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Priyanka
10-31-2004, 06:15 AM
Hi guys & gals!

Romba naala pattimandratthula oru topic-ume vara kaanom. Ore dull adikkithu. So I decided to start this new topic.

The topic is "Is dating good to our Indian culture?"

Come on! Share your views!!

dinesh
10-31-2004, 08:57 AM
yakka.....ithu yerkanavae alasi aaranju pichu pudungi eriyappatta topic......check out the archives :)

As an aside, Dating-na enna? :sm12:

Shy
10-31-2004, 01:00 PM
aama priyanka.. archives parungo..

acho enna keteenga dinesh..dating na ennanu theriyaatha ungalukku :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

oru IT professional, computerna ennanu kaeta mathiri irukku ;)

Shy

anainar
10-31-2004, 01:54 PM
ப்ரியங்காக ுட்டி,

இந்தா மாதிரி விவகாரமான மேட்டர் எல்லாம் விலாவாரியா விளாசித்தள ்ளி இங்க கண்டிப்பா. எனக்கு நல்லா ஞாபகம் இருக்கு. தேடிப்பாரு ங்க. ரொம்ப பொழுது போகலைன்னா, பேசாம் டேட்டிங் பண்ணுங்க( உங்க ஹஸ்பண்டை :ee: :ee: :ee: ).

But I am all for dating, before marriage, after marriage, till death. :sm12: :sm12: :sm12:

Cheers

Priyanka
10-31-2004, 02:59 PM
Naan check pannittu thaane intha topic-ai arambicchen! Yerkenave vanduduccha! :think:

Shy
10-31-2004, 06:58 PM
ப்ரியங்காக ுட்டி,

இந்தா மாதிரி விவகாரமான மேட்டர் எல்லாம் விலாவாரியா விளாசித்தள ்ளி இங்க கண்டிப்பா. எனக்கு நல்லா ஞாபகம் இருக்கு. தேடிப்பாரு ங்க. ரொம்ப பொழுது போகலைன்னா, பேசாம் டேட்டிங் பண்ணுங்க( உங்க ஹஸ்பண்டை :ee: :ee: :ee: ).

But I am all for dating, before marriage, after marriage, till death. :sm12: :sm12: :sm12:

Cheers

yaarai ;)

Shy

anainar
10-31-2004, 07:42 PM
அது அவங்க அவங்க இஷ்டம், இடம், பொருள், ஏவலைப் பொருத்தது. :sm12: :sm12: எங்கிட்ட போட்டு வாங்கப் பார்க்கிறீ ங்களா?? :D :D :D

Cheers

Shy
10-31-2004, 07:58 PM
அது அவங்க அவங்க இஷ்டம், இடம், பொருள், ஏவலைப் பொருத்தது. :sm12: :sm12: எங்கிட்ட போட்டு வாங்கப் பார்க்கிறீ ங்களா?? :D :D :D

Cheers

cha cha eppo ellam neenga romba vivaramaiteenga :evil: :evil: :evil: mm parthukuraen. itha time neenga escaped.. but maataama vida mataen ;) varatum avanga...

Shy

Comenaughty
11-02-2004, 05:39 AM
what is dating? konjum detailed'a explain pannungo :oops: :wink:

sri_gan
11-02-2004, 02:39 PM
அது அவங்க அவங்க இஷ்டம், இடம், பொருள், ஏவலைப் பொருத்தது. :sm12: :sm12: எங்கிட்ட போட்டு வாங்கப் பார்க்கிறீ ங்களா?? :D :D :D

Cheers

ஏவலா? ஏவாலா? ;)

Yakka ippadi kekanum appo than iyannar iyaa mind le inna oduthunu theriyum.

saisrini85
11-02-2004, 06:35 PM
I think to my knowledge, dating refers to the understanding that a man and woman come into before starting a new relationship!! They try to come to know of each other, likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses, etc and then decide the future of their relationship. I absolutely feel dating is normal and is fine for us, Indians... when everything is changing, why do we still use the word 'culture'?? I dont think everything should function as it has been always!! the world should keep changing, only then will lives be interesting and fun.. in that case, culture cannot exist for long.

ramalingam
11-04-2004, 10:53 AM
Ama, dating datingareengale, adhu endha date-la varum, yaar yaar ellam varuvanga, enna samayal pannuvaanga, adhu udambukku nalladha, kettadha, gulf-la ellam date neraya saapduvangalam, andha date-kkum indha date-ing kum edhavadhu sambandham unda, yaaravadhu solli kudungalen iplees:) Aha, ha ha, hey, ey ey, huh uh uh, haiyaaaaaaa Rams

rashmi987
11-26-2004, 04:31 AM
appadi poduga topic-a

rashmi987
11-26-2004, 04:39 AM
Good/Bad for Indian culture -a vidunga. It is a mere time and money wasting business.

Night-Sun
03-14-2005, 12:42 PM
All I got to say here; we have rights to get dates, and why not? Past western culture is today's Indian culture. Today's western culture is tomorrow's Indian culture.

san2003
03-14-2005, 02:17 PM
Past western culture is today's Indian culture. Today's western culture is tomorrow's Indian culture.

very good point :) somethin to think about :) :ee:

arv_dev
03-14-2005, 04:06 PM
Hi
This is not at all suitable to our culture.This is mainly a western culture and if we follow these things then we are westernizing ourselves.this means we are deviating and tainting our rich culture

coolian
03-14-2005, 04:35 PM
Sati was part of our culture before, right? So why did we "deviate" and "taint" our culture by abolishing it? Why, arv_dev, do you wear a shirt and jeans, or only vEshti? Culture "erosion" will always take place, and it always has taken place. No big deal to dating. Heck, that's one easy way to know more about the girl at least ;-).

