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Shy
09-18-2007, 09:10 PM
Andhra Vaishnava

The most important aspect in marriages in the Andhra Vaishnava Brahmin community is the 'matching of horoscopes', although the family background and tradition are also looked into. It is essential that the 'gothrams' (ancestral lineages) of both the families are different. If originating from the same 'gothram', the bride and groom are not eligible for marriage. Their relationship instead becomes that of a brother and sister!
In Andhra weddings it is important that the 'rishis' (sages) too must have different names. The 'rishis' were the celestial beings from whom the human race is believed to have originated. There were seven 'rishis' in all.
The weddings are performed by 'purohits' or 'pujaris' (Brahmin priests) in the presence of the God of Fire or 'Agni Devta'. The 'pujari' chants Vedic mantras while conducting the marriage in all solemnity.

Some common surnames:
Gantivaru, Malladi, Magunti, Atmakuri, Rao, Pantulu, Raju, Cheruvaru, Dodla, Kolluru, Palayam, Moorthy, Sastri, Choudry, Reddy, Naidu

List of ceremonies
1. Grahapravesam : The bride enters her marital home
2. The Sari : The bride leaves for her marital home taking her trousseau with her
3. Pradhanam : The engagement / Exchange of 'Thamboolams'
4. Kalyana Rata : Fixing the first pole of the marriage 'pandaal'
5. Nalugu with Mangala Vyadham : Ritualistic oil bath for the bride and groom
6. Phalikalu Ceremony : Germination of nine grains for prosperity
7. Snathakam : Commencement of all marriage rituals
8. Kanyadanam : Giving away the bride
9. Mangalyadharanam : Tying of the sacred yellow thread
10. Thalambralu : Blessing the couple
11. Sapthapathy : Seven steps around the sacred fire
12. The traditional wedding meal : Wedding feast
13. Laja Homam : Sacrifice offered to the sacred fire
14. Nagavalli : Ceremonies to induct the bride into her household duties and display of gifts
15. Appagintalu / Vadigantu Biyyam : Bridal send off / Formal handing over of the bride to the groom
BUNT WEDDING
The Bunt community of South Kanara is neither tied to any religious custom nor bound by any Vedic ritual, but their marriages are elaborate and lavish.
Bunt marriages are almost always arranged by the parents. Once the alliance is fixed the family decides what to give the bride in terms of wealth.
Once this is confirmed, the astrologer picks an auspicious date for the wedding and invitations are sent out. Close family and friends are expected to attend the wedding regardless of the distance separating them! It is not unusual for almost a hundred guests to travel all the way from the USA for a Bunt wedding in Bangalore or Mangalore!

Some common surnames:
Bhandary, Rai, Shetty, Adappa, Shenava

List of ceremonies
1. Nischitartham : The engagement ceremony
2. Mehendi : The henna ceremony
3. Mangalasnana : A ritual bath
4. Murthasaese : The bride and groom are blessed by their families and close friends
5. Muhurtham or Lagnam : Commencement of the wedding ceremonies
6. Dharemaipuna/Dhareyeruna : The wedding ceremony
7. Homam : Sacred fire sacrifice
8. Saptapadi : The seven steps around the sacred fire
9. Sanmana Oota & Mamiseike : Grand dinner hosted in honour of the groom
10. Reception : Post wedding celebrations
VOKKALIGA WEDDING
The Vokkaliga community of Karnataka consists of agriculturists and landowners. Many of their marriage rituals are therefore steeped in rural traditions.
They have, like many other communities adapted these rural traditions to urban ones and most weddings are now performed in marriage halls. The marriages, which are still conducted in ancestral homes, however are truly interesting.

Some common surnames:
Gowda

List of ceremonies
1. Nischitartha : Auspicious date is agreed upon for the wedding
2. Chapparashastra (Achandi) : The 'mandap' puja
3. Kelneeru : 'Ganga Puja'
4. Vara puja : Welcoming the groom
5. Lagna : The wedding ceremony
6. Saptapadi : Seven steps around the sacred fire
7. Reception : Post-wedding celebrations
NAIR WEDDING

The 'Nairs' of Kerala are the only matrilineal community in the country. Under the 'marumakkathayam' system, the property rights of the joint family are vested in the female members.
Marriage among the Nairs has a somewhat different meaning from marriages in other communities and is not so much a religious as a social ceremony.
Temple marriages, especially at the Guruvayur Temple, are popular and inexpensive. There is no chanting of 'mantras' and the ceremony is over in a matter of minutes. It is both, touching and impressive in its simplicity.

