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sWEEtmICHe
12-01-2003, 02:47 AM
:Ksp: wHy aRe gIRLs sO jEALOUs ?
Is It born in them or due to love ....all can voice up :wink:
gooday :nono:

dinesh
12-01-2003, 04:02 AM
Is something wrong with your keyboard? :think:

sweetie
12-01-2003, 04:37 AM
Are guys not "so" jealous at all ????? Why is this pointing only towards girls ????

Comenaughty
12-01-2003, 06:45 AM
guys arent as possessive and jealous as girls..... :ahha:

naughty

sweetie
12-01-2003, 12:18 PM
And how wud u describe or define being possesive and jealous my dear naughty ???? ;)

supremehero
12-01-2003, 01:41 PM
Not only girls, Total females in human population are very jealousy people because their body and brain chemistries get responsible for it....! However, they can control it by growing good habits from childhood....!

:P :evil: :ahha:

selpra
12-01-2003, 03:14 PM
don't say guys are not possesively and don't say total females are jealous you are wrong, there are some women who are not jealous, What about MOTHER TERASA, eventhough she died she is still with us all.

Comenaughty
12-01-2003, 04:49 PM
there are some women who are not jealous, What about MOTHER TERASA


selpra,
u urself, by mentioning this, have supported our point..... mother teresa is one in a billion....not all women are mother teresa.....similarly one in a billion female is non jealous and non possessive..... :D :D :D

naughty

selpra
12-01-2003, 05:25 PM
by the way supreme hero said, "total female",please check it out.

Shy
12-01-2003, 05:59 PM
I disagree that women are jealousy

Its not gender related.

Women tend to become more depressed, frantic and emotional, true I agree.
Many women feel that without a man they are not successful in their role as a female in our society. but thats not the case for a man. Hes not judged by his personal life.
Women tend to be more focused on relationships for their identity, relying on that relationship for their sense of who they are.
It would follow then that women would be more afraid of being left behind and losing love and face.
Study after study shows that while neither sex is more jealous than the other, jealousy is triggered by different factors in men and women.
Female jealousy seemed to revolve around the loss of emotional commitment from a partner, while male jealousy focused more on a partners sexual infidelity.

More to come..


Shy

Comenaughty
12-01-2003, 06:42 PM
by the way supreme hero said, "total female",please check it out.


well... i was voicing my point with respect to females and males as such..... im talking abt the majority.... as in.... 99.9% are jealous and possessive.... but hardly 10% of the guys r that way.... guess u misunderstood my argument :)

naughty

Comenaughty
12-01-2003, 06:49 PM
Study after study shows that while neither sex is more jealous than the other, jealousy is triggered by different factors in men and women.
Female jealousy seemed to revolve around the loss of emotional commitment from a partner, while male jealousy focused more on a partners sexual infidelity


shy,
r these studies based on indian men and women or in the world..... in which case, the result study with respect to men is a bit vague.... in the sense indian women are more devoted than their western counterparts..... im sure u'll agree with that.... so indian men dont have so much concern on infidelity.....

naughty

vedha79
12-01-2003, 06:49 PM
Women are not the only one who are jealous...men too are jealous. i accept with shy.

For example after marriage the man expects his wife to adjust towards his family and accept them are her own family. when the same is expected in a woman the guys call it jealousy??????? how can this be accepted????

There are at times when we all have felt jealous over something.so women are not the ones who are very jealous. If women are jealous then there wouldn't be families. Women adjust n sacrifice so much in life....they are more understanding!!!! so don't ever say that women are the ones who are jealous....!!!!! Men Too are !!!!!!!!!!!!

Comenaughty
12-01-2003, 06:59 PM
vedha,
guess u have misunderstood the word jealousy.... lemme give u small example.... imagine Miss. X has got a boy friend..... if one of her friends' tells, that she saw her guy talking with some girl..... Miss X's adi vayir kalangumla, she will have sleepless nights, till she asks him each and every miniscule detail and get clarified to get a sleep..... but on the other hand, if a guy had a gf, and someone tells him that he saw her talking with some guy, a guy wont be perturbed that much.... wat do u think is the difference?

naughty

Shy
12-01-2003, 07:29 PM
Miss X when she finds out that his guy was talking to someone, "adi vayir kalangaathu", "hands ellam ready'a erukum, motha, adika". The reason being she knows that hes just flirting around and kadalai pootufying with somegirl around there. She wont have sleepless nights, but dreamy night on how she will mothify him.

But Mr Y when he finds out that his girl was talking to some strange guy, avalavu thaan, aiyo namabali vitutu poiduvaaloo.. antha sani paiyan, namba parrot'a abase pannitu poiduvaanoo, will she get more interested in him.. appadi thoonum..

Note : Neenga sonathum nadakkum, naan sonathum nadakkum.. ;)

Studies pathi detail'la kudeiya seekarum solraen.

Vedha, naughty is correct on explaining abt jealously.. neenga solra mathiri nadakaathu.. girl expecting certain things same as that of man is not jealously. Its equality. Trying to get same respect for her family as his family.

Shy

vedha79
12-01-2003, 07:52 PM
I THINK U SHOULD HAVE SPECIFIED WHAT TYPE OF JEALOUSY UR TALKING ABOUT.

THE CATEGORY U MENTIONED OF JEALOUSY WON;T THE GUY FEEL THE SAME JEALOUSY IF HIS LOVER TALKS TO ANOTHER GUY? WON'T HE HAVE A PEACEFUL NIGHTS SLEEP WITHOUT KNOW THE REASON? WILL HE BE PEACEFUL OR NOT WORRIED ABOUT THIS?

JEALOUSY IN THIS MATTER IS THE SAME FOR THE GUY OR GAL.

ashokcsn_2000
12-01-2003, 10:50 PM
Female jealousy seemed to revolve around the loss of emotional commitment from a partner, while male jealousy focused more on a partners sexual infidelity.

:lol: :lol: :lol: ponnunga ponnungalai paarthe poraamai padaraangale athu enna kanakku...


ashok

Shy
12-02-2003, 12:10 AM
Ok neenga solrathai yaethukitaalum.. men kuuda appadi thaan..Oruthaam gym'ku poi body, muscles buildup pannita kuuda thaan become jealous over than guy.

The reason I said that is most of the time its the reason yet its not the only one...

Shy

ashokcsn_2000
12-02-2003, 01:12 AM
:lol: :lol: :lol:
Oruthaam gym'ku poi body, muscles buildup pannita kuuda thaan become jealous over than guy.

pasanga eppovume ithukkellam poraamai pada maataanga... innurthan nalla figuroda suthinaa mattum thaan.......... aanal athukkum ponnunga thaan kaaranam.

ashok

butterfly
12-02-2003, 04:38 AM
JEALOUSY

\Jeal"ous*y\, n.; pl. Jealousies. [ F. jalousie. See Jealous, and cf. Jalousie.] The quality of being jealous; earnest concern or solicitude; painful apprehension of rivalship in cases nearly affecting one's happiness; painful suspicion of the faithfulness of husband, wife, or lover.

Definition
jealous (UNHAPPY) [Show phonetics]
adjective
unhappy and angry because someone has something or someone you want, or because you think they might take something or someone that you love away from you:
He had always been very jealous of his brother's good looks.
Anna says she feels jealous every time another woman looks at her boyfriend.


Dont shoot me now :)...am just copying the definition...& I find it defines jealousy in both genders :ahha: ....

vasan
12-02-2003, 04:50 AM
Jealousy is a word that describes any kind of jealousness in a person. You could be jealous about other peoples success, car, house, wife/husband/kids/lovers.. the list of things about which human beings feel jealousy is near endless. PattamPoochi is right in saying that such a jealousy is common for both the sexes.

Here comes the shooting !!! (maattikitteenga BFly)

But the topic of this discussion is jealousy among two people in a relationship. A boy and a girl are in relationship and they feel certain amount of possesiveness to each other - sort of mild owenership, territorial control, selfishness or what ever you want to call it. The question asked is who has more of these fleeings? Boys or Girls? So, why confuse this with 'general' definition of jealousy?? :)

But as always, in the end, BFly is right :) :) Jealousy is common for both the sexes. It entirely depends on a person (irrespective of their sex) and therefore no differences between them. However the root cause of jealousy is insecurity - for which there could be several different stimulus and boys and girls could react differently to it...

