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    Quote Originally Posted by abe
    vasan... :D
    Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful;
    it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way;
    it is not irritable or resentful;
    it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right.
    Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.
    Love never ends.


    :P
    Completely agree with you, Abe.. (Or I should say I agree with Apostle Paul !! )

    My only desire is that when the tough time comes my love would not grow weary - and be crushed with the present sorrows... To love and to love strongly is what I was talking about..

    Thanks for the reminder anyways...
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    It is a wretched taste to be gratified with mediocrity when the excellent lies before us - Isaac Disraeli

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    Quote Originally Posted by sri_gan
    Relationship is one complex factor.

    Lets take two extreme pa.

    Person 1's happiness is crying nu vachippom.

    Person 2's happiness is being comedy in nature nu vachipom.

    Ivanga rendu perukkum kalyanam panni vacha please tell me the secrets of the Happy married life.

    It happens, I have seen some like this.

    Lets see how you guys handle this, Advise/ email chain info ellam vendam, think this as a situation and give Geetham a solution.

    This is a practical scenario, I will bring up more and add my thoughts also...
    The main point to be noted here is "BOTH OF THEM ARE HAPPY". Everyone agrees on this right?

    Ok, so when P1 is crying, P2 will make comedy. Whats the problem here.

    If P1 and P2 love each other and know each other very feel, by this I mean, they know what makes them grumpy, what makes them feel hurt etc. There will never be any issues at all.

    First time
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    (1) P1 cries due to happiness, P2 makes fun of it. P1 gets offended and P2 understands it. And make sure not to make fun of this character of P1. - Adjustment, Understanding.

    (2) P1 cries due to happiness, P2 makes fun of it. P1 gets offended, but thinks that its one of the character of P2 and its not purposeful. So accepts and respects it. - Adjustment, Understanding

    Life is great for P1 and P2, thereafter.

    Ethuku yaethuku advice, email chain... Simple Mutual Adjustment, Understanding eruntha, problem solved and they can move on with their life..

    Shy

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shy
    Quote Originally Posted by butterfly
    athai vitutu.. enga amma solraanga, she wants to see akid next year, i have to satisfy her wish, I am going to marry ur sister, or someother girlnu solraanga ellai.. thats bad.. divorce panraangalae stating that they cant bear child thats bad...
    Thats Y its very Imp not to let a third person come inbetween a husband & wife relationship...they can give their suggestion...but shud leave it for the couple to decide
    Butterfly,

    The situation I had told here is husband's mom asking his son to marry someone so that she can have agrandkid. So u are saying here the HIS MOM SHOULD BE TREATED AS A THIRD PERSON?..

    thats what I am saying, couples cant make their own decisions in situations like this. because too many factors play a part. U can do something not hurting everyone, by adopting or something.. but still... u know what will happen.. even thou couples are happy they have a kid, MIL(not all) will stil say its not my son's gene/blood.. and issues rise...

    Shy
    While it is important to understand and show affection to mothers and mothers in law - it does not mean I will have to blindly obey all their commands, meet their needs, or satisfy their whims. If I can't have a baby with my future wife, and if my mom says I should marry one more girl, I will definitely find a polite way to tell my mom to 'Shut Up'. There is a desire in her to see a grand kid - but what she suggests is wrong. And if I know what is right or wrong, I will have to decide on following what is right - rather than merely obey my mom (even though I love her like life itself...) Hey, for that matter, when an occasion arises, between my life and doing the right thing, I hope to have the courage to do the right thing with no regard for my life.... Not bravado, but really....

    Same thing goes for other evils - like dowry... If my mom insists, I will tell her a FLAT OUT NO! There are no second thoughts about these things.

    To me, where the adjustment issues come is in personality clash - the way my mom thinks and does, very rarely would another person do or think - and quite impossible to find a girl of this generation (if she is going to be my wife, she has to be right?!) to be in complete resonance with Mom... Both mom and wife will have to adjust - and hopefully, all you folks will help me understand how I could be a catalyst...

    Periyavanga ellam advice pannunga.... It may look as though we nitwits are not listening - but trust me... we do.. and we will remember (with a lot of gratitude) the advice and suggestions we heard...
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    It is a wretched taste to be gratified with mediocrity when the excellent lies before us - Isaac Disraeli

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    Quote Originally Posted by shy
    (1) P1 cries due to happiness, P2 makes fun of it. P1 gets offended and P2 understands it. And make sure not to make fun of this character of P1. - Adjustment, Understanding.

    (2) P1 cries due to happiness, P2 makes fun of it. P1 gets offended, but thinks that its one of the character of P2 and its not purposeful. So accepts and respects it. - Adjustment, Understanding

    Amma appdiye puttu puttu vaikirengalakkum. unga visheythule irrunthe varen...

    Let take sample:

    P1 is crier and P2 is a laugher and they are very early couple, not experienced like iyaanaar or shy or vennai, rendu perum rombe young, eppadi samalippanga below situationa.

    P1 and P2 are seperated miles apart. p2 tries to visit P1 nu vachippom, P1 kku ithanda chance nu alaranga...