Bluelotus
03-14-2005, 04:39 PM
Hi
This is not at all suitable to our culture.This is mainly a western culture and if we follow these things then we are westernizing ourselves.this means we are deviating and tainting our rich culture

:00: :00: :00:

hello there Arv_Dev,

are you then saying that we should all just turn up on the day of the Wedding, and simply get married "blindly" to whoever is standing at the altar or Sitting next to the Priest in the Groom's place :00: :00: :00: :00:

not likely :Ksp: :ahha:


If you can get a date ...go for it :wink:


blue.

san2003
03-14-2005, 11:29 PM
Hi
This is not at all suitable to our culture.This is mainly a western culture and if we follow these things then we are westernizing ourselves.this means we are deviating and tainting our rich culture

:00: :00: :00:

hello there Arv_Dev,

are you then saying that we should all just turn up on the day of the Wedding, and simply get married "blindly" to whoever is standing at the altar or Sitting next to the Priest in the Groom's place :00: :00: :00: :00:

not likely :Ksp: :ahha:


If you can get a date ...go for it :wink:


blue.

blues.... nee sonathu correct... but it still happens ... majority of them go thru that ... well.. not exactly u jus know ur groom on the altar... but they hardly know the person they gonna marry ...max prob a week.. which is ridiculous :ee:

Bluelotus
03-14-2005, 11:40 PM
it still happens ... majority of them go thru that ... well.. not exactly u jus know ur groom on the altar... but they hardly know the person they gonna marry ...max prob a week.. which is ridiculous

are you serious? :00: :00: :00:

I thought that only happened in tribal Pakistani regions :00:

OH man :ee: ....I was just thinking what if some poor guy had to marry me like that...he would just jump of the cliff after listening to me for a couple hours :lol: :lol: :lol:


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Seriously though, There's nothing wrong with dating as long as you observe your own code of etiquette and morals :ahha:

and for a country that makes so many many many movies based purely pn Love as the main theme....seems a bit rich to forbid dating :?

how else would they know if they truly love that person or not? :think:


blue.

coolian
03-14-2005, 11:59 PM
See, a lot of people believe in love after marriage, not before - something I don't really agree with.

arv_dev
03-15-2005, 11:43 AM
hi
it seems there has been some really conflicting opinions abt my post.let me clarify certain things...firstly what i meant in my post as not suitable to our culture is that we would be dragging ourselves more towards weternization.i hope this is true and i hope every one agrees to it.i dont say that u see ur bride just on the wedding day or dont get to know abt her before the mariage... its not wrong to go on a date if u r restricted to one woman and u ultimately end up becoming her life partner.nowadays u would have seen guys and girls flirting with a new partner almost every day and that is what i meant by degrading our cultural values.please dont tell me this is not happening now in our country.....

raghu
03-16-2005, 01:52 PM
hi
it seems there has been some really conflicting opinions abt my post.let me clarify certain things...firstly what i meant in my post as not suitable to our culture is that we would be dragging ourselves more towards weternization.i hope this is true and i hope every one agrees to it.i dont say that u see ur bride just on the wedding day or dont get to know abt her before the mariage... its not wrong to go on a date if u r restricted to one woman and u ultimately end up becoming her life partner.nowadays u would have seen guys and girls flirting with a new partner almost every day and that is what i meant by degrading our cultural values.please dont tell me this is not happening now in our country.....


i agree with u.this is happening i dont know abt chennai but in bombay its happening....its like western world there, girls feel ashamed if they dont have a boy friend.......dating has become very common there...........is it good or not good................looking at the west from where this fever has caught Indians.it seems to b a bad impact.slowly moral value will decline as its here.........

arv_dev
03-26-2005, 04:20 PM
the problem with the youth is that they misunderstand dating and love...there is a big gap between these two.dating is shit and doesnt lead us anywhere.u will lose one partner to gain another but will never be able to get peace of mind...

amal_japan
03-27-2005, 04:48 AM
Mr. arv_dev,

எனக்கு நீங்கள் நன்றாகக் குழம்பி விட்டீர்கள ் போல்தான் தெரிகிறது. முதலில் Dating என்றால் என்னவென்று பார்ப்போம் .

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date (MEETING)
noun

[1] a social meeting planned in advance, such as one between two people who are or might become life partners:

eg:
1. Vijey has asked her out on a date.
2. Bala has a nice date (= an exciting meeting) tonight.

[2] (US) a person you have a romantic meeting with:

eg:
1. Who's your date for the prom(=party)?

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date
verb (MAINLY US)

to regularly spend time with someone you have a romantic relationship with:
eg:
1. Mr. & Mrs. Sri_gan were dating for five years before they got married.
2. How long have you been dating Priya?

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இங்கே என்றால் ஒரு ஜோடி காதலில் விழுந்து விட்டாலோ, காதலில் விழுந்துவி டுவதைப் போலிருந்தா லோ தம் காதலை இன்னும் ஆழமாக்கிக் கொள்வதற்கு ம் மனம்விட்டு தம் உணர்வுகளைய ும் எதிர்காலக் கனவுகளையும ் பகிர்ந்துக ொள்வதற்கும ் எதாவது ரம்மியமான இனிய சூழலில் சந்திப்பார ்கள். இங்கே உள்ளவர்களி டம் கைநிறையப் பணம் இருப்பதால் அத்தகைய சந்திப்புக ்களில் நன்றாகச் செலவளிக்கி றார்கள். ஆனால் Dating என்றால் கட்டாயமாகச ் செலவளித்து த் தான் ஆகவேண்டும் என்று கட்டாயம் எதுவுமில்ல ை. கையில் இருக்கும் பணத்திற்கு ஏற்றபடி செலவளிக்கல ாம். ஆனால் பொது இடங்களில் Dating செய்யும் போது Public ஐ பாதிக்குமா று நடந்து கொள்ள வேண்டாம் :nono: . இந்தியா, இலங்கை போன்ற நாடுகளில் கைகோர்த்து நடந்தாலே வித்தியாசம ாகப் பார்க்கிறா ர்கள். இது நாளடைவில் மாறிவிடும் என நினைக்கிறே ன் :think: . ஆகவே நேரமும் Sweet Heart உம் இருந்தால் ஏன் தாமதிக்க வேண்டும். எமது உயரிய கலாச்சார வரம்புகளுக ்குள் இனிமையான பல Dating களை நிச்சயம் நடத்தலாம். பணம் இருந்தால் இன்னும் நன்றாக பண்ணுங்கள் :b: .

NOTE:- திருமணமானவ ர்களும் தம் உணர்வுகளைய ும், கனவுகளையும ், காதலையும், அன்பையும், அக்கறையையு ம் பகிர்ந்துக ொள்வதற்கு Dating செய்யலாம்.

வாழ்க்கை வாழத்தானே... அது தான் அத்தானே....

அதே அன்புடன்,
அமல்.