I am purposely leaving this enigmatic and confusing reply with out any conclusion... You might mistake that for my intelligence, and thoughtfulness.. :) Why spoil the imagination ?? :) :)

anainar
12-02-2003, 02:52 PM
Vasan,

We all know that you are an eloquent guy in writing and arguing. But since we all know that, we can see through your games easily. You did not want to say anything concrete on this and hence this vazha vazha kozha kozha post. In entire contrast to some assertive posts in death penalty :D :D :D

I would say guys are bit more jealousy in relationship. I would not call insecurity, though generally that is the cause for general jealousy. In this case it is more of priority. For e.g, if the guy is talkig to his g/f or wife and if she in the middle asks him to stop to attend something else, he will get mad, "Is that work more important than me?". This takes exponential proportion if the g/f or wife is interacting with her family members. Any one correct me if my inference is wrong.

Cheers.

vedha79
12-02-2003, 06:10 PM
heh guys all i want to say that everyone men/women feel jealous equally at different situations.

men are equally jealous as women.....women show their jealous nature but men don't. thats why all guys think that women are more jealous than men.

jksindhu2002
12-02-2003, 06:11 PM
:Ksp: wHy aRe gIRLs sO jEALOUs ?
:wink:
gooday :nono:


Because of Boys. they are making them jealous. First day oru girl pathu "You are beutiful" nu solluvanga. Next day other girl pinnadi povanga. Athan girls appidi nadanthukuranga.

abe
12-03-2003, 03:53 AM
Hi....friends:D

We tend to think of jealousy as a single emotion, but actually it is a whole bundle of feelings that tend to get lumped together. Jealousy can manifest as anger, fear, hurt, betrayal, anxiety, agitation, sadness, paranoia, depression, loneliness, envy, coveting, feeling powerless, feeling inadequate, feeling excluded. It often helps to identify what is the exact mix of feelings you experience when you feel jealous. What is the primary emotion you feel when you are jealous? Demystifying the exact components of your jealousy can be a giant step towards getting a grip on things and resolving the problem. :D :wink:

supremehero
12-03-2003, 11:21 AM
"Jealousy is a universal feeling. The feeling is normal until it is acted upon and the behavior or actions become irrational… Jealousy does not have boundaries. It penetrates all social positions, intellectual levels, ages, races, and economic strata" (Bernhard, xi). This project’s focus is to determine if what we have found out thus far, is still accurate. Buss conducted a survey on the reactions of men and women to jealousy and recorded the differences. The sociobiological perspective agrees with Buss’s assessment. Men tend to react more strongly to sexual indiscretion while women tend to find emotional infidelity more distressing. We will conduct our own experiment to see if it validates or refutes the above arguments. The theoretical context or standpoint will be from a sociobiological perspective as well as from a cross-cultural point of view. These examples will come from religious, legendary, and literary materials. Our methods of ensuring primary data will include our own analysis of other’s experiments and surveys that we create, conduct, and qualify.
In order to understand the theoretical context for the sociobiology of sexual jealousy, it would first be helpful to briefly explain the notion of sociobiology itself. Sociobiology explains aspects of human nature in terms of the theory of evolution, based on the 95% existence of the human race in the Pleistocene age. Sociobiology, or Evolutionary Psychology, serves to take a particular behavior (jealousy in this instance) and explain it as an adaptation which somehow enhances fitness in a particular environment. We have chosen to examine the aspects of sexual jealousy from a sociobiological standpoint. This type of jealousy involves a perceived threat to an intimate, committed relationship between two individuals, most often sexually or physically involved.

The basis for the sociobiological standpoint on jealousy deals out and out with paternity confidence: involving the fundamental physiological differences between men and women. Males have a high food intake for their larger and more energetic bodies. Men also have a much greater amount of testosterone than females. The resulting differences is that men are larger, stronger, and more aggressive. The man was designed (evolutionarily speaking) to have as many offspring as possible because of a low paternal investment rate. Women on the other hand, are designed to have only a few children?with a high rate of paternal investment. "Paternal investment is the energy expended by parents to produce and nurture offspring. More accurately the term refers to the decrement in future reproductive potential as a consequence of present effort" (White and Mullen, 60). The mother always knows who her children are, and has a naturally high level of parental confidence. Her reproductive strategy is to have a few children and protect them; a male’s is to have as many children as possible in the hopes that at least a few will survive. As a result his natural tendencies lean toward aggression and displays of physical prowess. This is to attract desirable mates in order to perpetuate his genes, as well as to protect his mate from other males. It also accounts for the male desire to mate with as many females as possible. As a result the male is very concerned with paternity confidence. In humans, however, sexual dimorphism for males is very low and paternal investment is very high. As a result the male needs to have a very high instance of paternity confidence?to make sure his genes are being passed on. As a result jealousy is one of his main weapons in terms of ensuring paternity confidence. This results in many things. Men become very upset, even violent, at an instance of sexual indiscretion by a mate. This is to protect their investment and it is one of the few tools they have to do it (White and Mullen).
Women, on the other hand, have bodies that run on a proportionately small amount of food in comparison to males. They use this energy efficiency for gestation and lactation. Their relatively high paternal investment is to pass their genes on. In the human species, because of low male sexual dimorphism they require a higher level of investment from men. Women raise their children and expect and require resources from their mates. When these resources become threatened, then the woman becomes jealous to protect her interests and those of her children (White and Mullen).

In summary high male investment explains the relatively weak sexual dimorphism in humans, while the necessity of paternity confidence has led to human males having sexual jealousy marked by violence and consistent attempts to restrict the sexual behavior of women. Female jealousy is centered more on concerns related to paternal investment than on male extrarelationship sexuality per se, as greater paternal investment should increase the chance of survival for the female’s offspring. In short, sociobiological theory holds that female jealousy is marked by fear and anxiety over losing the relationship and by an interest in the nature of the rival relationship, whereas male jealousy, focusing on the sexual threat of the rival, is marked by competitiveness and aggression, and is much less affected by situational factors suggesting that the mate is still interested in maintaining the primary bond.

Aside from the scientific studies that have been done on jealousy, there is further proof that it is a fundamental part of human nature: and that is its existence in every culture on the planet as well as its appearance in religions. The definition of God is a lord who tolerates no other gods beside him and who describes himself as so jealous that he will visit the "sins" of the fathers upon the children unto the third or fourth generation (Baumgart, 82). God the Father, in whose image humanity was created (as man and woman), who was viewed throughout almost two thousand years of Western history as the revealed and therefore true God (and still is), and who is mentioned in constitutions, names of political parties, and school regulations?this God is jealous (Baumgart, 83). When we consider God’s jealousy, we arrive at "the innermost part of the personal and living God, and are led to admiring contemplation of the mirabilia Dei". Jealousy as a "mirabilium Dei," something that is to be admired in God?not, therefore, how awful that God is jealous, but how wonderful. Furthermore, it is less a matter of the concept of jealousy (and possibly its exemplariness) than of showing what God is like, with the help of the concept of jealousy. Because, as we may conclude, jealousy is something so well known everyone is familiar with it; on the other hand, it is something so strange, alien and fearful that it qualifies as an attribute of God, who is termed "the hidden one" by theologians in many different centuries.
"He is jealous, because he loves": this assumes that it is obvious that someone who loves is also someone who is jealous (Baumgart, 84).
It is not just Christianity, in which Jealousy plays a role. Stories abound in mythology of Jealousy and the havoc it wreaks. Numerous tales of the affairs of Greek Gods and the revenge their mates take upon those unfortunate mortals touched by another of the Pantheon’s love. Many a woman was transformed by Hera, for mating with Zeus. A war was fought over Helen of Troy. Sir Tristram of Lionness, died because of a broken heart caused by Iseult who loved him, over another Iseult whom he loved. Jealousy even affected the greatest swordsman of Japan, Miyamoto Musashi(a Kensai, who sought enlightenment through study of the sword). His childhood best friend attacked him out of jealousy for his success and for the love of a woman (needless to say, his friend lost). However, while the above two paragraphs are more than adequate in showing the existence of jealousy in many different cultures it is not the only evidence. There is further scientific proof on the subject.
In one study, for example, Buss asked males and females to imagine that their mates were having sex with someone else or that their mates were engaged in a deep emotional commitment with another person. Monitoring his subject’s heart rates, frowning and stress responses, he found that the stereotypical double standard cuts both ways. Men reacted far more strongly than women to the idea that their mates were having sex with other men. But women reacted far more strongly to the thought that their mates were developing strong emotional attachments to someone else.

The methods we plan to use are threefold. We plan to do our own analysis of Buss’s experiment. First we plan to reenact Buss’s experiment, if possible. In order to do that, we will have to visit the psychology department and see if they have the appropriate equipment. In addition, we will have to learn how to use the necessary equipment or have someone on hand to help us interpret the results. Obviously, we do not have the training to record the medical readouts of the necessary machines, or even to properly interpret the signs of physiological stress on the body caused by this experiment. To this end we will need to seek help. Then we also plan to create our own survey and do our own analysis of the results. We plan on surveying the student body of Miami University as well as members of the local population. Finally we also thought it might be useful to use a jealousy quiz online and see what sort of answers we got. If we could have other members of the western community fill one out and give us the results, it would help us out tremendously. Perhaps it might be possible to contact the owner of the page where a quiz is listed and get all their results: in light of the fact we are endeavoring in academic project.

When we obtain our results, we plan on putting them into use as a basis for our theories. We hope to use this research in order to prove the sociobiological aspects of jealousy. The process will include analyzing our findings and incorporating them into a scientific paper that can be used as the basis for others’ theories. If possible, we will use graphs and charts, created with StatView or a program called StataQuest, in order to visually explain the results we take in.
We hope this project will reinforce the materials we have already researched. Everything seems to point the way of the sociobiological argument?it seems almost like common sense. We are also fully aware, however, that people (for the most part) are autonomous rational beings and capable of consciously controlling natural impulses. In the event that our own research does not support that of Buss and sociobiology we will have to take that into consideration. We plan to use the cultural and religious contexts, as well as the sociobiological argument as our context for research. The research may include the reproduction of previous studies, our interpretation of their results (and ours, naturally), and our own research. We will find out whether or not Buss and the sociobiologists are still correct.

Obtained from....
http://jrscience.wcp.muohio.edu/Research/HNatureProposalsArticles/SexualJealousyfromaSociob.html

supremehero
12-03-2003, 11:23 AM
"Jealousy is a universal feeling. The feeling is normal until it is acted upon and the behavior or actions become irrational… Jealousy does not have boundaries. It penetrates all social positions, intellectual levels, ages, races, and economic strata" (Bernhard, xi). This project’s focus is to determine if what we have found out thus far, is still accurate. Buss conducted a survey on the reactions of men and women to jealousy and recorded the differences. The sociobiological perspective agrees with Buss’s assessment. Men tend to react more strongly to sexual indiscretion while women tend to find emotional infidelity more distressing. We will conduct our own experiment to see if it validates or refutes the above arguments. The theoretical context or standpoint will be from a sociobiological perspective as well as from a cross-cultural point of view. These examples will come from religious, legendary, and literary materials. Our methods of ensuring primary data will include our own analysis of other’s experiments and surveys that we create, conduct, and qualify.
In order to understand the theoretical context for the sociobiology of sexual jealousy, it would first be helpful to briefly explain the notion of sociobiology itself. Sociobiology explains aspects of human nature in terms of the theory of evolution, based on the 95% existence of the human race in the Pleistocene age. Sociobiology, or Evolutionary Psychology, serves to take a particular behavior (jealousy in this instance) and explain it as an adaptation which somehow enhances fitness in a particular environment. We have chosen to examine the aspects of sexual jealousy from a sociobiological standpoint. This type of jealousy involves a perceived threat to an intimate, committed relationship between two individuals, most often sexually or physically involved.

The basis for the sociobiological standpoint on jealousy deals out and out with paternity confidence: involving the fundamental physiological differences between men and women. Males have a high food intake for their larger and more energetic bodies. Men also have a much greater amount of testosterone than females. The resulting differences is that men are larger, stronger, and more aggressive. The man was designed (evolutionarily speaking) to have as many offspring as possible because of a low paternal investment rate. Women on the other hand, are designed to have only a few children?with a high rate of paternal investment. "Paternal investment is the energy expended by parents to produce and nurture offspring. More accurately the term refers to the decrement in future reproductive potential as a consequence of present effort" (White and Mullen, 60). The mother always knows who her children are, and has a naturally high level of parental confidence. Her reproductive strategy is to have a few children and protect them; a male’s is to have as many children as possible in the hopes that at least a few will survive. As a result his natural tendencies lean toward aggression and displays of physical prowess. This is to attract desirable mates in order to perpetuate his genes, as well as to protect his mate from other males. It also accounts for the male desire to mate with as many females as possible. As a result the male is very concerned with paternity confidence. In humans, however, sexual dimorphism for males is very low and paternal investment is very high. As a result the male needs to have a very high instance of paternity confidence?to make sure his genes are being passed on. As a result jealousy is one of his main weapons in terms of ensuring paternity confidence. This results in many things. Men become very upset, even violent, at an instance of sexual indiscretion by a mate. This is to protect their investment and it is one of the few tools they have to do it (White and Mullen).
Women, on the other hand, have bodies that run on a proportionately small amount of food in comparison to males. They use this energy efficiency for gestation and lactation. Their relatively high paternal investment is to pass their genes on. In the human species, because of low male sexual dimorphism they require a higher level of investment from men. Women raise their children and expect and require resources from their mates. When these resources become threatened, then the woman becomes jealous to protect her interests and those of her children (White and Mullen).

In summary high male investment explains the relatively weak sexual dimorphism in humans, while the necessity of paternity confidence has led to human males having sexual jealousy marked by violence and consistent attempts to restrict the sexual behavior of women. Female jealousy is centered more on concerns related to paternal investment than on male extrarelationship sexuality per se, as greater paternal investment should increase the chance of survival for the female’s offspring. In short, sociobiological theory holds that female jealousy is marked by fear and anxiety over losing the relationship and by an interest in the nature of the rival relationship, whereas male jealousy, focusing on the sexual threat of the rival, is marked by competitiveness and aggression, and is much less affected by situational factors suggesting that the mate is still interested in maintaining the primary bond.

Aside from the scientific studies that have been done on jealousy, there is further proof that it is a fundamental part of human nature: and that is its existence in every culture on the planet as well as its appearance in religions. The definition of God is a lord who tolerates no other gods beside him and who describes himself as so jealous that he will visit the "sins" of the fathers upon the children unto the third or fourth generation (Baumgart, 82). God the Father, in whose image humanity was created (as man and woman), who was viewed throughout almost two thousand years of Western history as the revealed and therefore true God (and still is), and who is mentioned in constitutions, names of political parties, and school regulations?this God is jealous (Baumgart, 83). When we consider God’s jealousy, we arrive at "the innermost part of the personal and living God, and are led to admiring contemplation of the mirabilia Dei". Jealousy as a "mirabilium Dei," something that is to be admired in God?not, therefore, how awful that God is jealous, but how wonderful. Furthermore, it is less a matter of the concept of jealousy (and possibly its exemplariness) than of showing what God is like, with the help of the concept of jealousy. Because, as we may conclude, jealousy is something so well known everyone is familiar with it; on the other hand, it is something so strange, alien and fearful that it qualifies as an attribute of God, who is termed "the hidden one" by theologians in many different centuries.
"He is jealous, because he loves": this assumes that it is obvious that someone who loves is also someone who is jealous (Baumgart, 84).
It is not just Christianity, in which Jealousy plays a role. Stories abound in mythology of Jealousy and the havoc it wreaks. Numerous tales of the affairs of Greek Gods and the revenge their mates take upon those unfortunate mortals touched by another of the Pantheon’s love. Many a woman was transformed by Hera, for mating with Zeus. A war was fought over Helen of Troy. Sir Tristram of Lionness, died because of a broken heart caused by Iseult who loved him, over another Iseult whom he loved. Jealousy even affected the greatest swordsman of Japan, Miyamoto Musashi(a Kensai, who sought enlightenment through study of the sword). His childhood best friend attacked him out of jealousy for his success and for the love of a woman (needless to say, his friend lost). However, while the above two paragraphs are more than adequate in showing the existence of jealousy in many different cultures it is not the only evidence. There is further scientific proof on the subject.
In one study, for example, Buss asked males and females to imagine that their mates were having sex with someone else or that their mates were engaged in a deep emotional commitment with another person. Monitoring his subject’s heart rates, frowning and stress responses, he found that the stereotypical double standard cuts both ways. Men reacted far more strongly than women to the idea that their mates were having sex with other men. But women reacted far more strongly to the thought that their mates were developing strong emotional attachments to someone else.

The methods we plan to use are threefold. We plan to do our own analysis of Buss’s experiment. First we plan to reenact Buss’s experiment, if possible. In order to do that, we will have to visit the psychology department and see if they have the appropriate equipment. In addition, we will have to learn how to use the necessary equipment or have someone on hand to help us interpret the results. Obviously, we do not have the training to record the medical readouts of the necessary machines, or even to properly interpret the signs of physiological stress on the body caused by this experiment. To this end we will need to seek help. Then we also plan to create our own survey and do our own analysis of the results. We plan on surveying the student body of Miami University as well as members of the local population. Finally we also thought it might be useful to use a jealousy quiz online and see what sort of answers we got. If we could have other members of the western community fill one out and give us the results, it would help us out tremendously. Perhaps it might be possible to contact the owner of the page where a quiz is listed and get all their results: in light of the fact we are endeavoring in academic project.

When we obtain our results, we plan on putting them into use as a basis for our theories. We hope to use this research in order to prove the sociobiological aspects of jealousy. The process will include analyzing our findings and incorporating them into a scientific paper that can be used as the basis for others’ theories. If possible, we will use graphs and charts, created with StatView or a program called StataQuest, in order to visually explain the results we take in.
We hope this project will reinforce the materials we have already researched. Everything seems to point the way of the sociobiological argument?it seems almost like common sense. We are also fully aware, however, that people (for the most part) are autonomous rational beings and capable of consciously controlling natural impulses. In the event that our own research does not support that of Buss and sociobiology we will have to take that into consideration. We plan to use the cultural and religious contexts, as well as the sociobiological argument as our context for research. The research may include the reproduction of previous studies, our interpretation of their results (and ours, naturally), and our own research. We will find out whether or not Buss and the sociobiologists are still correct.

Obtained from....
http://jrscience.wcp.muohio.edu/Research/HNatureProposalsArticles/SexualJealousyfromaSociob.html

supremehero
12-03-2003, 11:25 AM
"Jealousy is a universal feeling. The feeling is normal until it is acted upon and the behavior or actions become irrational… Jealousy does not have boundaries. It penetrates all social positions, intellectual levels, ages, races, and economic strata" (Bernhard, xi). This project’s focus is to determine if what we have found out thus far, is still accurate. Buss conducted a survey on the reactions of men and women to jealousy and recorded the differences. The sociobiological perspective agrees with Buss’s assessment. Men tend to react more strongly to sexual indiscretion while women tend to find emotional infidelity more distressing. We will conduct our own experiment to see if it validates or refutes the above arguments. The theoretical context or standpoint will be from a sociobiological perspective as well as from a cross-cultural point of view. These examples will come from religious, legendary, and literary materials. Our methods of ensuring primary data will include our own analysis of other’s experiments and surveys that we create, conduct, and qualify.
In order to understand the theoretical context for the sociobiology of sexual jealousy, it would first be helpful to briefly explain the notion of sociobiology itself. Sociobiology explains aspects of human nature in terms of the theory of evolution, based on the 95% existence of the human race in the Pleistocene age. Sociobiology, or Evolutionary Psychology, serves to take a particular behavior (jealousy in this instance) and explain it as an adaptation which somehow enhances fitness in a particular environment. We have chosen to examine the aspects of sexual jealousy from a sociobiological standpoint. This type of jealousy involves a perceived threat to an intimate, committed relationship between two individuals, most often sexually or physically involved.

The basis for the sociobiological standpoint on jealousy deals out and out with paternity confidence: involving the fundamental physiological differences between men and women. Males have a high food intake for their larger and more energetic bodies. Men also have a much greater amount of testosterone than females. The resulting differences is that men are larger, stronger, and more aggressive. The man was designed (evolutionarily speaking) to have as many offspring as possible because of a low paternal investment rate. Women on the other hand, are designed to have only a few children?with a high rate of paternal investment. "Paternal investment is the energy expended by parents to produce and nurture offspring. More accurately the term refers to the decrement in future reproductive potential as a consequence of present effort" (White and Mullen, 60). The mother always knows who her children are, and has a naturally high level of parental confidence. Her reproductive strategy is to have a few children and protect them; a male’s is to have as many children as possible in the hopes that at least a few will survive. As a result his natural tendencies lean toward aggression and displays of physical prowess. This is to attract desirable mates in order to perpetuate his genes, as well as to protect his mate from other males. It also accounts for the male desire to mate with as many females as possible. As a result the male is very concerned with paternity confidence. In humans, however, sexual dimorphism for males is very low and paternal investment is very high. As a result the male needs to have a very high instance of paternity confidence?to make sure his genes are being passed on. As a result jealousy is one of his main weapons in terms of ensuring paternity confidence. This results in many things. Men become very upset, even violent, at an instance of sexual indiscretion by a mate. This is to protect their investment and it is one of the few tools they have to do it (White and Mullen).
Women, on the other hand, have bodies that run on a proportionately small amount of food in comparison to males. They use this energy efficiency for gestation and lactation. Their relatively high paternal investment is to pass their genes on. In the human species, because of low male sexual dimorphism they require a higher level of investment from men. Women raise their children and expect and require resources from their mates. When these resources become threatened, then the woman becomes jealous to protect her interests and those of her children (White and Mullen).

In summary high male investment explains the relatively weak sexual dimorphism in humans, while the necessity of paternity confidence has led to human males having sexual jealousy marked by violence and consistent attempts to restrict the sexual behavior of women. Female jealousy is centered more on concerns related to paternal investment than on male extrarelationship sexuality per se, as greater paternal investment should increase the chance of survival for the female’s offspring. In short, sociobiological theory holds that female jealousy is marked by fear and anxiety over losing the relationship and by an interest in the nature of the rival relationship, whereas male jealousy, focusing on the sexual threat of the rival, is marked by competitiveness and aggression, and is much less affected by situational factors suggesting that the mate is still interested in maintaining the primary bond.

Aside from the scientific studies that have been done on jealousy, there is further proof that it is a fundamental part of human nature: and that is its existence in every culture on the planet as well as its appearance in religions. The definition of God is a lord who tolerates no other gods beside him and who describes himself as so jealous that he will visit the "sins" of the fathers upon the children unto the third or fourth generation (Baumgart, 82). God the Father, in whose image humanity was created (as man and woman), who was viewed throughout almost two thousand years of Western history as the revealed and therefore true God (and still is), and who is mentioned in constitutions, names of political parties, and school regulations?this God is jealous (Baumgart, 83). When we consider God’s jealousy, we arrive at "the innermost part of the personal and living God, and are led to admiring contemplation of the mirabilia Dei". Jealousy as a "mirabilium Dei," something that is to be admired in God?not, therefore, how awful that God is jealous, but how wonderful. Furthermore, it is less a matter of the concept of jealousy (and possibly its exemplariness) than of showing what God is like, with the help of the concept of jealousy. Because, as we may conclude, jealousy is something so well known everyone is familiar with it; on the other hand, it is something so strange, alien and fearful that it qualifies as an attribute of God, who is termed "the hidden one" by theologians in many different centuries.
"He is jealous, because he loves": this assumes that it is obvious that someone who loves is also someone who is jealous (Baumgart, 84).
It is not just Christianity, in which Jealousy plays a role. Stories abound in mythology of Jealousy and the havoc it wreaks. Numerous tales of the affairs of Greek Gods and the revenge their mates take upon those unfortunate mortals touched by another of the Pantheon’s love. Many a woman was transformed by Hera, for mating with Zeus. A war was fought over Helen of Troy. Sir Tristram of Lionness, died because of a broken heart caused by Iseult who loved him, over another Iseult whom he loved. Jealousy even affected the greatest swordsman of Japan, Miyamoto Musashi(a Kensai, who sought enlightenment through study of the sword). His childhood best friend attacked him out of jealousy for his success and for the love of a woman (needless to say, his friend lost). However, while the above two paragraphs are more than adequate in showing the existence of jealousy in many different cultures it is not the only evidence. There is further scientific proof on the subject.
In one study, for example, Buss asked males and females to imagine that their mates were having sex with someone else or that their mates were engaged in a deep emotional commitment with another person. Monitoring his subject’s heart rates, frowning and stress responses, he found that the stereotypical double standard cuts both ways. Men reacted far more strongly than women to the idea that their mates were having sex with other men. But women reacted far more strongly to the thought that their mates were developing strong emotional attachments to someone else.

The methods we plan to use are threefold. We plan to do our own analysis of Buss’s experiment. First we plan to reenact Buss’s experiment, if possible. In order to do that, we will have to visit the psychology department and see if they have the appropriate equipment. In addition, we will have to learn how to use the necessary equipment or have someone on hand to help us interpret the results. Obviously, we do not have the training to record the medical readouts of the necessary machines, or even to properly interpret the signs of physiological stress on the body caused by this experiment. To this end we will need to seek help. Then we also plan to create our own survey and do our own analysis of the results. We plan on surveying the student body of Miami University as well as members of the local population. Finally we also thought it might be useful to use a jealousy quiz online and see what sort of answers we got. If we could have other members of the western community fill one out and give us the results, it would help us out tremendously. Perhaps it might be possible to contact the owner of the page where a quiz is listed and get all their results: in light of the fact we are endeavoring in academic project.

When we obtain our results, we plan on putting them into use as a basis for our theories. We hope to use this research in order to prove the sociobiological aspects of jealousy. The process will include analyzing our findings and incorporating them into a scientific paper that can be used as the basis for others’ theories. If possible, we will use graphs and charts, created with StatView or a program called StataQuest, in order to visually explain the results we take in.
We hope this project will reinforce the materials we have already researched. Everything seems to point the way of the sociobiological argument?it seems almost like common sense. We are also fully aware, however, that people (for the most part) are autonomous rational beings and capable of consciously controlling natural impulses. In the event that our own research does not support that of Buss and sociobiology we will have to take that into consideration. We plan to use the cultural and religious contexts, as well as the sociobiological argument as our context for research. The research may include the reproduction of previous studies, our interpretation of their results (and ours, naturally), and our own research. We will find out whether or not Buss and the sociobiologists are still correct.

Obtained from....
http://jrscience.wcp.muohio.edu/Research/HNatureProposalsArticles/SexualJealousyfromaSociob.html

sWEEtmICHe
12-15-2003, 12:37 AM
hey fRIENDs,
sorry for ma late reply!!

VASAN::: says!!!
But the topic of this discussion is jealousy among two people in a relationship. A boy and a girl are in relationship and they feel certain amount of possesiveness to each other - sort of mild owenership, territorial control, selfishness or what ever you want to call it. The question asked is who has more of these fleeings? Boys or Girls? So, why confuse this with 'general' definition of jealousy??
very well blended ma fRIENd.....
thank u...
the question i raised "JEALOUSY" :)
Both sexes born with genes, filled with jealousy
but the percentage is greater in girls compare with guys!!


shy say::
I disagree that women are jealousy!!


shy say::Jealousy is triggered by different factors in men and women.
Female jealousy seemed to revolve around the loss of emotional commitment from a partner, while male jealousy focused more on a partners sexual infidelity.

well shy, I agreed with u no doubt,with ur study research...
but wot abot in real life? now the "happening".....to be con't

sWEEtmICHe
12-15-2003, 12:40 AM
hey fRIENDs,
sorry for ma late reply!!

VASAN::: says!!!
But the topic of this discussion is jealousy among two people in a relationship. A boy and a girl are in relationship and they feel certain amount of possesiveness to each other - sort of mild owenership, territorial control, selfishness or what ever you want to call it. The question asked is who has more of these fleeings? Boys or Girls? So, why confuse this with 'general' definition of jealousy??
very well blended ma fRIENd.....
thank u...
the question i raised "JEALOUSY" :)
Both sexes born with genes, filled with jealousy
But the percentage is greater in girls compare with guys!!



shy say::
I disagree that women are jealousy!!


shy say::Jealousy is triggered by different factors in men and women.
Female jealousy seemed to revolve around the loss of emotional commitment from a partner, while male jealousy focused more on a partners sexual infidelity.

Well shy, I agreed with u no doubt, with Ur study research...
But wot abot in real life? Now the "happening" to be con't...

thank u
gOODAy :wink:

Shy
12-15-2003, 04:41 PM
Even in reality its true miche.

U cant just say a girl is jealous. Give me an example in reality u see a girl jealous. I am give the same example with a guy being jealous may be in a different way.

Shy

silican
12-15-2003, 05:09 PM
:lol: :lol: :lol:
Oruthaam gym'ku poi body, muscles buildup pannita kuuda thaan become jealous over than guy.

pasanga eppovume ithukkellam poraamai pada maataanga... innurthan nalla figuroda suthinaa mattum thaan.......... aanal athukkum ponnunga thaan kaaranam.

ashok

Adhu sari maams,
aana sila pasanga innoru paiyan vera ponnu kooda (sotha figure'a irundha kooda ) saadharanama pesinale vayiru erinju saabam vidaraangale....adhai pathi enna solreenga ?

Silican

sri_gan
12-15-2003, 05:14 PM
Even in reality its true miche.

U cant just say a girl is jealous. Give me an example in reality u see a girl jealous. I am give the same example with a guy being jealous may be in a different way.

Shy

Enna example venum shy ungalukku.....

Simple reasons:

1. why girls wear Golden ornaments... adutha ponnungala kaduppu etha thane...

2. Avalo nalla cotto sarees irrukum pothu, why girls want a Rs.10,000 pattu podavai's...

Ippadi ethavathu vangi mattikka vendiyathu vera yaarachum ithavida nallatha pottutu vanthuta.. anikki husband kathi athoo kathithan....

Jealousy girls kitta enga venna pakalam, guys kitta oru sila edathula than pakka mudim.. not everywhere....

If you disagree you need to give proper examples amma solliputen...

silican
12-15-2003, 05:19 PM
Simple example, guys naanga yaaravadhu pudusaa pant vangi iruken machi, T-Shirt vaangi irukken maape'nnu friends veetukku eduthuttu poi kaatikittu irukkoma ? ponnunga dhane pudhu pattu podavai, pacha kal mookuthi, Ummidiyar's la vaangina necklace'nnu Scene podraanga ?


Silican

Shy
12-15-2003, 07:14 PM
Enna example venum shy ungalukku.....

Simple reasons:

1. why girls wear Golden ornaments... adutha ponnungala kaduppu etha thane...

2. Avalo nalla cotto sarees irrukum pothu, why girls want a Rs.10,000 pattu podavai's...

Ippadi ethavathu vangi mattikka vendiyathu vera yaarachum ithavida nallatha pottutu vanthuta.. anikki husband kathi athoo kathithan....

Jealousy girls kitta enga venna pakalam, guys kitta oru sila edathula than pakka mudim.. not everywhere....

If you disagree you need to give proper examples amma solliputen...

Sri..

(1)Golden Ornaments has nothing to do with jealousy. Its girls favorite and whoever has money and luxury will get that. A woman ragging her husband to get the same thing like the neigbour is wearing is because is that her ego that she wants to show off that she too can get that.. avalavu thaan. More over if one cant get things like that, imean servant maid thinking of wearing the gold jewelery like the owner, these are all not out of jealousy.. but longing to have something like that or be like them. angae pooraamaiyooda yaekkam thaan atheegam

(2) Same with pattu sarees.

Sri, u got to understand something here. Girls more than guys like to decorate themselves and their physical appreance is more important.. their personlaity is more important, because woman are looked upon their looks not by their success or deeds(may be in some rare causes)

Aishwarya Rai is spending lakhs and lakhs of money monthly for maintaining her beauty'aam.. why if shes like a normal women, going to beauty parlour once in a month .. will u guys still jolluvitufy her.. shes 30.. so thats the point. Women paakka always should be cute. the more richer she is.. the more beautiful she will look.

Thats why u have many types of dresses and cosemetics for women than men.

Unga guys mentalitykku solraen -

A guykku oru 9-5job, salary 20,000/- its a government job'ooda .....MNC'la 40,000/- job yaen attarctive irukku.. sollunga.. u thrive for the best.. athu mathiri thaan ladieskku.. saatha cotton saree'odda they like pattu saree.

so no jealousy here..

I accept there is jealousy in women.. but my point is its not gender spcific. A guy too can be jealous


Shy

sri_gan
12-15-2003, 07:20 PM
Ada paavi shy...

Ippadi anthar bulti ellam adikka kudathu.....

:nono: :nono: :nono: :nono: :nono: :nono: :nono:

Ego vaaa.... yaarukku ego ethukellam ego varathune kidaiyatha....in one way ego is pure form of selfishness and it is the root cause of jealousy yarukitta....

Pattu saree, job oda compare pannurengala.... shiva shiva.... ithelam rombe over shy...

enakku srippa varuthu nega pesurathai paratha.... Iyanaar has come back enga alaiye kannum nu theriyalai.... yaaruchum married alunga pesungappa.... oru bachelor inga kattu kathu kathuren kekalaiya?????

Shy
12-15-2003, 07:21 PM
Simple example, guys naanga yaaravadhu pudusaa pant vangi iruken machi, T-Shirt vaangi irukken maape'nnu friends veetukku eduthuttu poi kaatikittu irukkoma ? ponnunga dhane pudhu pattu podavai, pacha kal mookuthi, Ummidiyar's la vaangina necklace'nnu Scene podraanga ?


Silican

Athula poi kaata enna irukku..

pant color - always brown, black, gray.. eppadi yaenni vachu pathhu color thaan

Appuram t-shirtla enna variety - collar'ed, collar less, round neck, v neck... I LOVE INDIA, SUPERSTAR, "I was born educated, but education runied me" - Eppadi sentences irukurar T-Shirts.. athai vaera veedu veeda yaeduthutu poi vaera kaatanumma.. Once pootutu vantha poothum.. appa kuuda yaarum paka maataanga :lol: :lol: :lol: .. romba thaan ungalukku thinking silican...

Girls have lots of varities.. example...mookuthi'na.. athula stone type, gold type, ring type, stick type, bindi type, silver type.. appuram solor u know u have hundereds of colors.. then single stone, multi stone.. gold'na design.. eppadi creative'a collections irukku..

Yaen silican.. compare panreenga :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Shy

silican
12-15-2003, 09:57 PM
Once pootutu vantha poothum.. appa kuuda yaarum paka maataanga :lol: :lol: :lol: .. romba thaan ungalukku thinking silican...

Yaen silican.. compare panreenga :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Shy

Edho en photo paathteengangiradhunaala ( CHE..EVVLO PERIYA WORD :00: ) ippdi ellam neenga kindal panna koodadu.. :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

Adhenna saadharanama naalanju color'la dhan pant irukkunnuttenga ?

Ramarajan podalaiya panju mittai color ?
Govinda podaliya manja color ?
Thalaivar kooda Ramar Blue color pant ellam pottrukkar..

edho naanga ellam Jealousy illama dress vaanginoma pottomannu irukkaaradhinala it doesnt mean we are out of varieties..Enna neenga ellam jeans pottukira madhiri naanga podavaiyo/Churidar'o pottukka mudiyadhu.avlo dhan

Silican

Shy
12-15-2003, 10:09 PM
Enna neenga ellam jeans pottukira madhiri naanga podavaiyo/Churidar'o pottukka mudiyadhu.avlo dhan


Neenga poodra dresses - like jeans, T- shirt engalukku suit aagum... pakarathukkum nalla irukkum.. Athula cuuda boot cut, low hip, high hip, baggies..nnu many variaties for girls..

but the other way around... :lol: :lol: :baby: :sm12: :baby: :sm12: :baby: :sm12: :baby: :sm12: :baby: :sm12: :baby: :sm12:

Shy

silican
12-15-2003, 10:16 PM
idhai dhan AANGALIN PERUNDHANMAI'nnu sollalam...enna dhan jeans pottukittu palli madhiri irundha kooda pasanga sotha FIGURE'nnu dhan solluvom...adhe madhiri naanga podra dress elame ponnungalum podra madhiri dhan irukkum...edho oru naal engeyo velila porom..sema mazhai..nalla nenajikittte anga namakku therinja ponnu nikkira..Vandeela yeriko maa'nnu kooptittu veetukku vandhu sooda oru Tea pottu koduthu..indha dress pottukkonnu Jean-T Shirt kodukkalam...avvlo sowkaryam and helpful..

idhe naan nananjikite poren..oru ponnu car'la lift koduthu avanga veetukku kootittu pora..(anna thambi yaarum kedaiyadhu..so no men's costumes) enna pannuva ? oru turkey towel koduthu.."help urself" appdeemba.adhai vacchikittu enna panna mudiyum? illa unga spare pudavai illa midi edhavadhu kkodungannu kettu vangi dhan pottukka mudiyuma???

silican

sWEEtmICHe
12-21-2003, 03:12 PM
hiee fRIENDs,
Well thanks for the contribution and comments: :fight: :fight:
My main reason for bringing this topic, is to share ...and from all ur pts of view,
And read and agreed, and conclude that girls are more jealousy...than guys!!
Guys! Guys! Keep it in them, to burst like volcanoes....
Can anyone tell me that, none jealous about sWEEtmICHe!!
Than i will agree to shy’s words... and start ma argument!! ...How abot our sri/silican etc??? Shall we start?

gOODAy :wink:

sri_gan
12-21-2003, 03:21 PM
can anyone tell me that,none jealous about sWEEtmICHe !!


None is jealous about sweetmiche for sure...

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Because Sweet Miche oru chinna kuchie.
Itha geetham purichie kichu...

Appuram shy aunty:

Pasange variety ellam ungalukku theriyathu nu sollunga...

Regular fit, relaxed fit, boot fit nu... neriya irruku... nenga enniki pasangalukku venum nu pathu irrukenga.. pathu irruntha theriyum...

:lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:

ungalukku antha ponnu enna pottu irruka... iva enna pottu irruka nu pakave time seriya irruku....

meenaram
12-21-2003, 03:29 PM
hiee fRIENDs,
Well thanks for the contribution and comments: :fight: :fight:
My main reason for bringing this topic, is to share ...and from all ur pts of view,
And read and agreed, and conclude that girls are more jealousy...than guys!!
Guys! Guys! Keep it in them, to burst like volcanoes....
Can anyone tell me that, none jealous about sWEEtmICHe!!
Than i will agree to shy’s words... and start ma argument!! ...How abot our sri/silican etc??? Shall we start?

gOODAy :wink:

u r right sweeeeeeetieeeeeeee dear. No girls are jealous on you. but guys like sri-gan are more jealous..........lol

sri_gan
12-21-2003, 03:32 PM
u r right sweeeeeeetieeeeeeee dear. No girls are jealous on you. but guys like sri-gan are more jealous..........lol


:lol::lol::lol::lol::lol::lol: :lol::lol::lol::lol::lol: unaglukku official rename vizhav innoru pakkam nadunthukittu irruku.... ivanga sweet mixie kku support vera...

shiva shiva...

meenaram
12-21-2003, 03:42 PM
u r right sweeeeeeetieeeeeeee dear. No girls are jealous on you. but guys like sri-gan are more jealous..........lol


:lol::lol::lol::lol::lol::lol: :lol::lol::lol::lol::lol: unaglukku official rename vizhav innoru pakkam nadunthukittu irruku.... ivanga sweet mixie kku support vera...

shiva shiva...girls are jealous because they are very pocessive and lovable nature..........

Parunga ennoru pakkam en thambi sriya vittu tharamatenu sonnen. avar ennadana enga vanthu vizha athu ethunu...........enna sri thirumbavum neenga azhanuma antha kozhanthai mathri?

silican
12-21-2003, 04:05 PM
sri...

inga paaru pudhusa innoru akka kaila thodapathoda ...chee sorry Raaki'yoda kaathukittu irukkanga.


Silican

sWEEtmICHe
12-21-2003, 04:10 PM
None is jealous about sweetmiche for sure...
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Because Sweet Miche oru chinna kuchie.
Itha geetham purichie kichu.....
hey sri,
nice to hear that none is jealous...!!
thanks for it...
aparam....adhu ena chinna kuchie ???
gOODAy :Ksp: :Ksp:

sWEEtmICHe
12-21-2003, 04:27 PM
u r right sweeeeeeetieeeeeeee dear. No girls are jealous on you. but guys like sri-gan are more jealous..........lol
hey meena kutty,
oops!!...........>>>>>sri ya.....???? jealous a >>>>>????? hehehehehe ....
thanks for ur sweetwords meenaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!
gOODAy

sWEEtmICHe
12-21-2003, 04:36 PM
u r right sweeeeeeetieeeeeeee dear. No girls are jealous on you. but guys like sri-gan are more jealous..........lol
:lol::lol::lol::lol::lol::lol: :lol::lol::lol::lol::lol: unaglukku official rename vizhav innoru pakkam nadunthukittu irruku.... ivanga sweet mixie kku support vera...
..
AIYOOOOOOOOOO >>>>>silican help :ee:

sri_gan
12-21-2003, 06:38 PM
sri...

inga paaru pudhusa innoru akka kaila thodapathoda ...chee sorry Raaki'yoda kaathukittu irukkanga.


Silican

Silican,

Avanga rakki oda alaiyala...

Sorna akka special vanthu kathu kodiyirathu (chi) kathu thirugurathu machi athukku avnagalukku peru vachirukken

Kathu thiruki sorna akka rename villa kuda sema jega jothiya nadanthu sorna akka vera accept pannikittanga...

Sweet Mixie chinna kuchi naan intha thee kuchie theriyuma (match sticks) athu mari.

Naan yaarum pathu poramai padamatten... sorna akka topic detoour podalam nu pathanga... etham athule eppavume ushar ache... correcta puduchutenga

sWEEtmICHe
12-22-2003, 02:04 AM
hey sri.

correcta puduchutenga
santhosam.....apa sorna akka engae ??

Sweet Mixie chinna kuchi naan intha thee kuchie theriyuma (match sticks) athu mari.
adhu enna thee kuchie......apparam ???
silican >>>> engae ???
thirudan.....vara villai ???
??????
sollanga.....sri avargalae.... !!
gOODAy :wink:

sri_gan
12-22-2003, 02:22 AM
ennai partha kindala irruka sweet mixie, silican and thirudan avanga avanga knokathukku varuvargal.. silican vettu pathiram ellam kaluvi muduchittu thoongi kittu irrupan.. avane sonnan...

Thirudan kadalai vandi odan enagavathu geetham le oru mulaile okanthu irrupan...

Pokaichal vanthal mattume kadalai viyabaram seiya naan varuven...

sWEEtmICHe
12-22-2003, 01:11 PM
haaaaaa appadiya sri avargale.....silican >>>ice skating<<<,Thiru >>sighting girls!! ...lastest news.. ... :ahha:
neengal.....??? heeehaaaaheeeeehaaaaa!!
gOODAy :wink:

sri_gan
12-22-2003, 03:02 PM
Naan than kathai ezhuthurane... appuram ellarukkum peru vaikiren... vrename vizha kondaduren...

neriya irruke...

sWEEtmICHe
01-04-2004, 06:16 AM
wot happen to all.....????
sri ....... vrename vizha kondaduren...!!
enna aachi....address elle>>> sob sob!! :cry:

sri_gan
01-04-2004, 12:12 PM
Allraum leavekku poi irrunthanga... nethikki en veetule ennoda friends ellarum vanthanga so naan online varalai...

Sob Sob Sweet mixie, Geetham le no sob sob ok... ellarum vanthutanga.. see the other topics...

butterfly
01-04-2004, 06:48 PM
Mich wrote,


wHy aRe gIRLs sO jEALOUs ?
Is It born in them or due to love ....all can voice up
gooday


Miche,
I think everyone is mixing up possesiveness & jealousy...though they are connected the damage it causes is of different nature

now coming to women...I cant say if we are jealous...we might get possesive about our loved ones...but ofcourse if we feel something we talk about it & clear it out...
now coming to Men....Men hardly share their feelings...they are possesive too...but when doubts appear instead of clearing it out they let it boil until it burst as jealousy....causing them to attack the other person
women wearing ornaments or showing ornaments to another women is not to make others J...its her sharing attitude which makes her show wat she bought to her friend...& if u notice women share their ornaments & sarees to their friends for occasions...I dont think men wud dare do it...so if women is J then wud we share our jewels?...
hence jealousy to me depends on the situation of how a person handles it...it cud be male or female..

sri_gan
01-05-2004, 10:19 AM
Possesiveness is the base for Jealousy Butterfly. I don't think all men are like you said , there may be very few, depends on how they grew up.

In case of women, it is real hard to find a women with non possesiveness, if you find some one they must be supporting the society in one way.

If you dig some history, there are times men were wearing more jewels than women, look at men now. This is one simple example, how men are adapted to changes as time goes by.

It is true that Jealousy can come irrespective of gender, but the most vunerable ones are the females.

sWEEtmICHe
01-05-2004, 12:23 PM
It is true that Jealousy can come irrespective of gender,
but the most vunerable ones are the females.

well i agreed with ma sweet buddy sri !!.......
butterfly sweetie......,
guys......been possesive ,
well may be...[a little percentage]
but i still agreed with sri.....
sorry daaaaaaaa


Men hardly share their feelings...they are possesive

Jealousy, the jaundice of the soul.
--John Dryden (1631-1700)

People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered; Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway. If you are successful you will win some false friends and true enemies; Succeed anyway. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway. What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway. The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; Give the world the best you've got anyway You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God; It was never between you and them anyway.
--Mother Teresa

butterfly
01-06-2004, 12:29 AM
sri wrote,


It is true that Jealousy can come irrespective of gender, but the most vunerable ones are the females.


it used to be when women were staying home & was confined to the four walls...I dont think its same anymore?...ask todays women of how many wud wear jewellery??...or pattu sarees as u said...not many....

miche wrote,


butterfly sweetie......,
guys......been possesive ,
well may be...[a little percentage]


I dont think so....Men are equally possesive as women....its just that they may not show it out as much as women :)

butterfly
01-06-2004, 12:31 AM
miche wrote,


Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; Give the world the best you've got anyway You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God; It was never between you and them anyway.


very true...& very well said...
Thanks to Mother Teresa & her wisdom

sri_gan
01-06-2004, 01:22 AM
it used to be when women were staying home & was confined to the four walls...I dont think its same anymore?...ask todays women of how many wud wear jewellery??...or pattu sarees as u said...not many....


You might not, possibly you live in the west.

I still see a lot of women like the Jewelry or a non living thing which gives a material pleasure and forget the souls which does live for them. Its hard to see that and digest some of the facts, but what I'm saying is not a lie.

Do you agree that women or possesive than men? If yes, the upgrade is called the jealousy, simple as it is.

yohn
01-11-2004, 03:37 AM
I agree with you

sWEEtmICHe
01-12-2004, 08:24 AM
Do you agree that women or possesive than men? If yes, the upgrade is called the jealousy, simple as it is.
well said sri...thanks!!

Mehala
01-21-2004, 05:10 PM
Dear friends,
Girls may b jealous becoz they may have different brain than the men have. But, jealousy is a bad habbit.
thanks

Horizon2004
01-28-2004, 12:02 AM
:Ksp: wHy aRe gIRLs sO jEALOUs ?
Is It born in them or due to love ....all can voice up :wink:
gooday :nono:


I can see you are Raising these topics to compare yourself with the other WOMENS(KIDDING).
WOMEN half of the MEN but they are jealous from the ADAM & EVE stone age. There are good WOMEN behind successful MEN. Basically, I could say yes they are jealous of type but some are not. I can't blame 100% are jealous.
If you ask me to vote then WOMEN are jealoussssyyyyyyyyy.

Sisters ---> Mannithidungoooooooooo

tn68
01-28-2004, 08:33 AM
ur way of pointing girls is wrong i will not accept that girls are jealous.may be some of them are jealous .u tell in which way the girls are jealous.

sWEEtmICHe
02-05-2004, 02:39 PM
:Ksp: wHy aRe gIRLs sO jEALOUs ?
Is It born in them or due to love ....all can voice up :wink:
gooday :nono:


I can see you are Raising these topics to compare yourself with the other WOMENS(KIDDING).
WOMEN half of the MEN but they are jealous from the ADAM & EVE stone age. There are good WOMEN behind successful MEN. Basically, I could say yes they are jealous of type but some are not. I can't blame 100% are jealous.
If you ask me to vote then WOMEN are jealoussssyyyyyyyyy.

Sisters ---> Mannithidungoooooooooo
lols horizon....,
me jealous...oops!! :ahha:
well jealous is a kinda of virus.......,
spread danger ma fRIENd :Ksp:
well i agreed and welcome ur opinion..
thanks :b:

sagi
02-20-2004, 09:50 AM
haiyooo sweet. enna neenga onnume theriyaatha pappava irukkinga...girls are like mirrors, they you can see thier feelings out...but guys....hmmmmm periya pootu pottu pootiduvaanga..so very hard to see....i personally think that guys also feel in the same way as girls do...

sWEEtmICHe
02-22-2004, 06:20 PM
jealous in a sense is different ma sagi chellam......,
esp when they[guys] are carried away by attractive gals{it's happening}
so feel depressed,{ just imagine how her feelings will be},
this is one of the eg....... so JEALOUSY come and takes place :P

sagi
02-23-2004, 03:32 AM
haiyooo nenga vera. guys feel the same jealousy even if we have a friendly conversatoin with another guy. There is one more thing you must know....we only get jealous when our guys talks to a girl. but guys always, a father, a brother, a friend gets jealous when we talk to another guy. so appidi paarththa engala vida avanga thaan PORAMAI PUDICHA PAYALUNGA ;) but they are very smart. [ goku sonnatha nambha vendam, he is very smart] they know the way to hide thier feelings ;)

san2003
02-23-2004, 03:50 AM
haiyooo nenga vera. guys feel the same jealousy even if we have a friendly conversatoin with another guy. There is one more thing you must know....we only get jealous when our guys talks to a girl. but guys always, a father, a brother, a friend gets jealous when we talk to another guy. so appidi paarththa engala vida avanga thaan PORAMAI PUDICHA PAYALUNGA ;) but they are very smart. [ goku sonnatha nambha vendam, he is very smart] they know the way to hide thier feelings ;)very true.... girls get jealous if their guys talk to other girls..... but guys get even jealous when their girl talks to another guy... they will ask one million question
but am not sure if a father or brother would get jealous.. coz they are closely related... i think they wanna be more cautious bout the girl's friends.. can't be said as jealousy (in my opinion)
everyone gets jealous... not only in these kind of situation... in every situation.. for eg:somebody does better in examz... etc ..... jealousy is a nature that everyone has. no one has more than other... but girls show it more than guys which is true :)

sagi
02-23-2004, 04:00 AM
appidi sollada en raasaththi :) ennamo ippo thaan geetham la ponunga sariya pesa aarambhichu irukkanga.
but they do get jealous. i tell you....i hv seen it in real life. :) [if the father and brother is ver close + loves you ] :)

muruga bhalani aandava intha geetham men a kaappaththada :)

san2003
02-23-2004, 04:10 AM
appidi sollada en raasaththi ennamo ippo thaan geetham la ponunga sariya pesa aarambhichu irukkanga.

why sagi? wat u mean... purilae ... sorry....... naan enna sollitaen?

sagi
02-23-2004, 04:26 AM
i said that you are very smart :) keep it up

san2003
02-23-2004, 04:29 AM
i said that you are very smart keep it up

hahahaha.... thanx sagi mom ;) emm.... appadi kuparathe ungaluku kashtam illeyae?

sagi
02-23-2004, 05:12 AM
ithila enna kastam. ennoda "VALA VALAA" enakku kodutha nick ache... ;) i don't mind. I am enjoying my stay here...you too enjoy....

gokulan42
02-23-2004, 05:36 AM
haiyooo nenga vera. guys feel the same jealousy even if we have a friendly conversatoin with another guy. There is one more thing you must know....we only get jealous when our guys talks to a girl. but guys always, a father, a brother, a friend gets jealous when we talk to another guy. so appidi paarththa engala vida avanga thaan PORAMAI PUDICHA PAYALUNGA ;) but they are very smart. [ goku sonnatha nambha vendam, he is very smart] they know the way to hide thier feelings ;)

Adhu eppadi unakku mattum, ippadi ellam ninaikka thonarathu? Cant beleive it.

A jealous guy is an oxymoron :) Never happens :)

Maybe, during that first year of marriage, guys act little stupid and possessive. Dont mistake that for jealousy ;)

sagi
02-23-2004, 05:39 AM
ENAKKU MATTUM THAAN SARIYA SINTHIKKIRA THIRAN IRUKKU...NIJAJAM ENGE IRUNTHAALUM, SAGI ANGE IRUPPEN. DON' TELL ME THAT YOU GUYS DON'T ACT /FEEL LIKE IT...OTHTHUKKUNGA GUKU..;)

gokulan42
02-23-2004, 05:43 AM
very true.... girls get jealous if their guys talk to other girls.....
Thanks for accepting this ;)


but am not sure if a father or brother would get jealous.. coz they are closely related... i think they wanna be more cautious bout the girl's friends.. can't be said as jealousy (in my opinion)
Dont worry abou that. She gets confused once in a while. Remember, she is the one who started that confusion thread ;)


everyone gets jealous... not only in these kind of situation... in every situation.. for eg:somebody does better in examz... etc ..... jealousy is a nature that everyone has. no one has more than other... but girls show it more than guys which is true :)
During exams, you dont call that as a jealousy. That is the competition. You should have the cpompeting spirit.

Gals show the jealousy and guys show their competence ;)

san2003
02-23-2004, 05:53 AM
During exams, you dont call that as a jealousy. That is the competition. You should have the cpompeting spirit.

Gals show the jealousy and guys show their competence

competing spirit is one thing... but jealousy oru mullae'le irukum thane? one of my guy friend was jealous coz i got slightly higher marks than him and it was only a small test...athae periye vishyeyam for him... then he beat me in the finals and he was showing off... of course im not jealous coz he is smarter than me... athe jealousy ille ya?
another situation... another guy friend of mine.. he is a top student and in one of the subjects i got better result than him (others he is way better than me) ... since i said that, everytime i open topic about the subject he gives this face .. haha... moonjilae nalla teriyethu jealous'ne... hahaha

gokulan42
02-23-2004, 06:01 AM
During exams, you dont call that as a jealousy. That is the competition. You should have the cpompeting spirit.

Gals show the jealousy and guys show their competence

competing spirit is one thing... but jealousy oru mullae'le irukum thane? one of my guy friend was jealous coz i got slightly higher marks than him and it was only a small test...athae periye vishyeyam for him... then he beat me in the finals and he was showing off... of course im not jealous coz he is smarter than me... athe jealousy ille ya?
another situation... another guy friend of mine.. he is a top student and in one of the subjects i got better result than him (others he is way better than me) ... since i said that, everytime i open topic about the subject he gives this face .. haha... moonjilae nalla teriyethu jealous'ne... hahaha

Its good to know about you & your smarter friends ;)

However, this is exactly what we call competing spirit. If you are smarter than him and he cannot compete with you and he is not working on winning you rather jealous on you all the time. That is jealousy :)

Dont take classed from Sagi's english teacher, ok ;)

sagi
02-23-2004, 06:25 AM
ahrrrrrrrrrrrrrr guko, pattum thirunthatha jenmam ada neenga ;)

san2003
02-23-2004, 08:45 AM
ahrrrrrrrrrrrrrr guko, pattum thirunthatha jenmam ada neenga


nalla sonningal sagi mom :)

sagi
02-23-2004, 08:48 AM
naan ethu sonnalum athila oru arththam irukkum endru ippo purigiratha san ? ;)

san2003
02-23-2004, 08:52 AM
naan ethu sonnalum athila oru arththam irukkum endru ippo purigiratha san ?


puringikitaen sagi mom.... naan eppovum nalla pulae.... illiya mummy...emm... appadi kupadalama? ;) sagi mom koncham old fashion'a iruke... mummy trendy'a iruke ;)
sori no offence sagi ;)

sagi
02-23-2004, 08:58 AM
i know that you are a bright girl. very good..ippidi thaan mummy kaththu kodukkiratha sariyaa purinjukkanum.

no problem san....your wish infact mummy sounds better ;)

gokulan42
02-23-2004, 03:34 PM
naan ethu sonnalum athila oru arththam irukkum endru ippo purigiratha san ? ;)
Me too, mangai ;)

gokulan42
02-23-2004, 03:38 PM
ahrrrrrrrrrrrrrr guko, pattum thirunthatha jenmam ada neenga


nalla sonningal sagi mom :)
Sans & Sagi, please explain why and how is that?

sagi
02-24-2004, 03:14 AM
who is mangai here? anyway Goku may be manni has good explanation to your answer.. ;)

sagi
02-24-2004, 03:14 AM
who is mangai here? anyway Goku may be manni has good explanation to your answer.. ;)

sagi
02-24-2004, 03:15 AM
who is mangai here? anyway Goku may be manni has good explanation to your answer.. ;)

sagi
02-24-2004, 03:15 AM
who is mangai here? anyway Goku may be manni has good explanation to your answer.. ;)

gokulan42
02-24-2004, 03:23 AM
who is mangai here? anyway Goku may be manni has good explanation to your answer.. ;)
You are!

sagi
02-24-2004, 03:32 AM
whattttttttttttttttttttttt ????

sWEEtmICHe
03-16-2004, 04:36 PM
....guku kanna...,
may be u can get better info from ur wife regards >>JEALOUSY<<

sWEEtmICHe
03-16-2004, 04:38 PM
sagi..... :b:

sWEEtmICHe
03-16-2004, 04:40 PM
if sWEEty never return.......to geetham......HOW?
sans doll u can take simbhu....... :cry:

san2003
03-17-2004, 01:41 AM
but wat if sweety alwiz in geetham?... no simbhu for me? ..... NO WAY :cry::cry::cry:
i'll tell u bout jealousy geethamites...... SWEETY IS JEALOUS COZ I GOT MY HONEY BUNNY SIMBHU ;) hehehe

gokulan42
03-17-2004, 04:04 AM
Achoda.... Start aiyudochuppa....

sans doll, what happened to you.. we are waiting for ur valuable input in Ram's favor...

sWEEtmICHe
03-19-2004, 05:55 AM
guku..change track is it.. :nono:
nathing doing....http://www.tamilterra.com/forum/images/smiles/icon_rolleyes.gif

sWEEtmICHe
03-19-2004, 06:02 AM
anyway sans doll .......sWEEty is leaving geetham......so
u can have ma simbhu okie va......chellam..... :D

sagi
03-19-2004, 09:15 AM
sweety is leaving?? why? don't play lie this chweet :(

sWEEtmICHe
05-02-2004, 09:10 AM
i am not........i am in geetham....ok va :D