experience of enjoying or disliking this or that, so that you develop an acute and subtle awareness of your responses.

05-04-2005, 02:42 PM
Today's update
There is nothing about the reality of this moment that can overwhelm you. If you feel overwhelmed, it is because you have, in this moment, given life to your disappointments of the past, or to your anxieties about the future.

Just imagine how effective you could be right now, in this moment, if you could free yourself from those burdens. And know that, in fact, you can.

What has come before, as overwhelming as it may seem, is over. It exists only in your memory.

And what about the things that might or might not happen at some point in the future? They have no power in this moment other than the power you choose to give them.

Instead of fighting battles that are already over, use this moment to make the best of what is. Rather than struggling against some imagined future, use your energy to create real, lasting value from what is here and now.

Live one moment at a time, with fullness, richness, strength and purpose. And nothing will have the power to overwhelm you.

05-05-2005, 06:49 AM
Today's update
The positive actions you take do not stop with you. Many of them go on and on, far beyond you, to people and places you will never know about.

The value you create does not end with you. It sets the stage for more positive value, and then for even more value on top of that.

Somewhere today, someone's life has just been made better because of a positive action you have taken in the past. In some way today, the world is becoming a better place because of something you did, weeks, months or even years ago.

You can never know or control how far and wide your actions will extend. You can, however, control the nature of those actions.

The more love, kindness and thoughtfulness you put into your actions, the more positively those actions will multiply and radiate out into the world. Put the best of yourself into all you do, and your own unique value will be spread far and wide.

The influence you have on life is immensely greater than it may appear on the surface. Live each moment with goodness, truth and integrity, and in more ways than you can possibly know, you'll be making the world a better place.

05-06-2005, 09:15 PM
Today's Update:

“When you breathe, you are utterly there, properly there. You go out with the out-breath, your breath dissolves, and then the in-breath happens naturally. Then you go out again. So there is a constant going out with the out-breath. As you breathe out, you dissolve, you diffuse. Then your in-breath occurs naturally; you don’t have to follow it in. You simply come back to your posture, and you are ready for another out-breath.” -- Chogyam Trungpa in Shambhala; Sacred Path of the Warrior

At the moment of our birth, we inhale. At the moment of our death, we exhale. Before we first inhale, there is no ego. After we last exhale, there is no ego. In between our first and last breaths, we breathe in and out mostly unconsciously, and we live in our egos mostly unconsciously. We know we are alive when we are still breathing and when we hear the chatter of our thoughts. We identify with the chatter and think it represents our minds. It is like looking at the ocean and identifying the waves as the ocean. The visible surface is not all there is, but we can’t judge the quiet depths when all we see is the turbulent surface.

Practice meditating with awareness of the space between breaths. Let your awareness follow the breath out of your body and don’t rush to fill the void. Let your breath settle into it’s own rhythm, don’t force it, but become especially attentive to allowing the breath to leave you. The in-breathing will take care of itself. Don’t impede it; just don’t worry about it as you attend to the exhalation and the space behind it. As you relax in your meditation, you may notice the period of non-action between breaths lengthens a bit. Allow your mind to rest in silence in these intervals between breaths.

As you breathe out and in, don’t so much watch your breath as feel it going out, pausing and coming back in. The breath is not an object to be watched so much as it is the process of life happening. Allow yourself to live in this moment quietly, peacefully and fully awake.

If you experience yourself thinking, just label those thoughts as thinking and disengage from them. Assume that your thoughts are merely turbulence left over from the more active part of your day and that they are not important to you right now. When one stirs the mud at the bottom of a small pond, the water becomes muddy. For the water to be clear, one must stop stirring the mud. For our minds to be clear and calm, we need to stop stirring our thoughts. In the space between breaths just be still. No stirring.

Have a nice day and nice weekend.

05-09-2005, 05:58 AM
Today's Update:
It's difficult to see what you assume is not there. It's impossible to accomplish what you assume you cannot do.

Be careful not to become a prisoner of your own assumptions. Though assumptions can be useful, they can also become obsolete.