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san2003
04-07-2005, 12:18 PM
it still happens ... majority of them go thru that ... well.. not exactly u jus know ur groom on the altar... but they hardly know the person they gonna marry ...max prob a week.. which is ridiculous

are you serious? :00: :00: :00:

I thought that only happened in tribal Pakistani regions :00:

OH man :ee: ....I was just thinking what if some poor guy had to marry me like that...he would just jump of the cliff after listening to me for a couple hours :lol: :lol: :lol:

hey blues... im serious... it happened to my colleagues daughter... max one month.. meeting the groom, engagement, wedding... everything :) i dunno bout pakistani ppl.... i thought it was common in india :)

btw... wanted to say sori to all as i was not very actively participating for couple of weeks.. as i went for holidays.... to india then to my home place malaysia.. jus came back yesterday.. :)

amal_japan
04-07-2005, 12:41 PM
btw... wanted to say sori to all as i was not very actively participating for couple of weeks.. as i went for holidays.... to india then to my home place malaysia.. jus came back yesterday..

oh !
warm warm welcome.. San :sm08:

san2003
04-07-2005, 12:49 PM
thanx amal.... good to be back ;)
miss all in geethamz ;) :ee:

goodcomplanboy
04-07-2005, 02:30 PM
hoi sandoll. Enna thideernu escape ayityennu yosichuttu irunthen. good good you are back :sm08: Ozhunga candies/chockies eduthuttu kids corner'kku vaa :)

san2003
04-08-2005, 01:49 PM
hoi sandoll. Enna thideernu escape ayityennu yosichuttu irunthen. good good you are back :sm08: Ozhunga candies/chockies eduthuttu kids corner'kku vaa :)

thanx GCB... at least someone thought i was missing ;) hehehe... jus jokin

itho.. ippovae naan kids corner'ku poraen.. with my chockies ;) hehehe

rosa_mystica
04-16-2005, 06:50 PM
i always thought dating was done so that girls and guys could get to know wat kinda life partner they would want for the future...but that doesn't mean go around sleeping with eachother or sticking tongues in one's mouth... its just a bit of socialising... i mean u don't want to end killing ur life partner cos u don't know how to respond to her/him when they're being irrational...but then again i guess ppl are just afraid of youngsters of using this as an excuse not to do well in exams!!

luv Rosa xxx

aswin
04-21-2005, 07:36 PM
The topic is "Is dating good to our Indian culture?"

Come on! Share your views!!


There is nothing to be discussed about. Everybody knew that dating is NOT good for our culture. In America they encourage dating coz they can sell. Here everything is viewed as a selling point of view. They also do encourage divorce too. It is indeed good for the economy and not for an individual.

I wonder how do one get to know a person within few months or a few years? The fact is even if you spend a decade with a person you wont be so sure about that person. I won't be comfortable in letting my son/daughter or any other kids to date.

coolian
04-21-2005, 08:15 PM
So you're saying Americans date each other to promote the nation's economy? That's absurd. You'd rather marry someone you've absolutely no idea about, than someone you know through dates? If that's the case...good luck!!! What's so wrong about dating anyway? It's a great way to learn more about someone you're interested in. If you date someone, and you don't like him/her, you can always move on. The point of dating is finding that someone who you will be totally comfortable with. Absolutely nothing wrong with that.

>> I wonder how do one get to know a person within few months or a few years? The fact is even if you spend a decade with a person you wont be so sure about that person.

What's the point in getting married then, since you're so sure you'll never know that person? Might as well be single and watch TV all day.

ns80
04-21-2005, 09:25 PM
i dont think, there is anything wrong in dating, as long as it is platonic, be it India or the west, i feel it is just a platform to get to know each other and compatibility, am not meaning move-in's that seems too much to accept.


I wonder how do one get to know a person within few months or a few years? The fact is even if you spend a decade with a person you wont be so sure about that person.

Few months(or a year or so) is more than enough to know about a persons likes and dislikes and enough details needed to lead a life with that person.

vasan
04-21-2005, 09:51 PM
as long as it is platonic

Why? :?

If its platonic, you are NOT dating. If I am not romantically interested in a girl, why would I ask her out? :? :?

puzzled v- :Ksp:

aswin
04-21-2005, 09:51 PM
So you're saying Americans date each other to promote the nation's economy? That's absurd.
Whoa, I said generally. The absurd thing is why should we follow western culture ? I do agree that good and better things can be followed but not things like dating. It is also absurd how the dating process works in America. Pls dont buy it.


You'd rather marry someone you've absolutely no idea about, than someone you know through dates? If that's the case...good luck!!!

Thankyou. Well, I married without any dating.


What's so wrong about dating anyway? It's a great way to learn more about someone you're interested in. If you date someone, and you don't like him/her, you can always move on.

I know few of my friends wasn't happy about this dating games and had bad experiences. It is the risk you take it. Again, What's so wrong about getting help from your parents anyway. Moving-on aint easy.




The point of dating is finding that someone who you will be totally comfortable with. Absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Yeah! Nothing wrong in it. I would not have married someone who dated . Wow! can't imagine my husband dated few people. Yikes. May be it might work well for guys , but not for gals. Gals are emotional and prolly thats the reason they dont encourage these stuff. Ask any Indian parents about dating , they would say NO, coz they are protective. Finding a totally comfortable person won't happen in few dates. Marriage makes a relationship complete and the true dating starts from there on. Only married ppl know about it. :) Singles dont undestand.



What's the point in getting married then, since you're so sure you'll never know that person? Might as well be single and watch TV all day.

Why not marry a person and date him/her forever. What if you date a person for 3 yrs , you dont like her then move-on? again date another and move-on? I said it takes time to know a person , it depends, it might take a day to many a years. Also, People are not constant they change , their attitudes change. What YOU is today is not the same YOU 'morrow. Got it?

vasan
04-21-2005, 10:01 PM
Why not marry a person and date him/her forever.

:Ksp: :Ksp: :Ksp: This thread here gets more and more puzzling.. :? :?

Why would you 'date' a person after you are married to him/her? Kalyanam aana piragu pen-paarkaa (or maappilai paakka) poveengala? :Ksp: :Ksp:

Marriage MAY follow dating.. (you date... and propose.. and marry.. ). Its like time - it runs only in one direction. :ahha:

:? :? :? :?

Whaddya guys/gals talking about anyways? I understand the risk of datin' some one for few times, or months or whatever, and not liking her and moving on. That is THE point. If you don't like you move on. Until you find the perfect person (or, the person whose idiosyncracies you can handle), date. Where is the problem ? :? :? :? Where is the question of "What IF" comes?? (Whats next? What if I die tomorrow?!.. :Ksp:)

More and more puzzled v- :? :?

ns80
04-21-2005, 10:30 PM
If I am not romantically interested in a girl, why would I ask her out?

i just meant sexless. blame it on my bad choice of words :doh:.


It is also absurd how the dating process works in America.

each person has their own way of knowing their partner. doesnt mean it should work the American way.


I know few of my friends wasn't happy about this dating games and had bad experiences. It is the risk you take it.

dint get what you meant by this :?.


People are not constant they change , their attitudes change. What YOU is today is not the same YOU 'morrow

Agreed, but isnt that what understanding a person is all about :think:.