Some common surnames:
Menon, Nair, Nambiar, Pillai, Unnithan, Panniker, Kurup
List of ceremonies
1. Vivaha Nischayam : Announcement of the engagement and the exchange of rings
2. Ayana : Prenuptial blessing of the bride
3. Namaskaram : The bride and groom are blessed by their elders
4. Kalyanam or Vivaham : The wedding ceremony
5.Sadya: The traditional feast hosted by the bride, served in banana leaves.
6. The Reception : Post wedding celebrations
SYRIAN CHRISTIAN WEDDING
The Syrian Christians of Kerala were originally Namboodiri Brahmins and their conversions took place during St. Thomas' visit to India about AD 46.
Their Church is the Syrian Orthodox Church, the head of which is known as Catholicos and he resides in Kottayam, Kerala. Although they embraced Christianity, the Syrian Christians retained many of their Hindu customs and till date their marriage rituals follow many of the old Hindu traditions.
A typical Syrian Christian wedding is an elaborate affair and is usually arranged by the elders. The bride's family makes the proposal to the groom's family.

Some common surnames:
Chandy, George, Eappen, Cherian, Verghese, Thomas, Kurien, Abraham, Mathan, Jacob, Zacariah, Oomen.

List of ceremonies
1. Kalyanamaurappa : Arranging the wedding
2. Madhuramvekal : Pre-wedding ceremony
3. Mantra Kodi : Preparing the 'taali'
4. Church Ceremony : Holy Matrimony
5. Reception : Post wedding celebrations


Contd.

Shy
09-18-2007, 09:13 PM
SARASWAT BRAHMIN

The Saraswat Brahmin community is small, educated and very evolved. They believe that among all the 'samskaras' (sacraments), marriage is the most important. Horoscopes are a prime factor in marriage alliances, particularly if the match is 'arranged' by the parents. Marriages between families of the same 'gotra' (ancestral lineage) are prohibited.
Even though the Saraswat Brahmins are a highly evolved community with a high level of social awareness, marriage ceremonies are traditional, religious and sombre.

Some common surnames:
Pai, Shenoy , Kamath, Nayak, Prabhu, Baliga, Mallya, Kudva, Mundkur, Karnad, Benegal, Kini, Acharya

List of ceremonies
1. Naandi : Pre-wedding ritual
2. Nischaithambul : The engagement
3. Yedur Kansani : Womenfolk from both families get acquainted with each other
4. Phool-Mudi : The flower and ring ceremony
5. Urdha-Moorthu : The bride and groom grind lentils on a stone grinder
6. Lagna : The marriage ceremony
7. Chautanan : Post wedding ceremonies and rituals
8. Reception : Post wedding celebrations
KODAVA WEDDING
Coorg is a small, beautiful district in the Western Ghats of Karnataka.
The Coorgis are a martial race and their rituals and customs reflect this.
They are a conservative people and parents usually arrange marriages in this community. The Kodava or Coorgi culture is unique and cannot be compared with any other community in the country.

Some common surnames:
Ponappa, Chinappa, Kuttiah, Aiyanna, Cariappa, Muthana, Thimmayya, Nanjappa, Mandana, Subbiah, Medappa, Monappa, Thimmaiah, Somanna, Kuttapa, Karumbiah, Bopanna, Poovaiah, Chengappa, Machia, Kalappa, Ganapathy, Belliappa, Appiah

