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ragi_kutty
09-27-2004, 10:46 AM
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I just wanted your opinion for what you will do if a friend betrayed you........
Will you be hurt?? Will you get revenge?? or will you go and leave her/him on their way???

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everyone is welcome.........

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katteri
09-27-2004, 01:08 PM
If it had been before 10 years i would have definetely gave him a reply (rajini style la aadiku adi , uthai ku utheee).

Ippo i take it as a lesson to learn more abt people.

U may know many people, but they are all not friends.

Friends i would say they are gifted.Most ever long friendship i have ever seen is my life is my Grandpa and his friend.They were friends for more than 70 years.

dinesh
09-27-2004, 01:44 PM
I'd probably go to an online forum and start a thread about him/her :evil:

:sm12:

Ashok_Taurus
09-27-2004, 02:09 PM
Well since u have said a "FRIEND" ..so I would just forget it be'coz its fate which could play like this between friends in case of betrayals..so I would just chill up to realise that it wont happen in future...PREVENTION IS BETTER THAN CURE na..athunala than usara erukanum ! ! ! :P

deepasri
09-27-2004, 03:44 PM
I had one such bad experience :00: :evil: . It hurts a lot. I didn't sleep well for almost a week. But, I am on my own way now. I'm not even thinking about that in the past 1 year. But your question made me to answer this.
It HURTS :cry: but you have to be on your way. Revenge :nono:

Bluelotus
09-27-2004, 05:02 PM
well of course it would hurt if a person you trusted and loved so much you called friend betrays you :Ksp:

would probably get a wicked witch to cast a spell on the person ...or get some vampire bats to drain him/her of his/her blood.... :evil:
yeah yeah I know in my dreams :ahha:

cry abit ...write stupid entries in your diary ...or if you're poetically inclined write disgustingly anxy poetry.....

and like Deepasri said ...move on!!!

life is way too short to dwell on stupid actions of despicable ppl :ahha:


Revenge is bad for the soul...or so they say...

Priyanka
09-27-2004, 05:11 PM
If my friends betrayed me I would take it as a lesson and be more careful in future. Vera enna panrathu sollunga.

Ennoda friends enkitta nadanthukkara vitham pudikkalenna abruptly I will stop speaking to them. There is no point in taking revenge. If we take revenge we will gain our peace of mind which is more precious than anything in our life.

vasan
09-27-2004, 05:24 PM
If some one knowingly, purposely did betray you for some reason, its kinda sad. If he/she did unknowingly, well, bad things happen to good people.

Ragi.. there aren't really perfect people in the world.. Sometimes the people we trust do betray us (if you don't trust them, they can't betray you right?!).. Life isn't fair and all that..

Just take it in your stride. Anger & bitterness should not kill the joy of living and trusting people.. Who knows Judas might yet repent and have a complete change of heart.. And come to know what an absolute angel you have been..

Forgiveness is the way to heal a broken relationship & heart. Not anger or rancour or bitterness.. :)

v-

katteri
09-27-2004, 05:33 PM
Vasan, i have an experience i can call it a mystery ....Some one who has been close to me for 3 years suddenly said that i am causing trouble to him......

It took me months to get out from that situation ,initially i was targetting him to find the reasons for it....I want to take revenge of what he did to me....I lost my patience, i get tensed....
I always speak openly, bluntly i called the guy and asked him the reason .....he didnt gave any reason but said i am responsible....
I finished the conversation if i am responsible i am sorry..Dont meet me in future...

If i meet him next time i will say hi...doesnt matter if he says hi to me or not....
Thats how we move as age and maturity progresses....