BTW, I don't have any qualms on arranged marraiges, just trying to say nothing wrong in dating. And yeah, dating doesnt mean knowing a person through internet, personally I believe internet/chatting is'nt a good way to know a person, especially if it is going to be your future life partner.

coolian
04-22-2005, 01:59 AM
Whoa, I said generally. The absurd thing is why should we follow western culture ? I do agree that good and better things can be followed but not things like dating. It is also absurd how the dating process works in America. Pls dont buy it.
"Generally"? I still don't understand what your point is. Why are you linking dating and the economy? Every single person I know who has dated does not walk about thinking "Aaah...Uncle Sam has made some money!! Yahoo!!". And no, one doesn't need to "follow western culture" when one dates. Like I said before - and like others in this thread have mentioned - dating allows you to find out if that person is The One. It helps you figure out what kind of person you would like to have as a life partner. Now, suppose a guy marries someone he has never met before. If his partner turns out to be someone he constantly argues with etc etc, how would love develop in the first place? Well, sure, it has worked for millions of people (arranged marriages), and I'm glad it has, no doubt. But obviously there are cases when the couple is not at all happy with each other...why should they jeopardize their lives (and possibly their children's) by marrying someone w/o knowing what kind of person that someone is?


I know few of my friends wasn't happy about this dating games and had bad experiences. It is the risk you take it. Again, What's so wrong about getting help from your parents anyway. Moving-on aint easy.
Of course there will be bad experiences! And that's why it's called "dating"!! You can't expect to find that perfect girl/guy in one date, can you? And you're telling me you can find that perfect person in marriage w/o knowing that guy? At least, if you date someone and that dude(tte) turns out to be a @%$(@$@&, you are totally free to "move on", and yes, moving on when you're dating is much, much easier than moving on when you're married. Again, there's nothing wrong in getting help from your parents...this topic has nothing to do with that. Dating someone doesn't mean you're dead against your parents' wishes, so I don't know why you even brought that up.


The point of dating is finding that someone who you will be totally comfortable with. Absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Yeah! Nothing wrong in it.

I would not have married someone who dated.
A slight contradiction, don't you think?


May be it might work well for guys, but not for gals. Gals are emotional and prolly thats the reason they dont encourage these stuff.
Hang on a sec. You're saying that girls "don't encourage these stuff"? Girls don't encourage dating, because they're more emotional? :00: Aren't you generalizing things a bit too much? Dating is between two people of the opposite sex (well, that's changing these days :ee:) - and guys wouldn't be dating girls if girls didn't want it - but that's hardly my point.


Ask any Indian parents about dating , they would say NO, coz they are protective.
Protective, they'll be...no question about that. But will they be happy when they realize that their son/daughter married a dud? You're risking your child's life here, marrying him/her off to someone he/she barely knows!! And who's getting married anyway, the child or the parents?


Finding a totally comfortable person won't happen in few dates. Marriage makes a relationship complete and the true dating starts from there on. Only married ppl know about it. :) Singles dont undestand.
Marriage = nonstop dating (if it manages to stay romantic throughout :ahha:). Finding a totally comfortable person most certainly will not happen in a few dates. When did I even say that? Only when one is serious about someone else, and they continue to date will they realize that they are perfect for each other. You speak as if every marriage is perfect - if that were the case, we wouldn't be seeing divorces, would we?


Why not marry a person and date him/her forever.
I've no idea what you're talking about. You don't seem to understand what "dating" is. Dating someone is not simply choosing some person randomly and eating dinner with that person every night. Dating is the process of finding that one special person.


What if you date a person for 3 yrs , you dont like her then move-on? again date another and move-on?
I'll have to repeat myself. Wouldn't a guy be thankful that he wasn't married to some girl he was dating, when he realizes (after 3 years) that they weren't meant to be? Just imagine the consequences had they been married.


I said it takes time to know a person , it depends, it might take a day to many a years. Also, People are not constant they change , their attitudes change. What YOU is today is not the same YOU 'morrow. Got it?
Say what?

ragi_kutty
04-22-2005, 05:32 AM
Hi Everyone

Just went past diz topic and it looked interesting for me and just thought dat i wanted to reply...

First of all I don't think that Dating should be mixed with culture....because love comes from two peoples heart and not from what culture they are isn't it....

Unless its a arranged marriage and you have a dating from that then u can say that....

Another thing there has been asked is "Is it good for our culture?"....

Well, some sees it as a good thing, and a bad thing....the good thing is that two people is united together....A bad thing is that it might insult a persons family....

Personally, im not into dating and stuff like that coz i haven't tried it out yet, but still if some are into it...then go ahead, but one thing, its the family that counts.... :)

coolian
04-22-2005, 05:36 AM
Massive sidetrack: How come RagiKutty ain't an active member? :00: 1273 posts :00:...

ns80
04-22-2005, 05:47 AM
Sidetrack-->

How come RagiKutty ain't an active member?

read from the good old archives that active membership gets automatically disabled if there isnt any activity for quite some time(dont know what this time period is though). geethamites sporting blue, red and green nicks shud explain better :P :P.

coolian
04-22-2005, 05:54 AM
Wow...active for another 80-odd years? Gonna be a bit tough...but I think I'll be able to handle it!

vasan
04-22-2005, 05:57 AM
Good question Cools. Great answer NS.

I have NO idea why.. :Ksp:

I don't think there is anything automatic about it... Check panni paarthaa thaan theriyum.. :oops:

v- :wink:

ragi_kutty
04-22-2005, 06:11 AM
nah ive been absent for a long time innit? so i understand why i ain't an active member, bt im not sad coz of that....U'll just be active now innit... :)

ragi_kutty
04-22-2005, 06:11 AM
nah ive been absent for a long time innit? so i understand why i ain't an active member, bt im not sad coz of that....U'll just be active now innit... :)

ns80
04-22-2005, 06:18 AM
Sidetrack -->
vasan,
i guess this is there from times immemorial. check out this thread (http://www.geetham.net/forums/htopic,1938,active+member.html ). I remember another thread which had a huge discussion about active membership and usage. not able to get it now though :?

Sorry for the sidetrack people :sm03:

aswin
04-22-2005, 02:12 PM
Why would you 'date' a person after you are married to him/her? Kalyanam aana piragu pen-paarkaa (or maappilai paakka) poveengala?

The concept of 'dating' in itself very confusing. I took it as knowing the other person, but it is actualy getting to know the other is compatible or not.

Priyanka
04-22-2005, 02:17 PM
So many supporters for dating? :00: :00: I am really really shocked. Well I can never digest these dating concept. :snooty: If you want to understand a person park-ukku ponga beach-ukku ponga. If you want meet daily meet pannunga daily pesunga. Athula oruththara oruththar purinjukkaathathaiyaa dating panni purinjukka poreenga?

Dating is not only waste of money and time but also very risky. If you date, (well it is my opinion ... no kovam please) it will ultimately lead you to one thing which I do not want to openly say. :ee: To avoid that you should have tremendous self control.