List of ceremonies
1. Rituals for the Groom - divided into following segments: :
2. a) Kshoura (part of the Muhurtha): : Ritual shave for the groom
3. b) Bath : Ritual bath for the groom
4. c) Dress : The 'bojakaara' helps dress the groom
5. Rituals for the bride - divided into following segments: :
6. a) Bale Iduva : Bangle wearing ceremony for the bride
7. b) Bath : Ritual bath for the bride
8. c) Dress : The 'bojakarthi' helps dress the bride
9. Muhurtha : Preparations for the Muhurtha for the bride and groom
10. Receiving guests :
11. Baale Birud : Cutting the plantain stumps
12. The couple is served their meal :
13. Bidding farewell to the guests after the Muhurtha :
14. Poliya : Filling the reed baskets with foodstuffs
15. The wedding procession : The groom proceeds to the bride's home
16. Potti Dumbchiduva : The bride's trousseau is displayed
17. Kodiyaal or Koru Arapuvavu : Announcement of the arrival of the groom's procession
18. Baale Birud : Cutting the plantain stumps
19. Welcoming the groom :
20. A special meal is served to the groom's procession :
21. Dampathi Muhurtha : Combined Muhurtha for the bride and groom
22. Sammanda Paraje or Sammanda Kodupa : Bestowal of rights on the bride
23. Batte Thadpa : Blocking the path
24. Wedding procession from the bride's home to the groom's :
25. Baale Birud : Cutting the plantain stumps
26. Welcoming the bride :
27. Neer Edpa / Ganga Puja : The bride fetches water from a river or well
28. Potti Kaatuva : The bride's trousseau is displayed once again
29. Feasting : A grand meal is served by the bride's family
30. Kombarek Kootuva : The groom is led to the bridal chamber
31. Ponn Pareyuva : Seeking a girl's hand in marriage
32. The bride is given a new name :
33. The Muhurtha ceremony : Separate Muhurthas for the bride and groom
34. Kuri Maaduva : Betrothal ceremony
35. Melkattu : Constructing the canopy for the wedding ceremony
36. Karik Muripa / Panda Pani : Cutting vegetables for curry and erecting the marriage 'pandal'
37. Potti Dumbchiduva : Packing the bride's trousseau in boxes
38. The wedding feast : TAMIL CHETTIAR WEDDING

Marriage alliances among the Tamil Chettiars of Tamil Nadu are traditionally fixed within a group of villages. It is not surprising therefore that all Chettiars are related and marriages within first cousins are common. In fact, the first choice for an eligible groom is his first cousin!
Their weddings are elaborately rich in customs. The traditional jewellery worn by the Chettiars is renowned for its breathtaking beauty; diamonds, rubies and emeralds intricately set in gold.

Some common surnames:
All surnames are Chettiar. This community takes the following middle names: Mutthaiah, Murgappan, Ramaswamy, Meyappan

List of ceremonies
1. Nichayadartham : The engagement ceremony
2. Mattru Kattuthal : Making the protective cover for the marriage platform
3. Kolam : The homes are decorated with rice flour paste
4. Receiving the 'taali' : The bride's family gives the 'taali' to the groom
5. Minji : The groom's maternal uncle adorns his nephew's feet with toe-rings
6. Receiving garlands from the temples : The bride's family receives the auspicious garlands
7. Stringing of the necklace to be worn by the groom : Elders string together pendants to be worn by the groom
8. Pooram Kazhithal : Virgin bath
9. Thumbu Pidithal : Invoking the presence of deities through 'kolam' decorations
10. Adorning the bridal couple with jewels : The maternal uncles adorn the couple with jewellery
11. Azhagu Arathi : Arathi performed for the groom by his paternal grandmother
12. Giving gold for the sacred 'taali' : The groom's family gives part of the gold to make the auspicious 'taali'
13. Welcoming the groom : The bride's family welcomes the groom
14. Poovai Arithal : The groom arrives at the bride's home
15. Bhagavanam : Tying of the 'kappus'
16. Arimna Iduthal : Showering of sprouted grains on the couple
17. Poomanam Iduthal : Blessing the couple
18. Saptapathy : Seven steps around the sacred fire
19. Blessing the sacred 'taali' : Elders bless the 'taali'
20. Thiru Pootuthal : Matrimonial blessing
21. Isaivu Pidimanam : The marriage agreement is signed
22. Thirupootu Ceremony : Welcoming the bride in her marital home
23. Fixing the Muhurathakal : Erecting the marriage 'pandaal'
24. Kalyana Vevu & Mama Vevu : The bride's matenal uncle presents her with gifts
25. Manavarai : The couple is blessed and the bride is initiated into her marital duties
26. The turmeric bath : Ritualistic bath for the couple
27. Kulam Vazhum Pillai : Handing over of household responsibilities to the bride
28. Thumbu Kattudal : Tying of the matrimonial thread on the bride
29. Kaichi Utrrudal : The feast
30. Removal of Arasanikkal : The bride's father removes the 'arasanikkal'
31. Formal announcement of the marriage : The grandparents of the bride and groom are informed about the alliance
32. Registering the marriage : Legal agreement between both the families
33. Padaipu : Ancestor worship
34. Manai Poduthal : Constructing the brick platform for the couple to sit on during ceremonies
35. Arasanikkal : Erecting the bamboo stick in front of the marriage platform
36. Lighting the lamp : A lamp is lit next to the 'arasanikkal'
TAMIL IYENGAR WEDDING