Still more excited to find the reason... Forgivenesss is the best solution virumandi dialogue ennaku rombha pudikkum....

ragi_kutty
09-28-2004, 12:22 PM
If it had been before 10 years i would have definetely gave him a reply (rajini style la aadiku adi , uthai ku utheee).

ayo katteri ungalukku adikka theriyumaa????

unique
09-28-2004, 01:03 PM
Definitely one ll get hurt if her/his friend had betrayed them....but revenge is not the solution for it.....if that person was too close to u try n find out the reason for their action otherwise just forget abt it n carry on with u r life

ashokcsn_2000
09-28-2004, 01:29 PM
the best solution would be to take it on the stride and ignore it. if intentionally done, and try to keep away from him as much as possible. If u get a chance, which u mostly will, pay him back in kind.
but b4 all this it is very important to find the reason behind it and check if we did not misunderstand the actions. It takes a lot to make a good friend and very little to lose him.

sprithika
09-28-2004, 02:44 PM
:sm03: .....எல்லொருக கும் என்னுடய வனக்கம்..... :sm03:

I just wanted your opinion for what you will do if a friend betrayed you........
Will you be hurt?? Will you get revenge?? or will you go and leave her/him on their way???

Come and Join this Topic PlZZzzZ

everyone is welcome.........

:b:

Admin, இந்த Topic'ல எதாவது பிலை இருந்தால் என்னை தயவு செய்து மன்னிக்கவு ம்

hey ragi. :D

naan ithukku munamae solli irukura yaaroda viewing parkula i just wanted to say you my view. :wink:

aama a friendunnu solli irukeengalae is that friend your best friend or just a friend. :think:

friendsunnu vanthutta appuram enna betrayal. :ahha:

ok

just oru friendunna neenga avankala konjam avangala vittu thalli vantharalam. :evil:

avanga enna senchaalum dont carunnu irunthirunga. :ee:

and if it is your best friend. :D

then you can talk to him/her and make then understand things.

and also you can know the reason why she/he is acting like that .

talk to them get the problem solved.

best friends always be together .avanga enaikkum part aaga maatanga. :yes:

naan chinna ponnu , enakku therinchatha sonaen. :P


ethum thappu iruntha sorry please.

ragi_kutty
09-29-2004, 08:37 AM
hey ragi. :D

naan ithukku munamae solli irukura yaaroda viewing parkula i just wanted to say you my view. :wink:

aama a friendunnu solli irukeengalae is that friend your best friend or just a friend. :think:

friendsunnu vanthutta appuram enna betrayal. :ahha:

ok

just oru friendunna neenga avankala konjam avangala vittu thalli vantharalam. :evil:

avanga enna senchaalum dont carunnu irunthirunga. :ee:

and if it is your best friend. :D

then you can talk to him/her and make then understand things.

and also you can know the reason why she/he is acting like that .

talk to them get the problem solved.

best friends always be together .avanga enaikkum part aaga maatanga. :yes:

naan chinna ponnu , enakku therinchatha sonaen. :P

ethum thappu iruntha sorry please.

SprItZ, ithilla enna thappu irukku, nee urimai ooda thaane ketta!

Aamaa adhu naan best friend nu ninaichava thaan ippadi panninava........ :(

But naan ippa entha paadaa irukkuren, ava kooda kadhaikkurella....... :D

Adhu thaane best sollution allava?.......... :think:

Avanga ippo avanga new friends kooda happy aa irukkattum, bt ava itha topic ai vaasicha....

Plz don't betray ur new friends like dat..........endru naan kettu kolkiren....... :ush:

I hope u all now know who the person is, but i don't wanna make it public........ :(

Admin, if I have written anything too personal plz ennai mannichikkavum....... :b:

sprithika
09-29-2004, 09:22 AM
SprItZ, ithilla enna thappu irukku, nee urimai ooda thaane ketta!

Aamaa adhu naan best friend nu ninaichava thaan ippadi panninava........ :(

But naan ippa entha paadaa irukkuren, ava kooda kadhaikkurella....... :D

Adhu thaane best sollution allava?.......... :think:

Avanga ippo avanga new friends kooda happy aa irukkattum, bt ava itha topic ai vaasicha....