So why to take risk. Nalla beach-ukku ponga park-ukku ponga cinemavukku ponga. Nalla ooru suththunga. :ee: Athai vittuttu no dating please. :nono:

aswin
04-22-2005, 03:11 PM
Generally"? I still don't understand what your point is. Why are you linking dating and the economy? Every single person I know who has dated does not walk about thinking "Aaah...Uncle Sam has made some money!! Yahoo!!"

It sure is economical , so that they can sell flowers, chocolates, cards, cell phones and much more.


And no, one doesn't need to "follow western culture" when one dates. Like I said before - and like others in this thread have mentioned - dating allows you to find out if that person is The One.

haha This is hilarious! 'The One' is something over-rated. Ok, Dating is the western concept. Lets analyse the American way of dating. American kids start dating at an very early stage , say at above 13 . I dont get the need of getting to know the compatibility of the other at that age...so, it is for the economy. My views :)

You can't expect a couple of 18 to have a platonic relationship. If you think so, you got yourself fooled. Americans are now struggling to prevent the teenage pregnancy, both the gender lose their virginity. These kids are also used with breaking-ups , moving-on's and when they are ready for marriage at their 30's, they dont realy have problems with moving on and getting a similar compatible person of their kind. Even their marriages are not 100% success. 60% end-up with divorce. Proof: Dating is not GOOD.

Not only that, many kids end up raising their kids and making a survival at 20's. They wont be able to concentrate on studies and many are high school dropped and won't make it to college. Another shocking thing is many kids end up having a single parent , either fatherless or motherless.

Considering all that and much more I don't want something like this happen in India. We have our culture and it is the best for us.



It helps you figure out what kind of person you would like to have as a life partner. Now, suppose a guy marries someone he has never met before. If his partner turns out to be someone he constantly argues with etc etc, how would love develop in the first place? Well, sure, it has worked for millions of people (arranged marriages), and I'm glad it has, no doubt. But obviously there are cases when the couple is not at all happy with each other...why should they jeopardize their lives (and possibly their children's) by marrying someone w/o knowing what kind of person that someone is?

All this can happen in any marriage, arranged/love/with a compatabiltiy test . Whatever , relationships are complicated and it does require responsibility from both sides. Atleast you face this after marriage and not before. This is another topic.



Hang on a sec. You're saying that girls "don't encourage these stuff"? Girls don't encourage dating, because they're more emotional? Aren't you generalizing things a bit too much? Dating is between two people of the opposite sex (well, that's changing these days ) - and guys wouldn't be dating girls if girls didn't want it - but that's hardly my point.

I am not sure how the Indian way of dating works.



Protective, they'll be...no question about that. But will they be happy when they realize that their son/daughter married a dud? You're risking your child's life here, marrying him/her off to someone he/she barely knows!! And who's getting married anyway, the child or the parents?

There is no fool-proof system for the marriage. I thing dating makes it much more complicated rather than old traditional system either arranged or love.


You speak as if every marriage is perfect - if that were the case, we wouldn't be seeing divorces, would we?

I did not say that. Anyway, Indian marriages do have less % of divorce.




I'll have to repeat myself. Wouldn't a guy be thankful that he wasn't married to some girl he was dating, when he realizes (after 3 years) that they weren't meant to be? Just imagine the consequences had they been married.

Do you thing dating will lead to a perfect marriage? When you find the perfect girl , you will already be at your 50's. :D (just kidding)

san2003
04-22-2005, 03:26 PM
Nalla beach-ukku ponga park-ukku ponga cinemavukku ponga. Nalla ooru suththunga. :ee: Athai vittuttu no dating please. :nono:

some ppl go for dates like goin to cinema n stuff... but u said u dun agree with dating... but... beach'ku, park'ku n cinema'ku ellam pollam? ithu'lae engae logic? i dun understand PK :think::think::think:

Priyanka
04-22-2005, 04:02 PM
Is going to park, beach etc. called dating? :00: Naan ennavo dating na boyfriend kooda picnic porathunnu nenacchen. Like going to Ooty kodaikanal etc. Is it not so? :Ksp:

coolian
04-22-2005, 05:13 PM
Dating is not only waste of money and time but also very risky. If you date, (well it is my opinion ... no kovam please) it will ultimately lead you to one thing which I do not want to openly say. To avoid that you should have tremendous self control.
That's the lamest thing I've heard in a while. But, to each his own.

Aswin, I'll reply later when I've time time - now I'm only gonna read all these new posts :ee:.

dinesh
04-22-2005, 05:26 PM
Well I can never digest these dating concept
Well, that's understandable isn't it paati. During the 1940's no-one used to date, did they. My (real) paati only saw my thatha after coupla months of their marriage. So, don't worry. :sm12:


If you date, (well it is my opinion ... no kovam please) it will ultimately lead you to one thing which I do not want to openly say.
This is not true at all. It will only apply if you are an extreme weakling. Loadsa people date, and not everyone end up like that.

Paati, come out of the 1940s :ee:

Aswin, what you are saying is sometimes true. The relationships put massive strain on youngsters' lives, and sometimes destroy's their career. But I think you are making a big generalization in saying so. For every kid who lost its life there are 10 others who are leading very happy lives.

Your point about divorces are not valid though. In Western countries divorce rate is very high because people are allowed to divorce and the society does not treat them like outcasts for that. This is not really the case in our societies and people are forced to stay in marital relationships even if they don't want to.

Regarding coolian's point about finding the perfect match, that is again something I wouldn't agree with. It is generally not the case that you end up with a perfect partner. Most of the cases the couple are happy because they can adjust to each others' characteristics. they can love each other for what they are, with their failings and faults. I don't think dating helps you to find a perfect match. It might just end up confusing you more. If you like someone, dating is not the only way of finding out whether they are compatible with you, because most probably they are not going to be. If you really like someone then you just take the risk of adjusting and continue. otherwise chances are you will never find the one.

Having said that, I don't think it is the society's job to decide what people can do with their lives. In most countries it is legal for people of 16 years of age to be in a physical relationship. And if they are over 18s then they are adults and they can decide what they want to do. We can't make a collective decision on behalf of them.

And finally,

Is going to park, beach etc. called dating? Naan ennavo dating na boyfriend kooda picnic porathunnu nenacchen. Like going to Ooty kodaikanal etc. Is it not so?
Paati...neenga romba paavam :sm12:

ns80
04-22-2005, 05:52 PM
Is going to park, beach etc. called dating? Shocked Naan ennavo dating na boyfriend kooda picnic porathunnu nenacchen. Like going to Ooty kodaikanal etc. Is it not so?

i'll just quote what amal said in page 1, thats pretty much what i think about dating as well...


a social meeting planned in advance, such as one between two people who are or might become life partners

aswin, all this while the discussion was talking about dating in India, the west has their own style of doing things and so do we. i dont find any point Ctrl+C, Ctrl+V whatever they are doing.