A very large community, the Tamil Iyengars (Ayyangars) are known for their superior intellect, high levels of education and good looks. This community is largely based in Tamil Nadu and Karnataka. Being Brahmins, their wedding rituals are long and elaborate and a typical wedding can last for four or five days. For most ceremonies two 'pujaris' officiate - one representing the bride's family and the other the groom's.
There are bound to be variations in the ceremonies and rituals depending upon the city or state the Iyengars have been living in for several generations.

Some common surnames:
Iyengar, Ayangar, Srinivasan, Gopalakrishnan, Jagannathan, Ramakrishnan


Contd

Shy
09-18-2007, 09:14 PM
List of ceremonies
1. Vethalepak : Exchange of gifts between the bride and groom
2. Pandalkal or Chapra : Blessing the wedding venue
3. Devar Samardhne : Seeking blessings from deities to keep the marriage free from any impediments
4. Varapooje or Janwaasam : Heralding the arrival of the groom and inviting him to the 'mantap'
5. Nischathartham : Commitment to be married is made and announced to all
6. Nandi or Vratham : Anointing the bride and groom
7. Kashiyatre : The groom embarks on a mock pilgrimage
8. Oonjal or Sambandhmale : The couple exchanges garlands
9. Piddishuttal : The couple is protected from 'dhrishti' (evil eye)
10. Kanyadaan : Giving away the bride
11. Mangalaya Dharane : The groom ties the sacred 'taali' on the bride
12. Akshathe : The couple is blessed with the showering of coloured rice
13. Homa or Havan : LIghting of the sacred fire
14. Saptapadi : Seven steps around the sacred fire
15. Nagoli Vasthra : The bride' s family welcomes the son-in-law
16. Gruhapravesha : The bride is welcomed into her marital home
17. Sambandhi Virandh : Both families exchange gifts
18. Reception : Post-wedding celebrations

TAMIL IYER WEDDING
An Iyer or Ayyar marriage is a mixture of Vedic ritual and Tamil customs. First, the horoscopes of the prospective bride and groom are matched. Then an understanding arrived at about assets, jewellery, household goods and other articles to be given to the bride by her parents. Finally an auspicious day is fixed by the priest for the marriage.
Among the non-Vedic rites observed is the tying of the 'taali' around the bride's neck by the bridegroom. This is the most important ceremony in a Tamil Iyer Brahmin wedding.

Some common surnames:
Iyer, Dikshitar, Sroutigal, Sastri, Sarma, Ghanpathigal, Rao

List of ceremonies
1. Janam Kundli : Matching of horoscopes
2. Nischaiyahtartham : The engagement ceremony
3. Kalyanam : Commencement of marriage ceremonies
4. Vratham : Ceremony observed to obtain blessings from departed elders
5. Janavasam & Nischaiyathartham : Inviting the groom to the 'mandap' and sorting out any differences between both families
6. Wedding arrangements : Preparations for the actual wedding ceremony on the day of the wedding
7. Kashi Yatra : Groom embarks on a mock pilgrimage
8. Unjal : The couple exchanges garlands
9. Kanyadhan : Giving away the bride
10. Mangalyadharanam : The groom ties the sacred 'taali' on the bride
11. Sapthapathi : Seven steps around the sacred fire
12. Laja Homam : The bride makes an offering to the sacred fire
13. Sesha Homam : Blessing for healthy offspring
14. Gruhapravesam : The bride enters her marital home
15. Seer Bakshanam : Sweets sent with the bride to her marital home
TAMIL MUDALIAR WEDDING

The Mudaliar community of South India follows a custom whereby the prospective bridegroom's parents approach the bride-to-be's parents with a marriage proposal. On acceptance of the proposal, a memorandum is signed between both families and an auspicious day is fixed for the wedding.
A typical Tamil Mudaliar wedding can last up to three days.