Plz don't betray ur new friends like dat..........endru naan kettu kolkiren....... :ush:

I hope u all now know who the person is, but i don't wanna make it public........ :(

Admin, if I have written anything too personal plz ennai mannichikkavum....... :b:

thanx ragi_kutty neenga enoda views ellam urimaiyoda eduthathukku.

best frienda so may be u might have talked to her and solved your problems. :think:

ennathaan friends sandai potaalum oru agekku appuram have to adjust yourself. :wink:

why to quarrel for silly things then there is no meaning in having friendship with that friend for such long years :?

enna that friend too saw this topic . :Ksp:

hey ragi_kutty me dont know who the person is.ok leave it. :think:

inga solla virupam ilanna pls enakku personal message panunga. :ush:

anyhow me like you to join your friend.ethukku sandai. :ahha:

hope you join your friend again. :P

ragi_kutty
09-29-2004, 09:36 AM
thanx ragi_kutty neenga enoda views ellam urimaiyoda eduthathukku.

best frienda so may be u might have talked to her and solved your problems. :think:

ennathaan friends sandai potaalum oru agekku appuram have to adjust yourself. :wink:

why to quarrel for silly things then there is no meaning in having friendship with that friend for such long years :?

enna that friend too saw this topic . :Ksp:

hey ragi_kutty me dont know who the person is.ok leave it. :think:

inga solla virupam ilanna pls enakku personal message panunga. :ush:

anyhow me like you to join your friend.ethukku sandai. :ahha:

hope you join your friend again. :P

we've only been friends for 1 year.....:cry:



ok adhai vidu........ :( .............i trusted her a lot, we were like sisters, until our 2nd yr together......

i think we've been fallen apart......... :( ..........i means persons can change suddenly innit?

we did things together bt now she's discovered better persons than me......i hope she is happy now....... :b:

edited by blue.

sprithika
09-29-2004, 10:11 AM
we've only been friends for 1 year..................:cry:

ok adhai vidu........ :( .............i trusted her a lot, we were like sisters, until our 2nd yr together......

i think we've been fallen apart......... :( ..........i means persons can change suddenly innit?

we did things together bt now she's discovered better persons than me......i hope she is happy now....... :b:

i dont know the person will find it soon.

only 1 year frienda?

naan solurathu solitaen then unga viruppam.

ragi_kutty
09-29-2004, 11:17 AM
Thnx For The Information U Gave Me SpriTz

goodcomplanboy
09-29-2004, 01:31 PM
My views: Definitely I will feel hurt, but I wont take a revenge on them. As katteri said, if it was 6-7 years back I would have made sure that he/she realizes their mistake. But ippo ellam, just a lesson life had offered me'nu eduthukkurathu.

If he/she is my best friend, I would try to get to him back and slowly make him understand how much I felt hurt, because of their action. If he/she is my best friend, they will accept my statements and will come back to me.

PS: I am sorry for what happened ragi_kutty. But who knows, she may not have meant to hurt you. Athukulle neenga post open pannitteenga, now she may feel hurt because of this. If you really miss her, go and talk to her, then bringing it in public.

sprithika
09-29-2004, 01:55 PM
PS: I am sorry for what happened ragi_kutty. But who knows, she may not have meant to hurt you. Athukulle neenga post open pannitteenga, now she may feel hurt because of this. If you really miss her, go and talk to her, then bringing it in public.

Ragi_kutty partheengala naan sonathae thaan Goodcomplanboyum soluraar.

so try to speak to your friend as usual. :D

Bluelotus
09-29-2004, 06:38 PM
PLEASE REFRAIN FROM GIVING TOO MUCH INFO ABT PPL

this is a public forum. Everyone has the right to privacy.
And quarrels should be kept private too.

Ragi,
sorry to hear that you feel betrayed but this is no reason to reveal a friends or an ex-friends identity ...okie-vaa ? :wink:



and you know friendship isn't really based on time
I have some friends I have known not as long as my school friends ...and I get along much better with them...
time is relative....

and you never know ....tomorrow you might just hug and make up :D

blue.

vasan
09-29-2004, 07:03 PM
and you never know ....tomorrow you might just hug and make up :)


I do hope you do that, Ragi. :P (In the meantime though, Ragi & Spry.. :ush: No revealing names here, okvaa? We need to be gentle and kind to every one. :) Right? :P.. )

Here is to hoping you will heal & feel like a million bucks again, Ragi.... :yes:

Rendu perum Kids Corner vaanga.. Dr. T & her assistant in blue uniform, have made a strange kashayam for you.. Drink it, you will be dancing till the dawn.. :P

Vasan

ps: Thanks Bleu :wink:

Priyam2004
09-29-2004, 07:49 PM
Ragi Kutty

Betrayal is a big word...and depends on the situation, I mean mis-understandings are often mistaken for betrayal. You say you were good friends with her/him, then in that case there's really no room for betrayal. Try talking to her/him..if she/he ignores you...don't give up...try your utter best to understand why she/he is behaving in such a way. Always think positive! When we are hurt, upset...we start to think of the worse...that's a natural feeling, but try not to...try to think 'why'.

Did anything happen between you two which you feel may have hurt her/him? Try to recall all recent incidents which could have triggered this off. Is there any personal issues which has made her/him react in such a manner (ie: family matters, work/college, etc). There could be many reasons - it may not even have to be anything related to you or your friendship...so although it is difficult try not to think any low of yourself or blame yourself...!!!!

If you come to know of the reason...and it does all boil down to her/he betraying you, then...be pleased....because your friend wasn't such a good friend afterall. Good friendship is built on understanding and trust.

However though, like I said....try talking to her/him first before concluding that she/he has betrayed you :(

Just a few words from meeee......!!!!!!! :P :P :P

PS: BTW...revenge is not an option under any circumstance..."Love your enemies".

ragi_kutty
10-01-2004, 10:50 AM
Hi everybody.........:)

I'm so impressed about your opinions and views.............:ee:

Definitely i can learn something from u guys about ur views

and thnx for ur advice 2 me.........:)

-xRagix-

ragi_kutty
10-06-2004, 10:48 AM
Hi GuYs....

Finally i did it......both of us had a talk and......we ended up as before bt still......

but thats allrite........thnx for ur advice buddies.......:ee:

ashokcsn_2000
10-06-2004, 12:39 PM
Finally i did it......both of us had a talk and......we ended up as before bt still......



glad to know tat ragi.... u hav a gr8 time

Priyanka
10-06-2004, 06:54 PM
Sila peru enna pannuvaanganna namba kooda nalla close-a pazhagittu one fine day dhidirnu namba kooda pesarathai nirutthiduvaanga. Manasukku romba kashtama irukkum.

Adhe madhiri thaan Hemanu (She is not a geetham member. She is not a tamilian at all). Naanum avalum romba close-a irunthom. Aval enga husband-ukkum close friend. Nanum en husbandum etthanaiyo dhadavai avaloda velila shopping peiyirukkom. Etthanaiyo dhadavai dinner-ukku kuppittirukken. But one fine day suddenly she stoped speaking to us. Nambala poi valiya pesinaal kooda bathil pesamattal. Enakku romba kashtama pocchu. En husband kitta adikkadi polambinde iruppen.

Guys! Please dont do like that. It realy hurts other people badly. Onnu pazhagave pazhagadheenga. Pazhagina atleast avangalum neengalum ore oorla irukkara varaikkumaanom friendship-ai maintain pannunga. Or if she or he behaves in a matter you openly say that and severe their friendship. Do not fight but say it politely. Namba boss and parents-ukku mattum thaan bayappudanum. Vera yaarukkum bayappada thevai illai.

Advice pandratha edutthukkatheenga. Just I told my view. Avvalavu thaan.

ragi_kutty
10-08-2004, 08:34 AM
Sila peru enna pannuvaanganna namba kooda nalla close-a pazhagittu one fine day dhidirnu namba kooda pesarathai nirutthiduvaanga. Manasukku romba kashtama irukkum.

aamaa Karthis, u r correct.........1st naanum appadi thaan ninaichen.......when she didn't come and spoke.......but then we had this talk and ippo ellaam allrite......

but unka friend neenga kadhaichum kadhaikkaama irunthaana thats too bad.....i mean enakkendraal kovam vandhirukkum......avalai thittiruppen.....bt naama namma paattil poonaal ellaam paravaalai illa?......... :ush:

(and Karthis.......neenga girl nu enakku ippo thaan Karthis theriyum...:ee:)........:dance :