When you find the perfect girl , you will already be at your 50's.

50 is a bit of an exaggeration. however long it takes, its quality of married life you lead thats important than the number of years you live.

If you think spending money only makes that partner you are "dating" happy, it is exploitation rather.

Bluelotus
04-30-2005, 07:53 AM
okie I wanna know what you all think of speed dating :sm12:

san2003
04-30-2005, 08:17 AM
okie I wanna know what you all think of speed dating :sm12:

aha....arambichitaya arambichitaya ;) hehe.. jokin blues.. ippo yenna speed dating pathi kekureenga?.... try panna poringala? ;) go ahead ... heard its fun... :ee:

valluvan
05-01-2005, 10:56 AM
What you do mean by Dating? :think:

Bluelotus
05-01-2005, 12:04 PM
well valluvan...try reading the multiple definitions given out on this thread and on another :wink:

what do you think dating means? :think:


Sandoll ..neeyum variyaa enkuda :wink: :wink: who knows may be Hugh and Simbu might be there :P :P :P


blue.

san2003
05-01-2005, 12:35 PM
Sandoll ..neeyum variyaa enkuda :wink: :wink: who knows may be Hugh and Simbu might be there :P :P :P

blue.

come blue come lets go... time date place.. ill be there.... ur rite... mayb hugh n simbu will be there... ;) lucky me then ;) :ee: naan simbhu'vae correct paniduraen.... oh.. one more thing... its speed dating rite.. so if i meet hugh.. dun wori... ill tell about u? ok va?.... anthe note'lae... if u meet simbhu... ehmm...dun forget me ;) :D.... ok va ;) hahaha

valluvan
05-01-2005, 12:49 PM
well valluvan...try reading the multiple definitions given out on this thread and on another :wink:


That's why I am confused a lot........What is the word "Dating" meant for? Everyone assumes something and posting their views......It's like aimless travel in the sky...(I like it though in real :D )....If anyone explains the concept of dating we are debating about, then it would be very productive, I think. Don't you? :think:



what do you think dating means? :think:
blue.

Adhu thaan naanum kekkureen.......also adhena speed dating......odi poi dating pannurathaa? :ahha:

valluvan
05-01-2005, 01:14 PM
Topic aarambichcha...PK-kke theriyalaaa........hahaha..... ...pppprrrrrrr... :sm12: :sm12: :lol: :lol:

Bluelotus
05-01-2005, 01:41 PM
speed dating is when you get loads of singles together...and they get abt 20 mins with each person...at the end you exchange fone numbers with the ones you liked best :wink:
neenghalum varingalaa :wink:

sandoll...if I see simbhu I'l lock him up in the broom cupboard and give you the key ok-vaa :wink:


blue.

valluvan
05-01-2005, 02:09 PM
Phone number kudukkirathu mattum thaanaa....fffuu...avlo thaana....appa phone number-aa ellarukkumee kudukkalaame.......... :wink:

I thought that you will date only with lilies......hehehe...good improvement. :P

ns80
05-01-2005, 03:02 PM
speed dating is when you get loads of singles together...and they get abt 20 mins with each person...at the end you exchange fone numbers with the ones you liked best

thappaana phone number kuduthuttaanga'na :think:

dinesh
05-01-2005, 03:08 PM
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Speed_dating

rosa_mystica
05-07-2005, 05:09 PM
if they give you the wrong phone number then that means they don't like you and they were just leading you on ... awwww but don't feel bad when that happens cos theres plenty more flowers in the garden!!! :sm35:

san2003
05-08-2005, 03:20 AM
sandoll...if I see simbhu I'l lock him up in the broom cupboard and give you the key ok-vaa :wink:
blue.

i jus saw this post.. hahaha..... bluey.. where is the key?... am waiting :think::think: ;)

suha
05-10-2005, 08:14 AM
sandoll...if I see simbhu I'l lock him up in the broom cupboard and give you the key ok-vaa :wink:
blue.

i jus saw this post.. hahaha..... bluey.. where is the key?... am waiting :think::think: ;)

dont give to sandoll...give to me... :ahha: i will in my dolly house :P

jaggy4u
05-10-2005, 09:16 AM
speed dating hmm...problem is, we dont get the good one's, they are always taken. need to have born before, since most of the age groups that comes up are between 25 and 40.
" you are cute but you are young"
" I dont give out number before the third date" (remember, she wants her to be dated thrice)
Girls always wait for a guy to come and say some silly pickup lines. :doh:

san2003
05-14-2005, 12:29 PM
dont give to sandoll...give to me... :ahha: i will in my dolly house :P

:evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil:


speed dating hmm...problem is, we dont get the good one's, they are always taken. need to have born before, since most of the age groups that comes up are between 25 and 40.
" you are cute but you are young"
" I dont give out number before the third date" (remember, she wants her to be dated thrice)
Girls always wait for a guy to come and say some silly pickup lines. :duh:

jaggy.. ur true in some ways.. u dun get good one's in speed dating.. coz THEY R TAKEN!!! ;) ... n no reason to speed date ;) ... oh well.. my simbhu will be there..so no probs.. ill catch him b4 anyone does... intha suha kitta careful'a irukunum ;)

btw... does the 20's age group go for these speed dating.. i thought those in the 30's do that... they r abit too old for me ;) hehehe :cool:

i would prob try speed dating.. but if someone would join me to go together.. not alone.. too dangerous ;)

darwin
06-03-2005, 12:11 PM
Ya, Few months is more than enough but 90% indian marraige gets fixed with the so called 'PoNnu parkkum' ceremony. How do u think one can decide his / her lifepartner within 30 min. So I think is important but with some or certain maturity.

sri_gan
06-03-2005, 02:00 PM
Darwin,

Dating or Not Dating, The bottom line is having the guts to face the life together without giving options for silly reasons to play and become a major problem.

Apart from that Dating feels like it has a month's time, but for people to come out open and share with their partner Month's is not enough... so in reality Dating is just for fun and nothing accomplished productively unless the couples feel the chemistry within them in the first few minutes, this is the truth.

Shy
06-03-2005, 02:15 PM
Dating for our culture :nono: :nono: :nono: :nono:

Shy

vasan
06-03-2005, 03:24 PM
Dating for our culture :nono: :nono: :nono: :nono:

Shy

Why? :think:

Namma culture-la kalyaanam pannikka maattangala? :ahha:

onnume puriyala ulagaththila.. v- :Ksp:

Shy
06-03-2005, 04:13 PM
kalyaanaathukkum datingkkum enna direct connection ;)

Oruthiyaa pudichutha, kalyaanam paninomanu irukanum..athaivitutu eppadi bees ella flowers thedi poorathoo athu mathiri poorathu thaan dating.. athu thevaiyaa... :evil: :evil: :evil: BTW over the period of months dating poorathunaala matum oru perfect partner kedaipaanganu enna nichayam... its all fate... adjust pani lead pananum.. thats life.. :b:

Shy

vasan
06-03-2005, 05:09 PM
flowers thedi poorathoo athu mathiri poorathu thaan dating.. athu thevaiyaa

You have misunderstood, counselor. What you are talking about is ponnu-paarkum padalam.. :ahha: Not dating.. :ee:


BTW over the period of months dating poorathunaala matum oru perfect partner kedaipaanganu enna nichayam... its all fate.

if everything is fate, why not get married kanna moodikittu? ethukku oruththiya pudichirrukku, pudikkilainnu sollikittu? :ahha: Toss a coin and lead a resigned life.. :ee:


kalyaanaathukkum datingkkum enna direct connection

Date pannu palarai, manasukku pudichhu oththu vara maathiri irunthaa, konja naal innum date pannu (go steady), appuram nijamavey work out aagum-nnu thonichunnaa, (if you are reasonably sure that you can handle the idiosyncracies of the other person), propose pannu, appuram dum dum dum.. :D

Direct connection. No stop over at any place.

tharagar vanththu 1000 poi solli, oru 1000 roopaay selavu panni makeup pottu pudicha photoa paarhthu, jathagam paarththu, maththa items ellaam paarththu.. :wink: amma-appa, adutha aaththu maami, pakkaththu veetu pankajam ivanga kooda poyi 'sight' adichu, ponnada konja neram pesanummu solli, per ennaa, entha college, yaaru pudicha heronnu, yethaavathu ulari kottitu, free coffee tiffin ellaam sapittutu vanthu, pudikkalainnu kaduthaasi podarathu namma oor 'culture', aanaa oru ponnoda pazhaki, avaloda viruppu veruppugala purinchikittu, ponnum paiyanum yosiththu mudiveduthaa, athu culture from Mars and Venus.. :snooty:

Naaahh.... nahhhh... :snooty:

old tamil poems ellam padingo.. thalaivan thalaiviya paarththu pesi, pazhaki, mayakki thaan kannaalam kattitu irunthango.. thats true tamil culture.. :D ithukkagavey inpaththu paal nnu oru section-ne ezhuththi vachu irukkar, Mr. Valluvar.. :D :D athum kai vazhikka, aaNi pudichi, panaiyolaiyila ezhuthiyirukkar.. not some typing in Unicode.. :P :P

Dating.. :b: Ponnu paarkkum sambirathaayms.. :thumbsdown:

v- :D

Sukran
06-03-2005, 09:02 PM
I think that there are 2 versions of dating. There is the obvious American/western version. Where 2 people go out to dinner or movie etc, later on things progress, and inevitably the break up after. Then there is the Indian version, where unaually it's 2 engaged ppl or "lovers" who are bound to get married, go to movies etc. This can still fall under indian culture. But the amercian version isn't in any way Indian Culture.

So American Version...... :nono: :nono: :nono: :nono: :nono: :nono: As Shy would say.

Indian Version: :dance: :dance: Sure, why not? The 2 will get married with the consent of their parents, anyway right?

Shy
06-03-2005, 10:40 PM
flowers thedi poorathoo athu mathiri poorathu thaan dating.. athu thevaiyaa

You have misunderstood, counselor. What you are talking about is ponnu-paarkum padalam.. :ahha: Not dating.. :ee:



No Vasan... Dating thaan solren.. You(the other team solren okvaa) be with a person, wander together for few weeks.. do everything.. then you see the negative things abt the other and feel you cant take it anymore and split. Ithai mathiri you keep on trying.. Antha purity poiduthu ellaiyaa? athai thaan sonaen...



BTW over the period of months dating poorathunaala matum oru perfect partner kedaipaanganu enna nichayam... its all fate.

if everything is fate, why not get married kanna moodikittu? ethukku oruththiya pudichirrukku, pudikkilainnu sollikittu? :ahha: Toss a coin and lead a resigned life.. :ee:

No you misunderstood.. Appadi partha not just personal life, ellathulaiyum fatenu irukalaamae, why work hard to lead a better life? So udanae appadi sola mudiyaathu Vasan... What I meant was...even if you are with 100 people or with no one.. its fate that you will meet the person you are destined to be with. and that "THE person" may have + or - too, but you still adjust to them and lead a life right, so why dont you wait and get straight to that person instead of trying many before ??



kalyaanaathukkum datingkkum enna direct connection

Date pannu palarai, manasukku pudichhu oththu vara maathiri irunthaa, konja naal innum date pannu (go steady), appuram nijamavey work out aagum-nnu thonichunnaa, (if you are reasonably sure that you can handle the idiosyncracies of the other person), propose pannu, appuram dum dum dum.. :D


Life is not that easy you say Vasan... be with someone , check out with they are compatible and then proceed furthernu.. what is this.. Life partner search panrooma ellai yethoo car vaangurooma.. test drive parthu pudicha appuram vangika..

Neenga solrathai thaan intha oor makkal seyuraanga, appuram yen avaloo divorce??? athaan enaala handle pana mudiyumnu confirm panitu thaanae marriage panikuraanga appuram yen appadi??

Because they get used to it Vasan.. Marriage becomes nothing.. Athooda importance poiduthu.. because athuku munna thaan 1000 perooda test live irunthu parthaacha.. ippo matum enna.. periya marriage.. othuvaralai.. lets divorcenu irukaanga.. So dating is a disaster.. it erases the compromise, adjustment and seeing the postive things from a person over the period of time because they always feel, it this partner is not compatible then lets move on and get another.


old tamil poems ellam padingo.. thalaivan thalaiviya paarththu pesi, pazhaki, mayakki thaan kannaalam kattitu irunthango.. thats true tamil culture..

Yaar kanmoodi thana marriage panika solra?

Athaan ippo nala parthu pesi, pazhakinathuku appuram thaanae engagement panraanga.. both are given so much time to decide appuram yena venum.. Love panrachaiyum udanaevaa marriagenu solraanga ellaiyae.. you spend so much time with them to get to know that person.. thats how it shud be...

