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    Hello Guys and Cute Girls..
    With the Curtsy & Help of The Great Minik ,
    I am feeling too happy to present the secrets
    of Married life. Infact Secrets of life...

    We are going to discuss about

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    THE NATURE OF LOVE AND PLEASURE

    Love
    Sex
    The Buddha's Explanation
    Pleasure

    THE REALITY OF MARRIED LIFE

    Problems
    Sharing and Trust
    Blinded by Emotions
    Material Needs
    Pre-marriage Advice

    THE BUDDHIST CONCEPT OF MARRIAGE

    Role of Religion

    THE RELIGIOUS DILEMMA

    Individual Rights
    Post-marriage Blues
    The Ceremony

    SECURITY, RESPECT AND RESPONSIBILITIES

    Sense of Insecurity
    Husband and Wife
    The Past
    Modern Society
    Divorce
    Responsibility towards the Children
    Buddhist Views

    POLYGAMY OR MONOGAMY

    NEW TECHNOLOGY

    Family Planning
    Test-tube Babies

    MORALITY

    Premarital Sex
    Sexual Misconduct
    Irresponsible Sexual Behavior

    THE EAST AND THE WEST

    CELIBACY

    What is Celibacy?
    Significance of Celibacy
    Celibacy versus Responsibility
    The Buddha's Experience

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    Oh ok..

    But what are we going to discuss. what are secrets of marriage'nu'a??.. naraiyaa sub topics eruku.. enna, ethai pathi discuss panapooroom.. please explain

    Shy

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    One By ONE.. i MEAN ONE SUB TOIC BY ANOTHER SUB TOPIC..

    Porumaya irungoo.. This also like episode by episode thaan..

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    Let's first discuss the evils of married life.....
    Trolling Geetham since 2003...

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    Arumugam,
    Bachelors discussing about secrets of Happy married life??????.
    [b]sleep... [/b

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    Bachelors discussing about secrets of Happy married life??????.
    நண்பா கிங், "காம சூத்திரம்" எழுதிய முனிவர் வாத்ஸ்யாயன ர் பெண் வாடை அறியாதவர். பின்னே இங்கே "பேச்சுலர் ்" இல்லற வாழ்க்கை பற்றி டிஸ்கஸ் செய்தால் என்ன தப்பு?
    வாழிய செந்தமிழ்!

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    Quote Originally Posted by shidinesh
    Let's first discuss the evils of married life.....
    ..dinesh "EVILS OF MARRIED LIFE?".. ada paavi...

    Arumugam, ethukaagavae. neenga first discussion about "GOODS OF MARRIED LIFE" solanum...

    Shy

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    From time immemorial, man has been preoccupied with the pursuit of
    happiness in life, from the cradle to the grave. He works and
    struggles very hard to attain happiness, very often without knowing
    exactly what happiness means because of his ignorance of the nature of
    life. Although all religions provide advice and guidelines for their
    adherents to practice in order to attain happiness in life, more often
    than not, these advices and guidelines are ignored owing to man's
    craving, hatred and illusion. Many people who experienced
    frustrations and sufferings hope and pray to find happiness for
    present life and here after; others, though enjoying a large measure
    of happiness on earth, are still not contented and crave for eternal
    bliss in heaven after leaving this world. For the ordinary man, as
    for the child, it is difficult to make a distinction between happiness
    and pleasure. To him, that which gives pleasure give happiness, and to
    be happy is to experience pleasure.

    Very often, we consider childhood days to be a period of happiness.
    In reality, as children we do not understand what happiness is. Under
    the protection of our parents, we pass our days in a perpetual round
    of enjoyment which undoubtedly gives us pleasure. As we enter
    adolescence, changes take place in the mind and physical body causing
    us to become aware of the existence of the opposite sex and we begin
    to experience a new kind of attraction giving rise to disturbing
    emotions. At the same time, curiosity drives us to find out about the
    fats of life, through peer discussion and book reading. Before long,
    we find ourselves on the threshold of adulthood, the crucial time in
    our life when we look for a suitable life-partner to begin a
    relationship that will put to the test all the qualities that we have
    acquired earlier in life. Love, sex, and marriage then become matters
    of great importance that will determine the quality of the married
    life we will have.

    Young people today are exposed to a large variety of "Western"
    influences which are disseminated through the mass media such as books
    and magazines, television, video cassettes and movies, resulting in
    the acquisition of distorted ideas regarding love, sex, and marriage.
    The age-old "Eastern" moral virtues and values are being gradually
    eroded in the face of these influences. Practices unheard of and
    never carried out by the older generation have become common place
    among young people today. Are the "Western" influences really
    responsible for this state of affairs or should the parents be blamed
    for the misdeeds of their children for not exercising proper control
    and supervision over them? In this book, it is explained that most
    television programs and movies do not represent the way most decent
    people in the West think or behave and that there is a vast "silent
    majority" of decent couples who are as deeply religious and
    "conservative" about love, sex and marriage as any "Eastern" couple.
    If young people want to ape the West, they are advised to ape this
    "silent majority" who are no different from their decent neighbor who
    lives next door to them.

