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yamini
11-17-2005, 06:02 PM
This is a message I received recently.I thought I could share it as someone may answer this old person who is a software engineer. :think: :think:

-yamini

PS: Throw it into the dust bin if already posted in Geetham :wink:




LIFE.......................... ............... A BITTER REALITY

Hi everyone have a look at this.

May be it doesn't apply to all, but does to majority!

As the dream of most parents I had acquired a degree in Software Engineer and joined a company based in USA, the land of braves and opportunity. When I arrived in the USA, it was as if a dream had come true. Here at last I was in the place where I want to be. I decided I would be staying in this country for about Five years in which time I would have earned enough money to settle down in India.

My father was a government employee and after his retirement, the only asset he could acquire was a decent one bedroom flat. I wanted to do some thing more than him. I started feeling homesick and lonely as the time passed. I used to call home and speak to my parents every week using cheap international phone cards. Two years passed, two years of Burgers at McDonald's and pizzas and discos and 2 years watching the foreign exchange rate getting happy whenever the Rupee value went down.

Finally I decided to get married. Told my parents that I have only 10days of holidays and everything must be done within these 10 days. I got my ticket booked in the cheapest flight. Was jubilant and was actually enjoying hopping for gifts for all m friends back home. If I miss anyone then there will be talks. After reaching home I spent home one week going through all the photographs of girls and as the time was getting shorter I was forced to select one candidate.

In-laws told me, to my surprise, that I would have to get married in 2-3days, as I will not get anymore holidays. After the marriage, it was time to return to USA, after giving some money to my parents and telling the neighbors to look after them, we returned to USA.


My wife enjoyed this country for about two months and then she started feeling lonely. The frequency of calling India increased to twice in a week sometimes 3 times a week. Our savings started diminishing.

After two more years we started to have kids. Two lovely kids, a boy and a girl, were gifted to us by the almighty. Every time I spoke to my parents, they asked me to come to India so that they can see their grand-children.

Every year I decide to go to India. But part work part monetary conditions prevented it. Years went by and visiting India was a distant dream. Then suddenly one day I got a message that my parents were seriously sick. I tried but I couldn't get any holidays and thus could not go to India. The next message I got was my parents had passed away and as there was no one to do the last rights the society members had done whatever they could. I was depressed. My parents had passed away without seeing their grand children.

After couple more years passed away, much to my children's dislike and my wife's joy we returned to India to settle down. I started to look for a suitable property, but to my dismay my savings were short and the property prices had gone up during all these years. I had to return to the USA.

My wife refused to come back with me and my children refused to stay in India. My 2 children and I returned to USA after promising my wife I would be back for good after two years.

Time passed by, my daughter decided to get married to an American and my son was happy living in USA. I decided that had enough and wound-up every thing and returned to India. I had just enough money to buy a decent 02 bed room flat in a well-developed locality.

Now I am 60 years old and the only time I go out of the flat is for the routine visit to the nearby temple. My faithful wife has also left me and gone to the holy abode.

Sometimes I wondered was it worth all this? My father, even after staying in India, had a house to his name and I too have the same nothing more. I lost my parents and children for just ONE EXTRABEDROOM.

Looking out from the window I see a lot of children dancing. This damned cable TV has spoiled our new generation and these children are losing their values and culture because of it. I get occasional cards from my children asking I am alright. Well at least they remember me.

Now perhaps after I die it will be the neighbors again who will be performing my last rights, God Bless them. But the question still remains 'was all this worth it?'

[highlight=yellow:c9b3a3a62d] I am still searching for an answer................!!!![/highlight:c9b3a3a62d]

--- By an Indian SE who was in US.

“Somewhere we loose our identity. The vanity, the big ego too crashes someday..!”

Minnie
11-17-2005, 06:10 PM
me too still searching for an answer.....is this all worth staying US????could someone answer plzzzzzzzz :pray:

coolian
11-17-2005, 06:14 PM
Look, I find such articles to be crap of the highest order. There could be several reasons the guy above is still searching for an answer.

1. He did not manage his finances properly.
2. He might have worked hard, not smart.
3. Luck didn't come his way.

C'mon! No point generalizing this dude's lousy situation to describe NRI's lives in the US. 99% of us are happy here.

Minnie
11-17-2005, 06:17 PM
ya,ya,ya,,ellarkkum unga madhiri life irrukumma swamy....meditating in beach etc......that guy must have not consulted guru's like you????

tinker
11-17-2005, 06:17 PM
This is a message I received recently.I thought I could share it as someone may answer this old person who is a software engineer. :think: :think:
-yamini
PS: Throw it into the dust bin if already posted in Geetham :wink:


Yamini

This was posted here before ,but couldn't find it .... :) .... you didnt say your comments on this though :)

coolian
11-17-2005, 06:18 PM
that guy must have not consulted guru's like you????

That was (4). Thanks for bringing it up. :P

ns80
11-17-2005, 06:22 PM
After couple more years passed away, much to my children's dislike and my wife's joy we returned to India to settle down. I started to look for a suitable property, but to my dismay my savings were short and the property prices had gone up during all these years. I had to return to the USA.

This either seems bit too theoretical or this person has too much expectations.
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Overall, this person lacks foresight of what he'd feel at 60s for whatever decision he takes. If you think you've taken a decision, stick to it and don't whine about it later, that's all I've got to say.

vasan
11-17-2005, 06:22 PM
Sure, I can answer this question quite well. This and many more.. All you will have to do it, send a check for 20 bucks (per question that is)... :ahha:

Two words: Hyperbole. Wrong.