Some common surnames:
Mudaliar with a suffix of the first initial of the place of origin eg:Arcot, suffix will be A. Mudaliar.

List of ceremonies
1. The Engagement : Finalizing the marriage through a memorandum
2. Pandakal : Erecting the marriage 'pandaal'
3. Nalangu : Beautifying the bride
4. The bridegroom's reception : Receiving the groom
5. Preparations on the morning of the wedding :
6. Arsan Kal : Erecting the bamboo stick in front of the marriage platform
7. Padapuja and Kasi Yatra : The groom washes his parents' feet and proceeds on a mock pilgrimage
8. Mahalaxmi Puja : Prayers offered to the Goddess of Wealth
9. Manai Pongal : Rice is cooked in a clay pot
10. Kanganam : Tying of the sacred yellow thread
11. Kanikadanam : Giving away the bride
12. Mangalyam : Tying of the sacred 'mangalyam' on the bride
13. Exchange of garlands : The couple exchanges garlands three times
14. Omam : The couple pays homage to the sacred fire
15. Sesha : Blessing the couple
16. Paying homage to the 'Arasanikkal' : The couple goes around the 'arasanikkal' three times
17. Reception : Post wedding celebrations
TELENGANA ANDHRA REDDY
The Reddys or Reddis, also known as 'Kapus' belong to a Telugu speaking community, split into several subsections.
Those of them who have settled in different southern states like Karnataka and Tamil Nadu for several generations have adapted their rituals and ceremonies to suit the local customs, so slight variations will be apparent in the sequence of events in a marriage.
The marriage rituals begin with a promise made by both families to each other that a wedding will be solemnized. After consultations with an astrologer, an auspicious day and time are fixed for the marriage ceremony and both the concerned parties draw up written contracts. These contracts are then placed in yellow cloth bundles along with betel leaf, turmeric, nuts and fruits and blessed by an officiating 'pujari'.

Some common surnames:
Reddy, Reddi

List of ceremonies
1. Patrika : A marriage contract is drawn up by both families
2. Nisachaitharthum : The engagement
3. Vara Puja : A 'puja' is performed in honour of the bridegroom
4. Paindlipilla or Haldipaspu : Ritual bath and beautification of the bride
5. Vivaham (Muhurtham) : Commencement of the marriage ceremonies
6. Kankana Shastra : Invoking the blessings of all the deities
7. Kanyadaan : Giving away the bride
8. Saptapadi : Seven steps around the sacred fire
9. Grahapravesham : The couple enters the marital home
10. Reception : Post wedding celebrations
11. Kalyanautsavam : A 'puja' in the Venkateshwara Temple in Tirupathi

Courtesy India's Digest
Shy

vasan
09-18-2007, 09:26 PM
Ithu ellam too complicated.. :Ksp: :snooty:

Ponna kadathittu poyi kalyanam panniruthaa yosanai.. :think: :think: let us see.. :wink: :)

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Shy
09-18-2007, 09:36 PM
Ithu ellam too complicated.. :Ksp: :snooty:

Ponna kadathittu poyi kalyanam panniruthaa yosanai.. :think: :think: let us see.. :wink: :)

v-

athu entha mathiri kalyanam ;)

Shy

vasan
09-18-2007, 09:43 PM
Vasan style.. :wink:

Orey oru kelvi to ponnu.. Yes or no type question.. :wink:
Reply is the wedding.