If nothing seems to be working for you, that's a good sign that it's time to re-examine your assumptions. Often, a simple change in your assumptions can open you up to a whole new level of valuable and positive possibilities.

What might seem totally absurd at the moment could very well become completely reasonable after a change in assumptions. What may once have been unquestionably out of your reach could quickly become very accessible with a change in your assumptions.

What is possible for you is firmly rooted in what you assume to be possible. The world you see is based largely on the world you assume is there.

Your assumptions have a powerful influence on the substance and quality of your life. Renew, replace, and reinvigorate your assumptions so as to always keep their power working in your favor.

05-09-2005, 09:25 AM

that was very nice to see ur thoughts.

Does love need a reason? NO!
Therefore, I still love you...
And love doesn't need a reason.

liked the example for love and the above words.

05-10-2005, 04:37 PM
Today's Update:
"You got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em
Know when to walk away and know when to run
You never count your money, when you're sittin' at the table
There'll be time enough for countin', when the dealin's done"
-- Kenny Rogers

There was a man who had many things. He had a wife, a big house, two cars, a boat and all the other stuff that well off Americans have. He and his things got along well for a while, except that he didn't really understand his wife very well. In fact, he didn't understand much about people or how to make a good life. In his lack of understanding, he made some mistakes. Some big mistakes.

Before too long he had lost everything that he had thought made him somebody. He found himself living with his parents again. His parents were disappointed in him and they rarely missed an opportunity to share that information with him. The man felt trapped. He had no job, a prison record, no real friends. It seemed that all he had was an obsession with what he had lost. If you talked with him, you would soon notice how often he mentioned the $200,000 house, his cars, his boat, and you wouldn't even want to get him started talking about his wife.

Each time you would focus on a solution to his immediate problems he would return to the incredible losses he had experienced. His circumstances were humble, but his persona was one of entitlement. He might have worked toward improving the present, but he chose attachment to the past instead. Having made that choice he had nothing to comfort him. He had only his despair.

This very sad man's life highlights the difficulty many of us have getting over our losses. Each time we make a choice in life we have the possibility of gains or losses.

If we get stuck focussing on our losses we may miss the opportunity for gains. If we are stuck in the past we can't appreciate the present or plan well for the future.

05-10-2005, 04:44 PM
Each time we make a choice in life we have the possibility of gains or losses.

If we get stuck focussing on our losses we may miss the opportunity for gains. If we are stuck in the past we can't appreciate the present or plan well for the future.

trueee good one GGG :b:

05-11-2005, 01:15 PM
Today's update
When the truth hurts, it is tempting to ignore it or to deny it. Yet when the truth hurts is precisely the time when it's most important to pay attention to what that truth says.

A real friend is someone who has the courage to speak truthfully to you, even though that truth may be painful to hear. For by knowing and acknowledging the reality of a situation, you can begin to successfully deal with it.

When the truth hurts, it can indeed be painful. Yet if you will listen carefully, you'll gain the wisdom to avoid even more pain and to move positively forward.

When you encounter a truth that is painful to hear, that pain is doing you a favor. It is providing you with an opportunity to make a change for the better.

Take that opportunity and run with it. Be thankful that a difficult and valuable truth has succeeded in getting your attention.

In the difficult truths you will find much power. Though the truth may hurt for a moment, in the long run it can also set you free.

05-14-2005, 11:29 AM
Thursday's Update

How many things do you worry about, that don't really matter at all? Imagine the positive energy boost if you could simply let them go. Most of the things that annoy you do so only because you have chosen to be annoyed. Think of how life would be if you spent less time annoyed and more time truly living.

When something comes along that troubles you, ask yourself if it really matters. You'll discover that many things really don't. When something pops up to worry you, ask yourself if your worrying will make it better. Chances are, with most things, it won't.

Most worries and annoyances are completely worthless, and only serve to bring you down. Is that really what you want? Practice diverting more of your time and energy to positive, useful, productive pursuits. Replace the worry and annoyance about things that don't matter with real, effective action for the things that do.

05-14-2005, 11:30 AM
Yesterday's Update

When there is much to be done, it can be tempting to try and work on it all at once. Yet rarely is anything ever gained by taking that approach.

The most effective effort is focused effort. Do one thing and do it well, with total focus, until the job is done. Let go of your thoughts and worries about what comes next. Give your attention to the task at hand.

Jumping back and forth from one thing to another can waste much of your time and seriously dilute your momentum. The more there is to be done, the more important it becomes to solidly focus your efforts.

Hurried and scattered actions will rarely get you there any faster. Be patient, stay focused on one task at a time, and you'll make the most progress.

Give your efforts the power of focus and momentum. And watch them bring spectacular results.

Have a nice day and nice weekend.

05-19-2005, 05:49 PM
Monday's Update

"Before the enlightenment carry the water, till the soil. After enlightenment carry the water, till the soil." -- Zen teaching

When we are children we play. Sometimes children play at work. A child may dig in the earth or push a plastic lawn mower, wash imaginary food from toy dishes with imaginary water, or build things from blocks just to take them apart again. The activity is not to fix something that is wrong or to build something to last. It is play work done for the joy of the activity and the learning to do it.

Later, we may work because our parents demand it. The dishes are washed or the lawn is mowed, because we are told to do it. The task may be meaningless to us; we may do it resentfully. Perhaps we comply to avoid trouble. Maybe we do the work for some reward.

With a little more maturity our work becomes purposeful. We work to achieve some result. The dishes are dirty, so we clean them to have clean dishes. The grass is long, so we mow it to have a nice lawn. If we are lucky, when we are adults we find employment that is purposeful. Maybe we work to raise a family. Maybe we work to accomplish some social goal. It feels good to be useful and to see progress from our labor.

Unfortunately, for many people, work never becomes more than a means to an end. The work is strictly to get money to buy things, and the act of work is empty of value to the worker. When work has only this secondary, monetary meaning it becomes routine, boring, and even depressing.

If we work only for the money, we have a problem, because our work may seem empty. If we work only for the results of our work we have a problem, because results are often unpredictable.

If we can focus on the value, the rightness, the truth of the work, we can enjoy it for what it is, regardless of the compensation, regardless of the outcome. This is true of work in the physical world, and it is true in the realm of spiritual work. The truly virtuous person does not do good works and spiritual practices to get into heaven. They do what is right, because it is right.

05-19-2005, 05:49 PM
Tuesday's Update

It is one of the most difficult things you can do. And yet, it is very simple, easy and effortless.

It is one of the most powerful things you can do. And yet, when you do it you give up the need and the desire for power.

What is it? It is letting go of your own ego.

When you can bring yourself to get beyond your own ego, you raise yourself to a whole new level of awareness, experience and effectiveness. When you can think, live and act unconstrained by the limitations of your ego, the possibilities are truly endless.

Your worries, your fears, your doubts, anxieties, disappointments and hesitation to move forward are all sustained by your ego. Imagine the power of leaving all those limitations behind.

Spend a few minutes, a few hours, or an entire day unconcerned about what others will think, or what's in it for you, or whether something offends you or not. Feel the freedom, delight in the ability to accomplish, and explore possibilities that you may never before have even known about.

Once you decide to let go of your ego, it's a very simple thing to do. And it will truly change your world for the better.

05-19-2005, 05:50 PM
Yesterday's Update

If you run from the challenges, they will chase you ever faster. Yet when you run toward those same challenges, you'll be running toward true achievement. For those challenges are not there to stop you. They're there to make you stronger.

Challenges provide you with the opportunity to truly make a difference. The challenges involved are what make any achievement worth attaining.

Every day, every undertaking, every relationship is filled with challenge. Learn to love those challenges, and the genuine sense of accomplishment that comes from working your way through them.

Learn to love the challenges, and you'll learn to tap into their immense positive value. That will put you in a position to achieve whatever you set your sights upon.

Stop letting the challenges hunt you down and run you over. Turn around, face those challenges, and delight in the treasures you will surely find.