Sukran.. Not sure if we met :).. Welcome to Geetham :b: Hope you enjoy your time here :)

Neenga solrathu romba correct :b:

Shy

vasan
06-03-2005, 10:48 PM
ithu long post. As Sherlock would say, its a two cup of latte problem.. :wink: Or as Teacher would say, padichittu weekend vanthu reply pannuren.. :P :P

But one quick question: What is Indian Culture? And why dating 'violates' this principle of indian culture?


Will write more after my class... ippo gotta run.. :oops:

v- :D

Sukran
06-03-2005, 11:31 PM
HI Shy. Nice to met you. Thanks. :D


But one quick question: What is Indian Culture? And why dating 'violates' this principle of indian culture?

Definition of Culture: All the knowledge and values shared by a society.

So Indian Culture essentially just means "All knowledge and values shared by the Indian Society."

Now, Why does dating violate this principle of Indian Culture?

It depends, if it's indian version of dating, where 2 ppl who are engaged, etc are going out, it doesn't violate the Principle of Indian Culture.

But if it is the american version of dating. That violates Indian Culture.

A guy and a girl who barely know eachother going out to a movie etc, is not part of Indian Values and Ethics.


Hope that clears it up. I gotta go now too. YEAH!! IT'S THE WEEKEND!!! :dance: :dance: :dance:

Regards everyone! :baba: :thamilan: :sm10:

vasan
06-03-2005, 11:42 PM
Definition of Culture: All the knowledge and values shared by a society


where 2 ppl who are engaged, etc are going out, it doesn't violate the Principle of Indian Culture.

why?? why does it not violate or why does it violate when two people, other wise not engaged go out to dinner or movie??

What is the Value you are talking about?? I can understand, "respect elders" is a value indians treasure. But in case of dating, where is this value??

20 years back, people were not engaged, went to movie and got married. Did they have a value? Did we lose it now??

My point is what you are calling as value/tradition/culture is total convenience. Every one of them is changing with time. So pretty much meaningless... :b:

And its NOT based on knowledge either. What is knowledge? Knowledge is universal. Newtons laws are Newtons laws whichever culture you belong to. And what knowledge is used in dating or not dating? Can I say, I want to date, and this knowledge is better than your knowledge of not dating? After all Indian knowledge about traffic rules was different 50 years back to now. Why not the so called knowledge on dating?

The whole argument is based on prejudice and totally wrong. Dating or not dating is nothing to do with culture (which ever way you call it). Its more to do with practice. If you are not used to it, so you thing is wrong. (My grandmother still thinks eating in plates is not really 'clean' and that indian culture is to sit on the floor, put a vaazhai ilai, and eat with your hands.. Try arguing with her that its nothing to do with culture but a mere practice of the period.. :ahha:)...

When people say Dating is american (or american version of dating blah blah) all that they mean is that they don't want to be open.. thats it.. :D That does not mean every one should do it. If you wanna do it do it, if you wanna do something else, its alright.. Be free... Nothing sacrosanct about one way to the other.

v-

dinesh
06-03-2005, 11:49 PM
Dating.... Is it good to our culture?

No, of course not. Let's all go and hide inside our respective caves......

PS: A very stressed out D here.......please don't kaaychufy me :pray:

vasan
06-03-2005, 11:53 PM
A very stressed out D here.......please don't kaaychufy me

Dude,

Common, go put on some music and get on with studies.. We will kaaychufy you plenty on sunday.. :wink: :P

All the very best for tomorrow, D-... :b: Ace it up.. :b:

Vasan

coolian
06-04-2005, 12:28 AM
I think Sukran's been watching a lot of Hollywood movies.

(Time to go out now, but I'll be back with more, promise!)

suha
06-04-2005, 01:44 AM
DATING apddina ennaa :think:

callender la date pakardhu thaani :ee:

san2003
06-04-2005, 05:51 AM
When people say Dating is american (or american version of dating blah blah) all that they mean is that they don't want to be open.. thats it.. :D That does not mean every one should do it. If you wanna do it do it, if you wanna do something else, its alright.. Be free... Nothing sacrosanct about one way to the other.

v-

very true vasan thatha... ppl r not able to accept the openness on this issue
to a certain extent.. i think its not so acceptable to date openly in conservative countries like Asia as it will become a talk of mouth... but if ur in other places... its not so bad.... it might look as though ur hiding or wat so ever coz u will date if ur in America but not in India or wherever..... to me.. i think its more like respecting the belief when ur in that country... but it comes down to what vasan said if u wanna do it.. do it... if not... then dont do it :ee:

coolian
06-04-2005, 06:22 AM
Sukran, pray enlighten me, what do you exactly mean by "Indian culture"? 100, perhaps 150, years ago, wearing "western" clothes would not have been part of Indian culture. Eating with spoons and forks would not have been part of Indian culture. Heck, even love marriages would have been taboo. Are you saying that our society should abolish all these things in order to preserve our culture? That would be absurd! So what's this "American" and "Indian" versions of dating that you speak of? Is there a set of rules defining the boundaries of what's "right" and what's "wrong" written down somewhere that I can see?

yamini
06-05-2005, 03:27 PM
Hi All,

It is an interesting but debatable topic of current interest to many people. Let me pen down
my views on "DATING".


Dating is:
Dangerous :nono: but dazzling game
Adventurous but aimless game
Terrible :nono: but tactiful game
Idiotic :nono: but intangible game
Notorius :nono: but noteable game
Guilty :nono: but glamourous game

Play it if you can WIN the game in Western Countries.The probability of winning (Success) of this game is very very very very very low.
All the BEST!

Please don't bring this concept to our country to destory our culture!!.

I am voting against DATING.

-yamini




நம் கலாச்சார மீன் தொட்டியில் திமிங்கலத் தை வளர்ப்பதில ் எனக்கு உடன்பாடில் லை.

Bluelotus
06-05-2005, 08:43 PM
I still support Dating. I think if you wish to date then do so, do so with your eyes wide open.

And I disagree that dating should end in marriage. What has marriage got to do with dating? :ahha:

And I hardly think that it will destroy our culuture, what kind of flimsy thing do you take our culture for :Ksp: ?

Dating isn't a game. Even if some think it is...it is not about winning or losing...


Anyway, dating is all very well :wink: but you can't always marry those that you date...
this is just my opinion...


blue.

dinesh
06-05-2005, 08:50 PM
Please don't bring this concept to our country to destory our culture!!.
Yup.....the cave is the only thing that's suited for us....quick let's all run inside and hide before everything is destroyed... :ahha:

coolian
06-14-2005, 09:59 AM
:lol:

Shy
06-16-2005, 11:14 PM
Please don't bring this concept to our country to destory our culture!!.
Yup.....the cave is the only thing that's suited for us....quick let's all run inside and hide before everything is destroyed... :ahha:

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coolian... :evil:

Shy

suha
06-16-2005, 11:56 PM
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