    Modern life is fraught with all kinds of tension and stress.
    Doubtless, very often it is tension and stress that creates problems
    in many a marriage. If a proper analysis is made into the root causes
    of such social problems as pre-marital sex, teenage pregnancies,
    unhappy marriages and divorces, child-abuse and wife-battering, we
    inevitably discover that it is due mainly to selfishness and lack of
    patience, tolerance and mutual understanding. In the //Sigalovada
    Sutta//, the Buddha gives good advice on how to maintain peace and
    harmony in the home between husband and wife in order to achieve a
    happy married life. Parental responsibilities for children and the
    children's duties toward parents are also clearly mentioned in the
    Sutta as useful guidelines for the attainment of a happy home. In
    this book, the Ven. Author stresses the important point that marriage
    is a partnership of two individuals and that this partnership is
    enriched and enhanced when it allows the personalities involved to
    grow. In the Buddhist perspective, marriage means understanding and
    respecting each other's beliefs and privacy. The present time is most
    opportune for a book of this nature to be published to provide the
    followers of the Buddhist religion, in particular the young, with a
    clear understanding of life's important matters like love, sex and
    marriage which will not only help them to live a happy married life
    but also assist them to lead peaceful and contented lives.

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    Let's first discuss the evils of married life.....
    As per ur wish lets discuss it...but u got to support ur statement with reasons...okva?

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    To add to wat arumgam already wrote

    Keep God FIRST!

    Pray Together!

    Respect and honor each other!

    Encourage each other to grow together!

    Be swift to hear & slow to speak!

    Make time to communicate with each other!

    Protect and honor your marriage vows!

    Do not let others come between your marriage!

    Thank God everyday for your Mate & the Life you have together!

    Understand that "love" is a choice, not a feeling!(You must choose everyday to Love your mate)

    More to come

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    Pattam Poochi..

    Neenga doctoraa illa engineeraa illey Teacheraa?..

    Madhu said neenga oru samiyarnee. Is it true?

    Because I am getting soubt after seeing your above post...

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    6Face, this Secret 0, is that linked to the sub topics that you have mentioned? It looks like a generic post. And pattampooch said in one of her earlier posts that she is married. That rules out she is a samiyarini. But unmai yaaru sonna enna 6Face? We should take it.

    I have some strong views on success of marriage. For, there is no quantitative way of measuring the success of marriage. There are many strained marriages which from outside looks very successful. So, the parameters to measure the success needs to be defined first, before getting into the secrets. That should be the first topic.

    Cheers.
    Every dog has its day. Today is my day.

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    Kalyan aayitta apparam saamiyaarni aaga mudiyaathu/ aagak koodathu... , Kalyaana aayithaan kozanthai pethukanum... appadingara kalam ellam malai eerip pochuu anainaar. In what age you are living now? Grow up man..

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    Quote Originally Posted by shidinesh
    Let's first discuss the evils of married life.....
    Shidinesh why do u always say married life is not good and that every man should be on his own. Can u explain your statements with e.g. I feel really bad when u are against married life, coz I find married life is the best. Lets discuss about good points about married life instead of evil so u will feel much better after we all discuss. There is nothing wrong in married life dinesh, infact when u r alone u will need somebody. I want u too think positive about married life. okava.

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    dinesh if I said something wrong please forgive me. I just want to prove to u that married life is not bad but good.

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    arumugum I just wanted to know can we discuss the reality of married life before we discuss nature of love and pleasure.

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    Mink...

    First tell me one thing.. In olden days boys are good and girls are very good. So marriage is the only thing to solve their physical need.

    But now a days? Do you think girls are good? Mostly impossible. Instead of marrying a second hand , third hand girls why we should have some good girl friends and lead a happy life. I realy hate this married life.

    Will talk a lot after hearing your reply..

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    Minik.. Why are you asking permission with everyone.. You are free to talk.. Cheers..

    I think if you start all your colleqs like pattam poochi , Shy , muralipr , sivam , Minik , sofia every one will come together to help you. SAO YOU NEED NOT WORRY..

    Just start..

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    Although i am not married yet.. I go with arumugam and butterfly....
    Nan Dhan sakalakala Vallavan

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    Although i am not married yet.. I go with arumugam and butterfly....
    No No NO.......u got to put ur own input...

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