    Inga p2 fun adichanganu vachippom, anga relationship eppadi thanga mudium.

    Explain pannunga paapom?

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    Sri.. .

    puttu puttu vaikeranoo.. ellai jilebi mathiri vaikeraenoo... post panninathai olunga patheengala...

    Athaan soli erunthaenae.. first time.

    P1 and P2 are together and they dont know much abt each other, very new.. ellam..etc etc... okvaa..

    Eppo read my 2 points again. Thats where they start to adjust and understand each other and try to accept each other as is. poothuma.. because they dont want these type of silly issues to strain their relationship..

    Shy

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    Quote Originally Posted by shy
    Eppo read my 2 points again. Thats where they start to adjust and understand each other and try to accept each other as is. poothuma.. because they dont want these type of silly issues to strain their relationship..
    Amma ennatha silly issues strain nu train ellam... rendu peroda orignial nature or originalitye ithan...

    Athai poi yarachu vittu kodupangala...

    Intha nai vaalu kelvi pattu irrukenga athai nimartha mudiyathu nu solluvanaga.. antha mari personality 'um marathu ethavathu oru roobathule veli kattirum...

    Athai eppadi handle pannuvanga....

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    Train'o bus'o...............

    I did not ask them to let go their original characters. I just ask them to understand and accept them as is.

    P1 and P2's original character is crying and comedying when happy.

    They can still and forever do that.

    But for a good relationship

    P1 should understand that P2 is laughing because its his/her character and not purposefully

    P2 should understand that P1 is crying because its his/her character and not that they are dull or something.

    First understand panni naalae poothum, thaanaevae adjustment varum... athai thaan soli erunthaen..

    As usual neenga twist panni kaeka pooreenga.. will wait for ur next set of questions

    Dog tail pathi ellam enga yaethukku.. we arent going to make someone let go their character here.. So no dog, cat tails..

    Shy

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    Quote Originally Posted by shy
    As usual neenga twist panni kaeka pooreenga.. will wait for ur next set of questions
    Intha Iyanaar thirumba vaaratum appuram irruku avarukku.

    Next set of questions:


    The purpose I asked the situation is not to obtain a generic answer rather an practical thought.

    P1 and P2 must understand enbathu common word, what I'm trying to find is, how they can understand?.

    1 extreme comedy 1 extreme tragedy.

    Ithu rendum equal propotion na kuda paravala, rendum rendu extreme, think how they can understand each other.

    Chinna thule irrunthu sad irrukanvangalukku eppadu comedy oda nature puriyum?

    Chinna thule irrunthu happya irrukanvangalukku eppadu sadoda nature puriyum?

    How is it possible?

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    6mugam thalaiva,
    Marriage is a learning experience and there is no clearly understood formula for that. Everyday it evolves and most of the time the experience is different & unique. One method followed for a situation doesn't work for other.
    I don't know how to put it, but as your married life time increases you get more and more experienced. As you create a clearly a warm and cool relationship with your partner life goes smooth.
    It is not always 100% matching - in fact it should not be, then there is something totally wrong.
    Another point I woul;d say is trust. As soon as you start seeing slightest doubt - the relation get's rough water.
    I will try to provide more input on other points you listed later.

    -K

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    Vaisu pathathu intha topic pathee solllaaaaaa.
    With the little experience:
    1. I could say Give and take.
    2. Give up your ego
    3. Share & Discuss your thoughts
    4. Any decision should be consulted.

    There are lot to go. The Simplicity is just GIVE UP. You may think we are loosing everything that's the ego part, there is nothing to loose or gain. For a happy married life u should be ready for any sacrifice because No MAN is PERFECT.

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    Thsts good horizon.. vayasu ennanga... silla vishyam relates with our character at any point of time right

    Shy

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    Raja & horizon,
    nice to see ur posts...this is just speculation...& ofcourse discussion...so feel free to share ur points

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    Hey pattu,
    There is nothing serious or any formal discussion whatever I mentioned there strictly was followed and still following. Everybody have there own views, depends upon there attitude and character.
    Sari nalla vazhanamnaaaaa niraya vituvidanam saruuuuuuu
    “What the caterpillar calls the end, the rest of the world calls a butterfly.” – Lao-tzu
    Do the impossible, possible.

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    Hi everybody,

    Its good to discuss about married life... somehow we will know our mistakes and also learn from others views.

    My views on Happy married life ...

    1. Vittukoduthal
    2. Nambikai
    3. Anbu seluthuthal
    4. Akkarai kattuthal..

    Avlothan... Happy married life.. guys & girls.. :D

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    Hey pattu,
    There is nothing serious or any formal discussion whatever I mentioned there strictly was followed and still following. Everybody have there own views, depends upon there attitude and character.
    Sari nalla vazhanamnaaaaa niraya vituvidanam saruuuuuuu
    Very true Horizon...neraya vittukodukanum...anitam 4 points nalla solli irukango...Forgiving is another major part...coz we are all human ...
    3. Share & Discuss your thoughts
    Communication evalavu importantnu inge solli irukeengo...there is nothing one can solve with out discussing...so even if its small thing its imp to share & discuss...coz wat is not imp for one may be imp for another

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