சொர்கத்தில நிச்சயக்கப ்பட்ட வாழ்க்கைக் கு பூமியிலே எதுக்கு சம்பிரதாயம ்ஸ்.. :wink: :sm12:

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suha
09-18-2007, 09:45 PM
so simple ...........thatha ku

register marriage;)

Shy
09-18-2007, 09:49 PM
Vasan :ee: yes, no kettu appura 5 years down the line.. avaloo, neengaloo no thaan sonenu poi sonaa ;) athaan suha solra mathiri register marriage.. if one doesnt like all the above சம்பிரதாயம ்ஸ் ;)

purinchuthaa :ee:

Shy

vasan
09-18-2007, 09:54 PM
avaloo, neengaloo no thaan sonenu poi sonaa :wink: athaan suha solra mathiri register marriage..

kalyanam thaan short.. pre-nup long and careful.. LA-aache summaa kelvi kettuduvOmaa? :sm12: :sm12:

ஊர் பேரு தெரியாத பொண்ணுனாதா ன் ப்ராப்ளம், டீச்சர்.. ரொம்ப நாளா, ரொம்ப நல்லா தெரிஞ்சு, 'பழகின' பொண்ணுனா கேட்டு விசாரிக்க என்ன இருக்கு.. :wink: :wink:

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gowthami
04-26-2008, 09:10 AM
A fabulous interesting collection..Thanks for akka..A small info regarding AP wedding..In the first one, 14 th ceremony nagavalli is actually called as naga dosha nivarthy, mainly for annulling nagadosham on bride.In many communities another thali will be tied by groom in bride's neck during this ceremony.This second thali will be removed after a pooja,mostly on third day..For 3 days bride roam with 2 thalis!!

Shy
04-26-2008, 04:35 PM
A fabulous interesting collection..Thanks for akka..A small info regarding AP wedding..In the first one, 14 th ceremony nagavalli is actually called as naga dosha nivarthy, mainly for annulling nagadosham on bride.In many communities another thali will be tied by groom in bride's neck during this ceremony.This second thali will be removed after a pooja,mostly on third day..For 3 days bride roam with 2 thalis!!

u mean 2 thalis at 2 different times :eek::eek: wow.. I know that 2 thalis is common.. even in ours we have them.. one from his side and one from mine.. but it would be in the same thread and tied only once...

interesting.. so basically 2 marriages huh ;)

Shy

gowthami
04-26-2008, 06:04 PM
Yes, it is true akka..I too did the same..First thali during main muhurtham with pasupu soaked dress and later, say after 2 or 3 hours, nagavalli thali will be tied..ofcourse that time normal pattu dresses allowed.One more interesting news, in AP, most of the marriages are conducted in midnight only! It is funny to see most of the audiance half slept during mangalya thaaranam!

Minnie
04-26-2008, 08:56 PM
Yes, it is true akka..I too did the same..First thali during main muhurtham with pasupu soaked dress and later, say after 2 or 3 hours, nagavalli thali will be tied..ofcourse that time normal pattu dresses allowed.One more interesting news, in AP, most of the marriages are conducted in midnight only! It is funny to see most of the audiance half slept during mangalya thaaranam!

Have heard of this...but any specific reason ? In AP,the way marriages takes place is little :yawn:

Idiot
04-26-2008, 09:10 PM
Have heard of this...but any specific reason ? In AP,the way marriages takes place is little :yawn:

Why are you worrying about that now itself ? :ee: :ee:

Minnie
04-26-2008, 09:15 PM
Why are you worrying about that now itself ? :ee: :ee:

Not worried,just for knowledge asking her :wawa::wawa: midnight marriage,,wont they feel sleepy :confused:

daya
04-27-2008, 12:10 AM
Yes, it is true akka..I too did the same..First thali during main muhurtham with pasupu soaked dress and later, say after 2 or 3 hours, nagavalli thali will be tied..ofcourse that time normal pattu dresses allowed.One more interesting news, in AP, most of the marriages are conducted in midnight only! It is funny to see most of the audiance half slept during mangalya thaaranam![B]


Not worried,just for knowledge asking her :wawa::wawa: midnight marriage,,[B]wont they feel sleepy :confused:

Yeah, I had attended a friend's wedding (when in college) in the wee hours.... but we all managed to stay awake because it was a celebrity wedding :)

yasodha
04-27-2008, 01:15 AM
Enna Daya ippadi oru suspense vittutu pona...yaaru antha celebrity?;)

gowthami
04-27-2008, 02:57 AM
As per our traditions, brahma muhurthams are fixed normally between 23:00 hrs to 02:00 hrs.Another interesting(?!) aspect of our marriage is a lecture given by an elder after mangalya tharanam.in some communities (brahmins).On many occasions I observed even bride and groom were sleeping during this lecture session.The elder used to advice in general about married life and how the new couple live in the grahasthasramam..

Minnie
04-27-2008, 07:44 PM
As per our traditions, brahma muhurthams are fixed normally between 23:00 hrs to 02:00 hrs.Another interesting(?!) aspect of our marriage is a lecture given by an elder after mangalya tharanam.in some communities (brahmins).On many occasions I observed even bride and groom were sleeping during this lecture session.The elder used to advice in general about married life and how the new couple live in the grahasthasramam..


:lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:

gowthami
04-30-2008, 10:53 AM
Matti vidatheenga thayi..please read as " both bride and groom were dozing"

Bluelotus
05-08-2008, 10:44 PM
" both bride and groom were dozing"

what a way to start a marriage ;)


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I don't think any of the above mentioned ceremonies fits what I've seen so far :think:

I can probably take bits of every ceremony and fit it together though


(there's one thing I'm terribly curious about - once only once - I've seen a gold melting ceremony for the thali days/weeks before the actual wedding- I thought it was pretty cool I was very young ;) anything to do with fire was considered awesome those days :ahha:
does anyone still do that? )

hnbhat
05-16-2008, 04:27 PM
Yes. We have in our community the muhurtham for the melting of gold for thali is fixed beforehand at the time of fixing the muhurtham for the marriage. It is considered as having an important bearing how auspicious the wearing the Thali is for the long life as a smt. with her husband alive.

Bluelotus
05-23-2008, 09:56 PM
what does muhurtham actually mean? I thought it was the time when you should tie the thread :think:

yasodha
05-23-2008, 10:44 PM
May be good time to tie the knot or do some good things at that time...:)

vasan
05-24-2008, 12:21 AM
முகூர்த்தம ் = நல்ல நேரம் = auspicious time (or for suspicious minds just a time )

paiyan yaaravadhu maatikitaana enna? ketti mElam kottara neram vandhaacha bluelettuce? :wink:

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joywala
09-26-2010, 03:00 PM
This is perhaps a good list to remember by future generation of those parted from their motherland.

yuvastanza
12-25-2011, 08:46 PM
Hi

Nallave explain panninga...ana? intha kalathule ethanai peru ithai muzhusa pantranga??

BennieHanson
05-21-2013, 05:37 PM
Andhra Vaishnava

The most important aspect in marriages in the Andhra Vaishnava Brahmin community is the 'matching of horoscopes', although the family background and tradition are also looked into. It is essential that the 'gothrams' (ancestral lineages) of both the families are different. If originating from the same 'gothram', the bride and groom are not eligible for marriage. Their relationship instead becomes that of a brother and sister!
In Andhra weddings it is important that the 'rishis' (sages) too must have different names. The 'rishis' were the celestial beings from whom the human race is believed to have originated. There were seven 'rishis' in all.
The weddings are performed by 'purohits' or 'pujaris' (Brahmin priests) in the presence of the God of Fire or 'Agni Devta'. The 'pujari' chants Vedic mantras while conducting the marriage in all solemnity.

Some common surnames:
Gantivaru, Malladi, Magunti, Atmakuri, Rao, Pantulu, Raju, Cheruvaru, Dodla, Kolluru, Palayam, Moorthy, Sastri, Choudry, Reddy, Naidu

List of ceremonies
1. Grahapravesam : The bride enters her marital home
2. The Sari : The bride leaves for her marital home taking her trousseau with her
3. Pradhanam : The engagement / Exchange of 'Thamboolams'
4. Kalyana Rata : Fixing the first pole of the marriage 'pandaal'
5. Nalugu with Mangala Vyadham : Ritualistic oil bath for the bride and groom
6. Phalikalu Ceremony : Germination of nine grains for prosperity
7. Snathakam : Commencement of all marriage rituals
8. Kanyadanam : Giving away the bride
9. Mangalyadharanam : Tying of the sacred yellow thread
10. Thalambralu : Blessing the couple
11. Sapthapathy : Seven steps around the sacred fire
12. The traditional wedding meal : Wedding feast
13. Laja Homam : Sacrifice offered to the sacred fire
14. Nagavalli : Ceremonies to induct the bride into her household duties and display of gifts
15. Appagintalu / Vadigantu Biyyam : Bridal send off / Formal handing over of the bride to the groom
BUNT WEDDING
The Bunt community of South Kanara is neither tied to any religious custom nor bound by any Vedic ritual, but their marriages are elaborate and lavish.
Bunt marriages are almost always arranged by the parents. Once the alliance is fixed the family decides what to give the bride in terms of wealth.
Once this is confirmed, the astrologer picks an auspicious date for the wedding and invitations are sent out. Close family and friends are expected to attend the wedding regardless of the distance separating them! It is not unusual for almost a hundred guests to travel all the way from the USA for a Bunt wedding in Bangalore or Mangalore!