Vasan

ns80
11-17-2005, 06:27 PM
1. He did not manage his finances properly.
2. He might have worked hard, not smart.
3. Luck didn't come his way.

Point 1 is right on dot, point 2 is quite possible and savings is often related to point 1 again.

Point 3 is ridiculous, would'nt blame luck if I din't do something right.
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That was (4). Thanks for bringing it up.

:lol: :lol: swamy, enakku oru asaramam vechu kudunga :pray: :sm03:

coolian
11-17-2005, 06:29 PM
Nah what I meant by "luck" was that luck plays a part in the road to success. Being at the right place at the right time. Of course, that only (well, most of the time?) happens to people who put in the effort, so back to square one there!

rsivaraman
11-17-2005, 06:34 PM
PuL Arrikudhu ba,Nice imagination , but mega seriala pannina namma Oorla ellarum kundhikinu Pakkalam

-Siva

goodcomplanboy
11-17-2005, 07:45 PM
The NRI's return - Movie title nalla irukka :sm12:

It was already posted Yamini, and we had a big discussion about this. Will try to dig that out and ask someone to merge it with this.

katteri
11-17-2005, 08:31 PM
Captain a hero va podaalam....


vayasanna charcter ku...Vannathai pole la varra captain....
Young captain (grandson ) will marry britney spears nu padathaa mudichudalam...

''Coming to the topic''
The same thing applies to the term HAPPINESS....

If u have to get one u have to loose one....thats the fate of man kind...

MOst of the people r happy in the world bcos they get wht they want....

This guy has changed his decision frequently....obviously he will land in no mans land...

yamini
11-17-2005, 09:09 PM
The NRI's return - Movie title nalla irukka :sm12:

It was already posted Yamini, and we had a big discussion about this. Will try to dig that out and ask someone to merge it with this.

Thanks GCB. Well,it is worth exploring the things again.What you are after something today may not make you happy after sometime .It is in your mind that makes you happy when you possess something/someone :wink: . I am sure that most of the people disagree now may agree after sometime. [B]




Yamini

This was posted here before ,but couldn't find it .... .... you didnt say your comments on this though

To be honest, I don't know the"Correct" answer :think: .

vasan
11-17-2005, 09:39 PM
The older posts on the same story..

http://www.geetham.net/forums/viewtopic.php?p=110038

http://www.geetham.net/forums/topic,12416.html

yamini
11-18-2005, 04:46 PM
tough life.. tough luck.. what else can I say..

Sometimes I wonder.. you know some decisions in life are taken with whatever info one has at hand at the moment. Hindsight may look more knowledgeable but not very helpful is it.. Too many things, too little time, and luck is not always on our side..






Sure, I can answer this question quite well. This and many more.. All you will have to do it, send a check for 20 bucks (per question that is)...

Two words: Hyperbole. Wrong.

Vasan




The older posts on the same story..

http://www.geetham.net/forums/viewtopic.php?p=110038

http://www.geetham.net/forums/topic,12416.html


Vasan thaatha :wink: , did you see that your views change with time :Ksp: .The ultimate truth in life- we change our views more often :wink: .

yavoos
11-18-2005, 07:16 PM
Life is a unique experience for every one whether it is good or bad that's how it is. Just don't look back and don't look into future, just enjoy the present moment. It is all about how you take it. There is no need to search for an answer.

vasan
11-18-2005, 08:50 PM
Vasan thaatha , did you see that your views change with time .The ultimate truth in life- we change our views more often .

Yamini,

:Ksp: :Ksp:

First time, some one posted it as a short story. So I responded like I would for a story.

Second time it was posted as some ones real life thingy. So I said its hyperbole and didn't respond with pity.. :Ksp:

Both times I responded same manner - and spoke for the intention of the post.

People do change. Thathaa and Himalayas don't.. :sm10: :P

v- :D :D

yamini
11-18-2005, 10:19 PM
Vasan thaatha , did you see that your views change with time .The ultimate truth in life- we change our views more often .

Yamini,

:Ksp: :Ksp:

First time, some one posted it as a short story. So I responded like I would for a story.

Second time it was posted as some ones real life thingy. So I said its hyperbole and didn't respond with pity.. :Ksp:

Both times I responded same manner - and spoke for the intention of the post.

People do change. Thathaa and Himalayas don't.. :sm10: :P

v- :D :D


Thaatha, You cannot be like a "photograpgh". My boss says that people (You and I) change.So I

beleive in my boss and follow him. :wink: :Ksp:

"A photograph never grows old. You and I change, people change all through the months and years, but a photograph always remains the same. How nice to look at a photograph of mother or father taken many years ago. You see them as you remember them. But as people live on, they change completely. That is why I think a photograph can be kind."

-- Albert Einstein :wink: .

vasan
11-18-2005, 10:50 PM
You change, but relative to what? :Ksp: Lets go back to even more fundamental work of Gallileo Gallilei..

Everything moves related to pole star. Or does the pole star move relative to everythign else? Totally depends on the Gallilean frame of reference.

So either thaatha changes compared to everything. Or everythign else changes and thaatha remains immutable. :) Being a simple man, and a very humble person, I consider everything to change and me remain constant - sorta like the speed of light in vacuum.. :D

Using a right frame of reference would simplify the analysis tremondously. :sm10: :P

scoring one on old mr. albert himself, v- :D

yamini
11-19-2005, 12:44 AM
thaatha.... :nono: :nono: :sm18: :sm18: :sm18: