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    Every one is destined to some one
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    Every one is born to matched with some one who can be either their destiny
    or fate . Matches are made in heaven by cupids, but in earth , its made in
    cofee pubs ,beaches ,theaters and restaurants by themselves( i mean couples).

    I don't have any ill feeling towards dating culture but there should be
    some one who should bring the certain illness of this culture to light .
    In developed nations , relationships are clearly defined and bordered, but
    in india ,its something that can be bordered only by interpretations.
    Some one tries to interpret and imitate western culture, few others
    stuck to age old orthodox culture , rest all (ie majority) are confused
    between both the form of living ways .

    Even before adolesence creeps in , our kids are wrongly guided by concept
    of matching . Even before puberty touches them , the ideas of match making
    are furnished into their minds . Why only at the age of puberty , one
    does wishes to make matches ? . we can rightly make the blamings on biological
    disturbance that is caused at this age.

    Naturally every blessings are almost balanced to both the sex equally ,but there
    are few thoughts that differentiate both the sexes.One is stronger and other is
    a bit weaker . I dont want to confront myself into which is better and which is
    not . If one of the party wants to make match with another party (mostly these
    parties are of opposite sex , atleast for reproduction) then one has to get
    either attracted or impressed by other . So to establish impression , one
    has to be ostentitous(pretentious). These is the cause for the births of
    this new era of modernity .

    No one in world really wants to get trapped into this meaningless and
    insignificant relationships if he/she is bound by a single destined goal
    or problem . There should be some aim at every point of time to
    boost and fire yourself . If you donot have time to think about your
    food then you will never think about anything else . So all these
    matchings are a elusive play of god ( yourself) to distract from
    your aim and target . That is the causal reason for lots of
    unemployments and suicides .

    A man with no problem tries to find problem and matching is one of
    the most irrelevant problem that every one tries to solve but not
    all succeed . Usually perseverance and persistence is the key to
    success but in this case its an exceptional one , try to skip
    the problem and move on , to get the most optimized result .Never
    be unhappy for what you are at because you are better than atleast
    some one in the whole world .

    Focus and determination is some characters that will earn you
    success , so matching is rule of time and keep skipping it
    until you feel yourself comfortable(which you will never !! Gotcha).

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    Thirudan,

    Kadaisiyaa neenga enna solla vareenga? Intha essay padichu naan thaadi sorinchathu thaan micham. Irunthaalum ennoda chitarivukku ettina varai solren kelunga.

    You are talking about illness of dating. I dont agree that dating is illness. It is a way of life for some people because their social values are different like currency. So there is no illness associated with that. Can we adopt the same in India? That is a question that can be asked and debated. Also, this concept focus, distractions are going to be there throughout your life in different forms. When you are adolescent, it might be attraction to girls, but after marriage it could be attraction to wife. Later it could be the childrens's love. So you are bound to have distractions throughout your life. Then why complain only about adolescent age?

    Athunaalay, naan enna solrenna? Enakke maranthu pochuthu! You will have distractions through out your life. You have to live with it. Dating is not a distraction from my point of view. Whether we need it in India or not? I dont know. May be it wont work in current state of our social values. But for people who profess that in India also, are they outcasts? No, they are normal humans like any of us and it is just that they have different values.

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    1. Dating is not a distraction, It can help to have a healthy relationship when applied correct.

    2. First economy improve panni, neriya jobs create pannanum, this is the most important factor for anything.

    3. Social Maturity automatica varum when we do the step two it will become even faster.

    4. Athukku appuram dating pathi India le confidenta pesalam.

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    Dating na enna????

    yaaravuthu enakku sollunga paaa???

    Can't you get from article that no Indian knows true meaning of
    dating(including me)

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    Dating Neriya Vagai irruku.

    Ippo Blind Date pathi papom and this is for straight copules only.

    A men and women who don't know about each other and they were attempting to go out for fun.

    This gives an open oppurtunity for the spark (love spark inga than start agum).

    The important to thing we have to watch is the kis at the end of the date.

    I will give things in parts, pothuma thirudan...

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    Dating in US is as simple as this .

    It first starts with a dinner and it is rapport that takes
    them to bed or not .
    After couple of datings ... one may break up with other
    or continue to have relationship with the other .

    Next step is moving in ... any one of the party moves
    into the opposite party's home

    Final step is proposal ...

    In short Dating is a mean of sharing feelings.

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    Enna thirudan ippadi solliputinga... seri ok.. Innum vela variya polam nu irrunthen... pottu nu pottu odachuputinga...

    naan continue panna va vendama?

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    Quote Originally Posted by thirudan
    Dating in US is as simple as this .

    It first starts with a dinner and it is rapport that takes
    them to bed or not .
    After couple of datings ... one may break up with other
    or continue to have relationship with the other .

    Next step is moving in ... any one of the party moves
    into the opposite party's home

    Final step is proposal ...

    In short Dating is a mean of sharing feelings.
    Thirudan,

    Athu eppadi ippadi oru conclusion ukkaay vanthuteenga? Not everybody moves in to live with their partners. Also not every dating ends in bed. It is just that these guys consider that part of life also as a compatibility requirement. What will happen if a guy( or girl ) who is so active in "antha vishayam" gets married to some one who is not! Is'nt that considers incompatible?

    I know couples here in *** where I live, who got married without going through any of these steps you mentioned.

    So dating is considered as an opportunity for two individuals to check their compatibility in all walks of life. It hu vanthu nallatha kettatha, illati whether applicable to India or not, is different story. To some extend compatibility checking happens in India too, except you dont check, but parents check( except the antha vishayam ) which any way an ignored and irrelevant topic for marriages in India.

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    pathikichu,

    I agree with Arumuganainar, athe eppadi thirudan nenga oru conclusionkku varalam.. illa kekuren.. eppadi nenga oru conclusionkku varalam.

    Unga pathil kandu enn madal thodarum...

    On more thing,

    thirudan kitte irrunthu enakku eppadium Adangu appdinu oru varthai varum...

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    Quote Originally Posted by anainar
    Quote Originally Posted by thirudan
    Dating in US is as simple as this .
    In short Dating is a mean of sharing feelings.
    Thirudan,

    What will happen if a guy( or girl ) who is so active in "antha vishayam" gets married to some one who is not! Is'nt that considers incompatible?


    Cheers
    Sri,

    Paartheengala, nalla maatukku oru soodu. Inime I am going to use terms which are gender independant. Yenna, innoru topicla, I had my foot in my mouth and before taking it out, did not want to get the other foot also.


    Cheers
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    Ayyada Arumuganainar,

    Enna nadakuthu intha ulagathile i cannot stop

    Thats a good one...

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    Itho irukku ungalakku answer ....

    anainare.
    First of all I want to make myself clear that Dating is not the
    only tool for forming a couple . So In that couple's case it
    was not dating but something else. Aiyo ... whatever iI
    said is not a protocol .... anyone can skip any steps.


    I have written very clearly that

    Rapport ( emotional binding )
    is the one which takes them to bed or not.
    I never said that dating always ends in
    bed .

    To be more clear first date rarely ends in bed.

    Appuram sri_gan....

    enna nee... jalra thatraa ...
    The dating that i explained is not universal , so I require you
    to put forth your views on it .

    I wrote in my essay that

    Every one is born to matched with some one who can be either their destiny or fate

    so neenga sonna " antha vishayam " if one is active and other is not
    then it is a fate and not destiny.

    sari unakkaga.... ADANGU sri_gan
    thiru...

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    Quote Originally Posted by thirudan
    sari unakkaga.... ADANGU sri_gan
    No. Thirudan. don't forget your style. You have to tell.
    " Ei sri_gan, nee adangudi "

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    Ei sri_gan, nee adangudi

    pothuma

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    Quote Originally Posted by thirudan
    Itho irukku ungalakku answer ....

    anainare.

    Rapport ( emotional binding )
    is the one which takes them to bed or not.
    I never said that dating always ends in
    bed .

    To be more clear first date rarely ends in bed.

    Every one is born to matched with some one who can be either their destiny or fate

    so neenga sonna " antha vishayam " if one is active and other is not
    then it is a fate and not destiny.

    thiru...
    Aaaha! Appadi vaanga vazhikku Thriudan.

    Neengaly otukitteenga that Dating is also one of the tools. Appuram what is wrong in dating? If that will make the two concerned person to make a very informed decision and make their lives happy for the rest of their life, what is wrong in that?

    And again what is this destiny, fate items here? Are there any thing like that? Antha vishayam is also an important part of life which is being ignored by anybody and everybody. Athulayum compatibility venum thirudan.

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    All that I said was in US .
    Dating is a tool there but here (india) it
    is a weapon to destroy the relationships.

    "antha vishayam" important illana yaaru sonnathu ....
    aana rendu perume fastu illa ultavo ... atha avanga thalai vidhi ....

    Ithu ungalakku purincha sari ....

    I am reiterating this that I am not against dating ....iinfact I 2 ....

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    Dating is a process to find out how old things are....using radioactivity......
    underwear?
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    enna shidinesh ..... ungalllaku underwear vitta vera ethavum theriyatha

    nee enna solra ne ennaku velucham illla ??????

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    Naan thoongittu irrukum pothu intha galatta pannurengalepa...

    Yei thirttu payale enna va adanga sollure, nann innum attam poduven, ippo paru attatha


    "antha vishayam" important illana yaaru sonnathu ....
    aana rendu perume fastu illa ultavo ... atha avanga thalai vidhi ....
    Antha nenapoda blind date kku ponnina "Aappu" nu onnu kelvi pattu irrukiya... athu than kidaikkum

    Rasa Shidinesh unakku vera topic kedaikalaya... illa inga irrukuravan ellam adangitanga nu nenachiya...Ithu Love and Relationship Group pa...

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    Quote Originally Posted by shidinesh
    Dating is a process to find out how old things are....using radioactivity......
    underwear?

    Realy.............?

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