Some common surnames:
Bhandary, Rai, Shetty, Adappa, Shenava

List of ceremonies
1. Nischitartham : The engagement ceremony
2. Mehendi : The henna ceremony
3. Mangalasnana : A ritual bath
4. Murthasaese : The bride and groom are blessed by their families and close friends
5. Muhurtham or Lagnam : Commencement of the wedding ceremonies
6. Dharemaipuna/Dhareyeruna : The wedding ceremony
7. Homam : Sacred fire sacrifice
8. Saptapadi : The seven steps around the sacred fire
9. Sanmana Oota & Mamiseike : Grand dinner hosted in honour of the groom
10. Reception : Post wedding celebrations
VOKKALIGA WEDDING
The Vokkaliga community of Karnataka consists of agriculturists and landowners. Many of their marriage rituals are therefore steeped in rural traditions.
They have, like many other communities adapted these rural traditions to urban ones and most weddings are now performed in marriage halls. The marriages, which are still conducted in ancestral homes, however are truly interesting.

Some common surnames:
Gowda

List of ceremonies
1. Nischitartha : Auspicious date is agreed upon for the wedding
2. Chapparashastra (Achandi) : The 'mandap' puja
3. Kelneeru : 'Ganga Puja'
4. Vara puja : Welcoming the groom
5. Lagna : The wedding ceremony
6. Saptapadi : Seven steps around the sacred fire
7. Reception : Post-wedding celebrations
NAIR WEDDING

The 'Nairs' of Kerala are the only matrilineal community in the country. Under the 'marumakkathayam' system, the property rights of the joint family are vested in the female members.
Marriage among the Nairs has a somewhat different meaning from marriages in other communities and is not so much a religious as a social ceremony.
Temple marriages, especially at the Guruvayur Temple, are popular and inexpensive. There is no chanting of 'mantras' and the ceremony is over in a matter of minutes. It is both, touching and impressive in its simplicity.

Some common surnames:
Menon, Nair, Nambiar, Pillai, Unnithan, Panniker, Kurup
List of ceremonies
1. Vivaha Nischayam : Announcement of the engagement and the exchange of rings
2. Ayana : Prenuptial blessing of the bride
3. Namaskaram : The bride and groom are blessed by their elders
4. Kalyanam or Vivaham : The wedding ceremony
5.Sadya: The traditional feast hosted by the bride, served in banana leaves.
6. The Reception : Post wedding celebrations
SYRIAN CHRISTIAN WEDDING
The Syrian Christians of Kerala were originally Namboodiri Brahmins and their conversions took place during St. Thomas' visit to India about AD 46.
Their Church is the Syrian Orthodox Church, the head of which is known as Catholicos and he resides in Kottayam, Kerala. Although they embraced Christianity, the Syrian Christians retained many of their Hindu customs and till date their marriage rituals follow many of the old Hindu traditions.
A typical Syrian Christian wedding is an elaborate affair and is usually arranged by the elders. The bride's family makes the proposal to the groom's family.

Some common surnames:
Chandy, George, Eappen, Cherian, Verghese, Thomas, Kurien, Abraham, Mathan, Jacob, Zacariah, Oomen.

List of ceremonies
1. Kalyanamaurappa : Arranging the wedding
2. Madhuramvekal : Pre-wedding ceremony
3. Mantra Kodi : Preparing the 'taali'
4. Church Ceremony : Holy Matrimony
5. Reception : Post wedding celebrations


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Pretty exciting thread. I have never attending South Indian marriage but it seems you make event very special and colorful. Do you have some pics to share to satisfy my eagerness..